"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Physical Preferences

The Duke

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Long and healthy (brown) hair, dark eyes, soft lips, cute face, feminine softness also on the inside - that's my type.

My dealbreakers are: too tall, arrogant, too basic, too much makeup on, smokes, drinks coke, has unhealthy hair, or some bad pimples on her body, walks like a transformer, etc...

I wonder if the main preference of everyone is related to their first romantic/intimate experience... Such is my case.
Drinks coke? interesting, why so?

Kind of weird but my choice of women closely resembles my mom's look when she was in her prime.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko

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Kind of weird but my choice of women closely resembles my mom's look when she was in her prime.
It does sound weird, but I bet it's common, and that there are psychological reasons for it.

As for the Coke, I'm guessing it has to do with unhealthy habits. I try to keep it to a minimum, but I confess I like an occasional soda.
 

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Women will always have standards but break them all the time.

I'd wager 90% will marry a guy who broke at least 1 of her "must have" standards.

I'd also wager for vast majority of married women, it wasn't love at first sight with her husband.

So don't sweat it when women post their standards. Besides, when did we start taking women so literally?
 

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I'd wager 90% will marry a guy who broke at least 1 of her "must have" standards.
Well, that's because the men who meet their standards don't exist. Or they exist in such small numbers so as to be statistically insignificant. Guys do their compromising too.
 

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It does sound weird, but I bet it's common, and that there are psychological reasons for it.

As for the Coke, I'm guessing it has to do with unhealthy habits. I try to keep it to a minimum, but I confess I like an occasional soda.
I know why, the sugars from the coke break down in her mouth and leaves a nasty film. Bad breath, not something I would want to put my tongue either.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I feel like the women that have owned me the most had a nice ass, flat chested, and gave out a nerdy closeted lesbian vibe. I really never cared for big boobs.
 

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Drinks coke? interesting, why so?
I don't know. Maybe it has to do with my disdain for this rust-burning poison. And usually it affects their physical look in bad ways.
 
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Blondes, brunettes, or redheads I like them all I tend to prefer women with large boobs, but not too large. And being 10 pounds plus overweight for me is turn off. Intelligence and a good education is a plus. But not the b@ll busting career is the most important thing to her, i’ll pass. Having a good personality and being fun to be with is a must, and of course enjoys “playing” in bed.
 

We_ArE_VeNOM

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1. Titties: The bigger, the better.

2. Cute face: If she is cute enough, this can compensate for #1 if her chest is less than desirable.

3. Height: The taller, the better. She can be 7ft tall..I love a tall woman.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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