"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dis is me with an AI comic book filter on a selfie pic
I have pretty good bone structure and ratios
(The filter is making me more handsome btw and removes the wrinkles and crows feet )

But I’m on the short side at 5’10” and slim framed/small shoulders.
Got a bit of a Dad Bod these days in my 40s.

 

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Dis is me with an AI comic book filter on a selfie pic
I have pretty good bone structure and ratios
(The filter is making me more handsome btw and removes the wrinkles and crows feet )

But I’m on the short side at 5’10” and slim framed/small shoulders.
Got a bit of a Dad Bod these days in my 40s.

Why not clean shaven? It'd take ten years off you.
 

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Why not clean shaven? It'd take ten years off you.
nah, a beard makes my jaw look bigger and squarer.
Plus I have a bit of turkey neck going on now as I age. I dye my beard tho, looks alright..

“maybe he’s born with it? Maybe it’s Just For Men…” ;):p
 

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nah, a beard makes my jaw look bigger and squarer.
Plus I have a bit of turkey neck going on now as I age. I dye my beard tho, looks alright..

“maybe he’s born with it? Maybe it’s Just For Men…” ;):p
I've got the grey in the beard too, around the chin, so I clean shave (fresh Mach3 blade every time) every four days. Grey is only really slightly visible on the fourth day in the right light.

Shaving is good for exfoliating the skin too..although too often and it's red bumps.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is my example of my sexualised texting.
I’m quite happy with this spin on her hinge relationship prompt of “working on my relationship goals”:D

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If she buys into that (which some do v much) then I just escalate w worlds and try turn her on more and more .

this can work pretty well ..and turn into a big romance novel/ fvck book role play.
Occasionally some women get mad aroused :devil: and will be down to come to my place and make the fantasy happen. :cool:

kinda a speed seduction approach w lots of descriptive sensual lingo. It can take a while tho and a bit time consuming.
 
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This is my example of my sexualised texting.
I’m quite happy with this spin on her hinge relationship prompt of “working on my relationship goals”:D

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If she buys into that (which some do v much) then I just escalate w worlds and try turn her on more and more .

this can work pretty well ..and turn into a big romance novel/ fvck book role play.
Occasionally some women get mad aroused :devil: and will be down to come to my place and make the fantasy happen. :cool:

kinda a speed seduction approach w lots of descriptive sensual lingo. It can take a while tho and a bit time consuming.
Don't forget your next line - "the lotion goes in the basket"
 

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@Cheeky_James , If this is working for you, even if it's 1 out of every 10 women, then stick to it.

It's just the old shotgun theory but taken to the next level with today's app-driven dating market. We used to do this with Myspace and Bebo years back. Just remember, it can become tiresome with all the interactions that go nowhere. But if you're in a large enough city, it shouldn't matter.

These days I rely more on my social status and retired sporting status. I do have a Lagoon 410 in my App profiles and on Facebook, which gets me plenty of women wanting to look cool on a boat !!!

p.s Maybe I'm getting old but what is geomaxxing ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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@Cheeky_James , If this is working for you, even if it's 1 out of every 10 women, then stick to it.

It's just the old shotgun theory but taken to the next level with today's app-driven dating market. We used to do this with Myspace and Bebo years back. Just remember, it can become tiresome with all the interactions that go nowhere. But if you're in a large enough city, it shouldn't matter.

These days I rely more on my social status and retired sporting status. I do have a Lagoon 410 in my App profiles and on Facebook, which gets me plenty of women wanting to look cool on a boat !!!

p.s Maybe I'm getting old but what is geomaxxing ?
What is the shotgun theory?
geomaxxing is moving to another country to increase your chances with women.
Nice job on the boat :up::up: that sh1t works for sure :cool:
 

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I do wonder about this Chadfishing /catfishing stuff

Like, if I tried dis strategy

(a) I catfished w my app profile, (to a degree but not completely )
Ie making myself a bit more handsome +buffer body in my pics, maybe added a tattoo or 2 (with software) and also stated I was 6 foot + tall..
So an 8-9/10 guy.

and then upon matching

(b) ran great sexualised flirting game/ sexual role
Play game to get the chick REALLY mentally and physically aroused…’dripping wet ‘ shall we say :devil:

Then if I got her over to my place … and then she opens the door and meets the real CJ…(the 7/10 CJ)

What are the odds she’ll still proceed to fvck me???

