"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Here are my matches on Tinder, I can easily get a 100 plus women wanting to date me there in South East Asia. But when I got here in America I barely got three matches, pretty low numbers if you ask me lol. Oh well, I’m spending the next couple of Holidays out here and I intend to spend it with my homies and buddies at a cigar pub getting a few drinks on….or I can enjoy being shot down by cute Latina women at the mall? Which seems more enjoyable to you? I’ll take the former lol.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't understand why you even bother when nothing is going to happen in the bedroom.

Why are you looking on Tinder for women who want to fvck when you aren't going to?

I mean it would be like going to a hardware store to try and go grocery shopping. It makes absolutely no sense.

You claim you are looking for one thing but then you continue to pursue avenues that don't have any of what you are looking for.

Can you explain how any of this makes sense? I'm sure I am not the only one on this forum who is thinking this.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
Aren't they all catholic down there? The "christian" ones on Tinder could be spurned alpha-widows using their religiousity to play hard to get.

There's always sarging the Riverwalk with a fistful of churros too.
 

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Here are my matches on Tinder, I can easily get a 100 plus women wanting to date me there in South East Asia. But when I got here in America I barely got three matches, pretty low numbers if you ask me lol. Oh well, I’m spending the next couple of Holidays out here and I intend to spend it with my homies and buddies at a cigar pub getting a few drinks on….or I can enjoy being shot down by cute Latina women at the mall? Which seems more enjoyable to you? I’ll take the former lol.
I've considered, since the last Millennium, the USA as basically being without dateable women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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10 bucks says Bianca has a resting b1tch face.
 

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Here are my matches on Tinder, I can easily get a 100 plus women wanting to date me there in South East Asia. But when I got here in America I barely got three matches, pretty low numbers if you ask me lol. Oh well, I’m spending the next couple of Holidays out here and I intend to spend it with my homies and buddies at a cigar pub getting a few drinks on….or I can enjoy being shot down by cute Latina women at the mall? Which seems more enjoyable to you? I’ll take the former lol.
nice job , like the photo :up:
Just as long as you know those SEA girls are the best gamers of men in the world bro! but enjoy it while you’re there.
I love Asian women, so hot.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
Keep believing that.
 

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Not all women there just wants to screw. Some are after relationships and some of those women happens to be Christian, those are the women I’m after…..Plus it doesn’t hurt just to go out and make some platonic female friends, who knows…maybe they’ll introduce you to their friends.
isnt screwing part of the relationship?
Thats allowed under the Christian faith also right ?
last part I agree with, it’s not the worst idea to have female friends actually.
 

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isnt screwing part of the relationship?
Thats allowed under the Christian faith also right ?
last part I agree with, it’s not the worst idea to have female friends actually.
Lol...I'm currently in South Texas Rio Grande Valley spending time with family and will be here til after New Years of next year. I suck at 'gaming' women while out here since most of the females on dating apps won't bite....I'd have to rely on cold approach or social circle bonding just to get some dates going. In the mean time looking forward to just enjoying myself while out here despite women's approval and just get a brew with a couple of my buds.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Welcome back (in)to reality!

In the Phils you are special; US money, US money,US money and did I mention US MONEY??

Here you are average or even below average.

I told you to dangle your cash in front of women in SEA and get some freaky nasty sex from them. Oh well...
 

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Welcome back (in)to reality!

In the Phils you are special; US money, US money,US money and did I mention US MONEY??

Here you are average or even below average.

I told you to dangle your cash in front of women in SEA and get some freaky nasty sex from them. Oh well...
lol…already I’m getting some attitude from some whale fat fvcks Latina women on my Tinder out here….the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze, why date a fatty here when you can get cute and slim Asian women when I come back lol. I’ll just be lounging at the pub watching The Dallas Cowboys game with my brothers while I’m out here lol.
 

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lol…already I’m getting some attitude from some whale fat fvcks Latina women on my Tinder out here….the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze, why date a fatty here when you can get cute and slim Asian women when I come back lol. I’ll just be lounging at the pub watching The Dallas Cowboys game with my brothers while I’m out here lol.
I wholeheartedly agree with you...

The difference gotta be staggering. But yeah, this is what 99% of us have to deal with...
 

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lol…already I’m getting some attitude from some whale fat fvcks Latina women on my Tinder out here….the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze, why date a fatty here when you can get cute and slim Asian women when I come back lol. I’ll just be lounging at the pub watching The Dallas Cowboys game with my brothers while I’m out here lol.
And drinking lots of beers since the Cowboys are pretty depressing to watch :lol:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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