"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The one thing that makes a man understand if a woman is attracted to him

tesla8520

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This is a serious post.
I know that you guys will say things like conformity, respect/admiration, willing to jump on sex, invite him to do sex.
But, beside all of that, there is a "passive" sign too.

From my own experience, one key thing, is when she is looking at you in your eyes, her pupils get dilated.
If her pupils are not get dilated, then you're being used.
Yes, you may get sex, you may get a relationship, but this is just my mileage.

If a woman is genuinely in need of a man presence, her pupils will get dilated when looking him in his eyes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've never especially noticed the pupils thing, but yes, it's definitely all in the eyes. She just looks at you a certain way. Many of my pulls were because a girl would give me that 'look' before i'd even spoken to her, so I knew to approach her and that my odds would be very very good
 

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I was never able to discern the truth of that pupil phenomenon. I think I’ve seen both dilated and contracted in women who were attracted to me. However as @characternote says, it’s still all in the eyes. They tell you everything.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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@tesla8520 "If a woman is genuinely in need of a man presence, her pupils will get dilated when looking him in his eyes"

That, or she

-Received stilleto in her back and through her heart, by a modern day descendant of The Hashishans

-Returned home from that backpacking trip in rural Guatemala with intestines overpopulated with tapeworms, one of which is now slithering out the backdoor, and down her leg

-Is 3 decades older than her appearance indicates, is now having a massive coronary
 

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If she has her hands tight round your throat,its a good sign she`s very angry at you
 

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You don't need to look that much in detail to see pupils. You just get "the look". PUAs used to call it the "doggy dinner bowl" look.

Aside from this, they might get touchy or giggly.
 

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Her pupil can get dilated from smoking vape, or looking at bright light and then at dark. Real sign is compliance.


You don't need to look that much in detail to see pupils. You just get "the look". PUAs used to call it the "doggy dinner bowl" look.
That's another thing. People can tell things without ever muttering a single word. It's not just this look, and also anything out of ordinary women usually do. It communicates certain things.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tesla8520

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I simply put my finger between her thighs. If she's moist, she's attracted. If she hits me, I should have left earlier. ;-)
I was with a BPD and she always had that moist
PUAs used to call it the "doggy dinner bowl" look.
Ok, I separate the two things.
This is the look you get when she want sex.
Then, there is the look she give to you when you both talk.
But yes.
Those are good example but I think you guys have better ones
 
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