"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Here are my matches on Tinder, I can easily get a 100 plus women wanting to date me there in South East Asia. But when I got here in America I barely got three matches, pretty low numbers if you ask me lol. Oh well, I’m spending the next couple of Holidays out here and I intend to spend it with my homies and buddies at a cigar pub getting a few drinks on….or I can enjoy being shot down by cute Latina women at the mall? Which seems more enjoyable to you? I’ll take the former lol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I don't understand why you even bother when nothing is going to happen in the bedroom.

Why are you looking on Tinder for women who want to fvck when you aren't going to?

I mean it would be like going to a hardware store to try and go grocery shopping. It makes absolutely no sense.

You claim you are looking for one thing but then you continue to pursue avenues that don't have any of what you are looking for.

Can you explain how any of this makes sense? I'm sure I am not the only one on this forum who is thinking this.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
Aren't they all catholic down there? The "christian" ones on Tinder could be spurned alpha-widows using their religiousity to play hard to get.

There's always sarging the Riverwalk with a fistful of churros too.
 

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Here are my matches on Tinder, I can easily get a 100 plus women wanting to date me there in South East Asia. But when I got here in America I barely got three matches, pretty low numbers if you ask me lol. Oh well, I’m spending the next couple of Holidays out here and I intend to spend it with my homies and buddies at a cigar pub getting a few drinks on….or I can enjoy being shot down by cute Latina women at the mall? Which seems more enjoyable to you? I’ll take the former lol.
I've considered, since the last Millennium, the USA as basically being without dateable women.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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10 bucks says Bianca has a resting b1tch face.
 

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Here are my matches on Tinder, I can easily get a 100 plus women wanting to date me there in South East Asia. But when I got here in America I barely got three matches, pretty low numbers if you ask me lol. Oh well, I’m spending the next couple of Holidays out here and I intend to spend it with my homies and buddies at a cigar pub getting a few drinks on….or I can enjoy being shot down by cute Latina women at the mall? Which seems more enjoyable to you? I’ll take the former lol.
nice job , like the photo :up:
Just as long as you know those SEA girls are the best gamers of men in the world bro! but enjoy it while you’re there.
I love Asian women, so hot.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
Keep believing that.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
isnt screwing part of the relationship?
Thats allowed under the Christian faith also right ?
last part I agree with, it’s not the worst idea to have female friends actually.
 

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isnt screwing part of the relationship?
Thats allowed under the Christian faith also right ?
last part I agree with, it’s not the worst idea to have female friends actually.
Lol...I'm currently in South Texas Rio Grande Valley spending time with family and will be here til after New Years of next year. I suck at 'gaming' women while out here since most of the females on dating apps won't bite....I'd have to rely on cold approach or social circle bonding just to get some dates going. In the mean time looking forward to just enjoying myself while out here despite women's approval and just get a brew with a couple of my buds.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Welcome back (in)to reality!

In the Phils you are special; US money, US money,US money and did I mention US MONEY??

Here you are average or even below average.

I told you to dangle your cash in front of women in SEA and get some freaky nasty sex from them. Oh well...
 

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Welcome back (in)to reality!

In the Phils you are special; US money, US money,US money and did I mention US MONEY??

Here you are average or even below average.

I told you to dangle your cash in front of women in SEA and get some freaky nasty sex from them. Oh well...
lol…already I’m getting some attitude from some whale fat fvcks Latina women on my Tinder out here….the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze, why date a fatty here when you can get cute and slim Asian women when I come back lol. I’ll just be lounging at the pub watching The Dallas Cowboys game with my brothers while I’m out here lol.
 

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lol…already I’m getting some attitude from some whale fat fvcks Latina women on my Tinder out here….the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze, why date a fatty here when you can get cute and slim Asian women when I come back lol. I’ll just be lounging at the pub watching The Dallas Cowboys game with my brothers while I’m out here lol.
I wholeheartedly agree with you...

The difference gotta be staggering. But yeah, this is what 99% of us have to deal with...
 

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lol…already I’m getting some attitude from some whale fat fvcks Latina women on my Tinder out here….the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze, why date a fatty here when you can get cute and slim Asian women when I come back lol. I’ll just be lounging at the pub watching The Dallas Cowboys game with my brothers while I’m out here lol.
And drinking lots of beers since the Cowboys are pretty depressing to watch :lol:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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