I mean she already made the mental effort and the physical effort to get there right? , and is super wet n horny..and has sexual fantasies playing in her head…she’s revving and good to go…

I reckon a good chance ?!

(Note to self : Must try this experiment :D:p)
 
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I do wonder about this Chadfishing /catfishing stuff

Like, if I tried dis strategy

(a) I catfished w my app profile, (to a degree but not completely )
Ie making myself a bit more handsome +buffer body in my pics, maybe added a tattoo or 2 (with software) and also stated I was 6 foot + tall..
So an 8-9/10 guy.

and then upon matching

(b) ran great sexualised flirting game/ sexual role
Play game to get the chick REALLY mentally and physically aroused…’dripping wet ‘ shall we say :devil:

Then if I got her over to my place … and then she opens the door and meets the real CJ…(the 7/10 CJ)

What are the odds she’ll still proceed to fvck me???

I mean she already made the mental effort and the physical effort to get there right? , and is super wet n horny..and has sexual fantasies playing in her head…she’s revving and good to go…

I reckon a good chance ?!

(Note to self : Must try this experiment :D:p)
Do you not think all this manipulation has been tried before, and this is what's leading to overall crapness of the apps due to lack of trust?

It's all been gamed already. AI text responses being used now as well.

You need to be everythingmaxxing rather than resorting to these tricks.
 

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Do you not think all this manipulation has been tried before, and this is what's leading to overall crapness of the apps due to lack of trust?

It's all been gamed already. AI text responses being used now as well.

You need to be everythingmaxxing rather than resorting to these tricks.
what is the AI stuff ? Men are using AI generated gamey text messages ?

well. There is some scope for it to work I think.
I pretty much do it currently albeit only slightly, on much a lower level. (I knock a few years off my age and use filtered pics)

Re the trust thing- tbh mate the % of relationships happening from apps is a much smaller slice of the pie.
And if the girls are looking for that , I’ll fail at step (b) tryna get sexual Yknow?

everythingmaxxing is valid strategy sure .
But even hard gym maxxing gains a guy about 0.5 of a point.

As the BP guys say “ there is no gym for face and height”. Which is true. Brutal but true :cry:

I’m mainly looking for hookups and ongoing casual/ FwB situations.. not traditional dating leading to relationships/life partners..
 

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what is the AI stuff ? Men are using AI generated gamey text messages ?

well. There is some scope for it to work I think.
I pretty much do it currently albeit only slightly, on much a lower level. (I knock a few years off my age and use filtered pics)

Re the trust thing- tbh mate the % of relationships happening from apps is a much smaller slice of the pie.
And if the girls are looking for that , I’ll fail at step (b) tryna get sexual Yknow?

everythingmaxxing is valid strategy sure .
But even hard gym maxxing gains a guy about 0.5 of a point.

As the BP guys say “ there is no gym for face and height”. Which is true. Brutal but true :cry:

I’m mainly looking for hookups and ongoing casual/ FwB situations.. not traditional dating leading to relationships/life partners..
Two things...

I worry if you're playing these deliberate "falsifying" games it'll ultimately be your own mind that is played with over time.

And "gym" isn't just about the packing on muscle, but getting naturally down to 12% body fat or so. No huge steroid head/gut/acne...just lean and healthy... this will definitely improve your face.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Best strategy is to have a couple of funny exchanges then invite her to grab a drink in a neutral place then you sexualize things face to face rather than through texts

sexualizing too early might yield results from time to time but mainly from girls you do not really want to actually meet. To me is a really bad strategy

