"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Physical Preferences

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Long and healthy (brown) hair, dark eyes, soft lips, cute face, feminine softness also on the inside - that's my type.

My dealbreakers are: too tall, arrogant, too basic, too much makeup on, smokes, drinks coke, has unhealthy hair, or some bad pimples on her body, walks like a transformer, etc...

I wonder if the main preference of everyone is related to their first romantic/intimate experience... Such is my case.
Drinks coke? interesting, why so?

Kind of weird but my choice of women closely resembles my mom's look when she was in her prime.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kind of weird but my choice of women closely resembles my mom's look when she was in her prime.
It does sound weird, but I bet it's common, and that there are psychological reasons for it.

As for the Coke, I'm guessing it has to do with unhealthy habits. I try to keep it to a minimum, but I confess I like an occasional soda.
 

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Women will always have standards but break them all the time.

I'd wager 90% will marry a guy who broke at least 1 of her "must have" standards.

I'd also wager for vast majority of married women, it wasn't love at first sight with her husband.

So don't sweat it when women post their standards. Besides, when did we start taking women so literally?
 

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I'd wager 90% will marry a guy who broke at least 1 of her "must have" standards.
Well, that's because the men who meet their standards don't exist. Or they exist in such small numbers so as to be statistically insignificant. Guys do their compromising too.
 

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It does sound weird, but I bet it's common, and that there are psychological reasons for it.

As for the Coke, I'm guessing it has to do with unhealthy habits. I try to keep it to a minimum, but I confess I like an occasional soda.
I know why, the sugars from the coke break down in her mouth and leaves a nasty film. Bad breath, not something I would want to put my tongue either.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I feel like the women that have owned me the most had a nice ass, flat chested, and gave out a nerdy closeted lesbian vibe. I really never cared for big boobs.
 

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Drinks coke? interesting, why so?
I don't know. Maybe it has to do with my disdain for this rust-burning poison. And usually it affects their physical look in bad ways.
 
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Blondes, brunettes, or redheads I like them all I tend to prefer women with large boobs, but not too large. And being 10 pounds plus overweight for me is turn off. Intelligence and a good education is a plus. But not the b@ll busting career is the most important thing to her, i’ll pass. Having a good personality and being fun to be with is a must, and of course enjoys “playing” in bed.
 

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1. Titties: The bigger, the better.

2. Cute face: If she is cute enough, this can compensate for #1 if her chest is less than desirable.

3. Height: The taller, the better. She can be 7ft tall..I love a tall woman.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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