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Yes, it's over now. But you will feel much better if you end it yourself. And it will dramatically increase your chances to take her back as a FB if you wish. Just break up with her.

Break up with her first. This is your only hope. Don't let her just fade, arrange a meeting and tell her off. Calmly say that this does not work for YOU, wish her well and leave. Then, if she tries to contact, be polite but indifferent. Let her chase you.

@Tiguere i won't plan to contact her. if she does, i will not answer straight away and i will be polite and indifferent. i don't want to come across as spiteful.

Ultra short relationship with her, about 3 and a half months. Very- very enthusiastic in the beginning, caring, loving etc. I saw some red flags. Her hiding her phone, not being so affectionnate etc. One night i used her pc. She had forgotten to log out of gmail and the tab was open. So, yes...

Look, you 've got to be a bit preselected (having other girls interested in you) if you want to attract her. So go out and hit other women, date them etc. She will catch on it and maybe she will see you in a different light. If you were a high status male with women interested in you, the...

@scrouds: When you spin plates, eventually one of them will fall through the cracks. If you handle the situation well, it will come around (maybe). It's all a game. Also, are YOU so fragile that you can't read the blog of a girl that you've banged but you don't bang anymore? Come on...

@window: Well, it might be the case. Or it might be a huge power move of hers to take control of the situation (and frame). When i responded, i took it as a compromise of her desire and as such i felt disrespected. So, i called it quits. @scrouds: I am not invested on this girl, I assure you...

**UPDATE** Well, she started trying to get my attention, through her blog page. Posting songs that we used to listen when at my place and stuff like that. I won't bite. If she makes a more concrete move, i will think about it.

any other opinions?

Cool, i like to know i acted the best i could. Another question. What to do if she contacts me again? I sense that her bruised ego will make her do it. Do i stay complete nc or do i play it indifferent but friendly?

I still wonder, is it because she lost attraction for me or is it just the distance itself? Also, did i act right saying to end the whole thing. I did it because i sensed that she was not so interested anymore, so i bailed out first.

Well, we didn't even talk about having a relationship though. Guess this is what she felt that the thing was. Anyway, i think that handled all this the right way, maintaining my respect and self control. Thanks guys.

We both did. 60% me, 40% she, i guess

To cut the long story short, she is a hb 8.5, 11 years younger than me. She is living about 380 miles away. We saw each other every weekend, for about 2 1/2 months. Initially very attracted to me, then she started to fade away. The whole time i didn't try to smother her with text messages...

Some details. She was a bit nervous the first 10-15 minutes or so. I took the chance and i tried to diffuse the situation with: "I see that you are nervous. Don't worry, i WILL take you to my place this time. This is why we met, after all. Isn't it?". She agreed and she became more relaxed...

update She visited finally. Went for some drinks, had her at my place in a couple of hours. Good sex. Tried to have a "where are we heading" talk. I responded with a "anywhere that your bf is not present. i prefer just you". She laughed. We had some good talks. She is gonna leave in a couple of...

ok, well i decided to not inititiate any other contact and see if she tries to chase a bit more. hope she's not a cluster b nutcase.

well, she surely knows how to play the game. i'm not sure about cluster b though. hope this is not the case. i don't have problem with women who know how to play the game. They're a challenge. But a cluster b, is another totally dangerous story.

Well, d!ckmojo, at first that's how i interpreted her flake at the next date. I mean, she knew that she would have to give sex after the heavy kissing and touching the first night. Anyway, she IS the kind of woman that you could have oneitis with. She is good at head games (very intelligent)...

On the other hand, she has already told me that she will come and she expects to see me. Don't you think that i will have another chance?