"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Totally agree sounds like OP is looking for girls who are dtf, so some things I would vet for

-Is she flirty or receptive to flirting i.e. innuendo etc
-Is she sending you pics, preferably unsolicited i.e. I was talking to a girl I met on the apps she sent me a high-quality picture of her naked at her dask with glasses giving the whole sexy secretary look
-Is she bringing up dirty convo's first etc

If you experince enough you can sometimes gauge these things of the flow of conversations how a girl says things or what she is saying. The key is not being pushy, though. When I was younger I use to talk my way into ***** just to talk my way out of it. If a girl is really DTF they make it easy for you but you gotta be good at flirting via text and picking up nunance, I don't waste my time with facetime.
we want to see the pic of the chick at her desk :p

I’m back on apps and literally just texted a bunch of chicks I’m chatting to with “Sooo ..horror movie and chill ..orrrr ?”
Out of boredom and self amusement to see what they will say.. It’s an interesting gear shift :)

I do experiments sometimes and open with things like
“ So.. what do you want to do to me ? :p“
The range of responses back can be very interesting :rofl:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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we want to see the pic of the chick at her desk :p

I’m back on apps and literally just texted a bunch of chicks I’m chatting to with “Sooo ..horror movie and chill ..orrrr ?”
Out of boredom and self amusement to see what they will say.. It’s an interesting gear shift :)

I do experiments sometimes and open with things like
“ So.. what do you want to do to me ? :p“
The range of responses back can be very interesting :rofl:
That's a good point about experimenting; you gotta try different stuff. You'd be surprised how boldness works on a woman espeically one that is attracted to you, it cuts the b.s. and sometimes you can get straight to the fun part

I use to be a collector of nudes of girls I smashed and didn't than i found it weird, so now if a situation ends with a girl I delete their pics...why remember someone who is most likely with someone else not thinking of you? I don't need trophies, i get it for some guys it is but im always trying to look forward and not back
 

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That's a good point about experimenting; you gotta try different stuff. You'd be surprised how boldness works on a woman espeically one that is attracted to you, it cuts the b.s. and sometimes you can get straight to the fun part

I use to be a collector of nudes of girls I smashed and didn't than i found it weird, so now if a situation ends with a girl I delete their pics...why remember someone who is most likely with someone else not thinking of you? I don't need trophies, i get it for some guys it is but im always trying to look forward and not back
100%
Being bold can work wonders.

oh man.. I have just watched some BP” Chadfish” experiment videos on YT…it’s brutal stuff.
How bold the “Chad” can be. And how compliant the women are. There is no mucking around at all.
Example opener;
Him- “your place or mine?”
Her -“ wow so forward lol”

Then it’s just her giving the barest of token resistance (if any) and its done deal, and just logistics.
 
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Being bold can work wonders.

oh man.. I have just watched some BP” Chadfish” experiment videos on YT…it’s brutal stuff.
How bold the “Chad” can be. And how compliant the women are. There is no mucking around at all.
Example opener;
Him- “your place or mine?”
Her -“ wow so forward lol”

Then it’s just her giving the barest of token resistance (if any) and its done deal, and just logistics.
Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
 

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Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
Hmmm. That’s interesting.
I have had that happen but it’s a rare exception (that I didn’t end up having sex with the girl)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Used to be the case with me till a point, but in the last 1/2 years I have noticed that things can go smooth and still have a high chance of things not happening

mainly because of female ego that pushes them to try to control the dynamic and you end up into a frame war, despite being warm + firm on you boundaries

if she gets under your skin, you loose because you are reactive. If you deflect + firm boundaries + being warm her ego thinks she is loosing the frame war despite her actually liking you

the type of situation where you can not win
uhhhh.. frame wars.. not good.
Don’t wanna be getting into those at the crib.
Yeah , you can’t be reactive for sure. Have to ignore, or reframe with humour , or some bullsh1t excuse for whatever is my agenda.

But how do they try control the dynamic when they get there???

for me I’m either bouncing from a date (bar maybe or whatevs) where I’ve broken the touch barrier w the chick and we’ve likely had the makeout.,, so she’s getting horny already etc. and I am pretty hands on w her

else we are being suggestive and sexual by text oh the app. And then it’s Netflix and chill proposal, or drinks at mine, or whatever proposal. so the situation is pretty clear what’s gonna happen idk.
 

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Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
Not long ago had a girl come over to mines who told me she was a former coke addict telling me swinger stories, we met the first day that we matched shoulda been my clue she was kuku.....She came to my place late at night, didn't smash was to paranoid it happens, as soon as she left blocked her and deleted her number
 
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