"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Physical Preferences

The Duke

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Long and healthy (brown) hair, dark eyes, soft lips, cute face, feminine softness also on the inside - that's my type.

My dealbreakers are: too tall, arrogant, too basic, too much makeup on, smokes, drinks coke, has unhealthy hair, or some bad pimples on her body, walks like a transformer, etc...

I wonder if the main preference of everyone is related to their first romantic/intimate experience... Such is my case.
Drinks coke? interesting, why so?

Kind of weird but my choice of women closely resembles my mom's look when she was in her prime.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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zekko

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Kind of weird but my choice of women closely resembles my mom's look when she was in her prime.
It does sound weird, but I bet it's common, and that there are psychological reasons for it.

As for the Coke, I'm guessing it has to do with unhealthy habits. I try to keep it to a minimum, but I confess I like an occasional soda.
 

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Women will always have standards but break them all the time.

I'd wager 90% will marry a guy who broke at least 1 of her "must have" standards.

I'd also wager for vast majority of married women, it wasn't love at first sight with her husband.

So don't sweat it when women post their standards. Besides, when did we start taking women so literally?
 

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I'd wager 90% will marry a guy who broke at least 1 of her "must have" standards.
Well, that's because the men who meet their standards don't exist. Or they exist in such small numbers so as to be statistically insignificant. Guys do their compromising too.
 

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It does sound weird, but I bet it's common, and that there are psychological reasons for it.

As for the Coke, I'm guessing it has to do with unhealthy habits. I try to keep it to a minimum, but I confess I like an occasional soda.
I know why, the sugars from the coke break down in her mouth and leaves a nasty film. Bad breath, not something I would want to put my tongue either.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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CornbreadFed

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I feel like the women that have owned me the most had a nice ass, flat chested, and gave out a nerdy closeted lesbian vibe. I really never cared for big boobs.
 

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Drinks coke? interesting, why so?
I don't know. Maybe it has to do with my disdain for this rust-burning poison. And usually it affects their physical look in bad ways.
 
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Blondes, brunettes, or redheads I like them all I tend to prefer women with large boobs, but not too large. And being 10 pounds plus overweight for me is turn off. Intelligence and a good education is a plus. But not the b@ll busting career is the most important thing to her, i’ll pass. Having a good personality and being fun to be with is a must, and of course enjoys “playing” in bed.
 

We_ArE_VeNOM

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1. Titties: The bigger, the better.

2. Cute face: If she is cute enough, this can compensate for #1 if her chest is less than desirable.

3. Height: The taller, the better. She can be 7ft tall..I love a tall woman.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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