The chance of at least a decent looking girl getting horny through some texts on a app are extremely slim, so you will just loose a lot of opportunities out of laziness / fixation

text game should be only used for logistics and lighting up the mood early on, anything else becomes more and more uncalibrated
well this is the other strategy.
I had 2 dates this way this week.
1 date in the city , 2 hours long + 1 hour driving and $70+ spent on 2 rounds of drinks and parking.
2 days later she gave me the “dear John “ text of “not feeling a romantic connection” (whatevs)

2nd date closer but only 1 hour as she had double booked and had to go to her “friends for dinner” (possibly true who knows) $25 spent on a round of drinks. 50/50 chance of follow up. She’s actively dating etc

in Q1 this year I did about 20+ dates and prob sunk $1,000 + dollars (could be more tbh) plus all the time on dates and travel etc.

Can’t say for sure how many I converted to lays from this strategy as I mixed in Netflix and chill dates during this time. Maybe ..6 out of 20+ can’t even be sure if that number tbh.

so it gets expensive this strategy. And if all I want is hookups and casual /FWB…. Idk

gotta weigh it all up

sitting on my arse at home being Mr Romance Novel might be a better option for the effort -reward ratio. If I can optimise screening and script up the game Yknow?

there is just so many fcking variables in dating ! :mad:
 
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Two things...

I worry if you're playing these deliberate "falsifying" games it'll ultimately be your own mind that is played with over time.

And "gym" isn't just about the packing on muscle, but getting naturally down to 12% body fat or so. No huge steroid head/gut/acne...just lean and healthy... this will definitely improve your face.
check out this video analysis .


I’m reasonably fit btw. I walk a lot, swim a lot and used to do hot yoga but that’s lapsed. I need to get back to the yoga. And some other classes too possibly kickboxing etc

but for me to change my physique , like noticeably..it’s gonna be bulking up and getting a V taper w bigger shoulders chest and biceps .
I need wider shoulders especially.

That be hard graft for at least a year of bodybuilding basically.

But even then dude , I am capped out at 5’10” tall + 7 face vs the average Aussie bloke who are a fair bit Taller PLUS Ripped .(as aussies seem to start lifting at 10 years old or something idk lol)

Just saying, there is real caps and limits.
It won’t do much for my face actually.
 

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Well, you will always have a chance to be hit with the line “ I did not feel the chemistry “

the main reason for that happening is that she actually she is not opened to meeting new people but likes the attention she gets. It might be the reason that she actually is split between wanting to meet new people but she is equally afraid of what that means, or there is another guy that she is emotionally invested in, etc. Or you just f8cked it up

if you play the hand that you are dealt as best as possible, playing the long game you will get plenty of solid opportunities

1-2k per quarter spent on dates, is not that much money
re the ch1ck - I feel it was probably height. And definitely money. She was very well dressed and had high disposable income , loves to travel and is a good lifer. It could have been “game” but … nah idk. It went 2 hours. Maybe she caught the vibe things didn’t stack up w me or something. Prob could tell I don’t have her level of cash.


I think it was more $$$ outlay than $1Ktbh, closer to $2k even yeah idk. and a hella lot of time. One chick cost me $400-$500 I remember . I almost fvcked her in the back of her car on date 2 , (we got busted) after that she stringed me along for more fancy dates and changed her tune re the sex. I ditched her after date 4 or 5 she wasn’t worth it. She started playing me yo!

$1k-$2k is a lot dude .. for me anyway.
If the % play is low in the numbers.
 
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if the girl stayed with you for 2h most likely the issue was that the opportunity window was opened but you did not seized the chance to push things forward

Same thing with the other girl, she gave you the opportunity for things to happen then you were unlucky and the opportunity window has closed mainly because she started thinking that most likely you think she is a sl8t for wanting to sleep with you for the first time on the backseat of your car and then tried to work on the appearance by dragging you on
Nah I did try escalate w that 2h chick but she closed her body language. It was something else . Just low physical attraction I’d say simply.
I was kicking myself a bit Friday when I got the Dear John message. I ought to have gone -all out full Sleazy mode that nite haha.

other girl yah possibly . She had remorse cos she was tipsy that night, no doubt.

if it’s after 3 dates and no play I cut them . That’s game playing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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