"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Any experience with dating a Widow?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not sure if you are asking about the general expression or how it relates to this thread in particular. I think the original expression was something along the lines of "Its over for Incels" and it became something of recurring inside joke to change the phrase slightly to whatever situation was being discussed. Example if height was being discussed someone would say "Its over for HeightCels"
 

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I've never been in this situation but I have a friend that was a straight up full blown man-wh0re that met a girl who lost a husband two years previous. He never held back and encountered no resistance.

As the others said, it shouldn't be a problem. Proceed like it was any other woman. They all get horny and want easy dihk when they haven't had any in a long time. Might as well be you that scratches that itch. Figure out the rest later.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I’m dating a girl whose husband died in 2025.

She still has pictures around her house of him. Not sure how he feels looking at me while she’s giving me a BJ on the couch. But I’m cool with it.

If a woman is really into you then all her previous boyfriends become irrelevant to her (dead or alive).
 

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I have a neighbor who moved into my neighborhood about 6 months ago and we have grown close the last few months. About a month ago she was over at my house and she told me that she had lost her husband about 10+ years ago. We are getting along great at this point, but I have no experience with this, Any useful advise would be appreciated.
As long as you feel confident that she had nothing to do with herself becoming a widow, I don't see why you would treat her differently from any other woman.
 

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As a widow I can relate to this from the other side. Personally, it’s only been 8 months for me and I’m not ready to jump back on the horse yet but know that I will. If you two are doing things then she past the initial grief and moving on. I will say that losing a partner is a lot different than a divorce, emotionally. You may have to deal with some of the “my late…” conversations at times but it’s not a comparison it’s just a window into their past life and feelings. We all carry that into relationships it’s just having a spouse pass away, carries a deeper wound. It’ll also give you some insight to her and what she may be feeling or wanting.
 

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I recently broke up with a woman who is a Widow. We dated for 2 years. Her late husband died 4 years before we met.
She was very sweat, loving and caring. We broke up because she wanted someone to to move in with her and fill in the dad role for her kid, and I need a lot of space. Otherwise just proceed as normal.
 

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I found a widow in my shoe one time getting ready for a run. Creepy af. Like women, they like shoes and they get into everything.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I dont think there's any real difference in dating a widow
 

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I dont think there's any real difference in dating a widow
So have you actually dated a widow? I think you might be correct. But just wondering because I have never dated a widow. This woman was extremely attached to her late husband.
 

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She is 54

Any useful advise would be appreciated.
Wrong forum.

Sosuave does not give advice on

- divorced women
- fat women
- single mothers
- ugly women
- women over 30

Sosuave only gives advice on hot women under 30. If she is hot and under 30 but smokes and / or has a small tattoo, we will accept that too, But anything else, you are on your own.
 

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Wrong forum.

Sosuave does not give advice on

- divorced women
- fat women
- single mothers
- ugly women
- women over 30

Sosuave only gives advice on hot women under 30. If she is hot and under 30 but smokes and / or has a small tattoo, we will accept that too, But anything else, you are on your own.
There are literally two pages of advice about this woman, so clearly people here are willing to give advice regardless of her age.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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There are literally two pages of advice about this woman, so clearly people here are willing to give advice regardless of her age.
That doesn’t mean the man has his life together.

If a man doesn’t know how to handle a woman who has Great Grandson, he’s got bigger problems in life,
 

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That doesn’t mean the man has his life together.

If a man doesn’t know how to handle a woman who has Great Grandson, he’s got bigger problems in life,
Nobody said it does. Your original argument was that this is the wrong forum because she is 54. My point is simply that if there are two pages of people giving advice about her then clearly the forum does give advice on women over 30.

Whether the man has his life together or not is a completely separate issue.
 

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Nobody said it does. Your original argument was that this is the wrong forum because she is 54. My point is simply that if there are two pages of people giving advice about her then clearly the forum does give advice on women over 30.

Whether the man has his life together or not is a completely separate issue.
Thank you Clockwerk50! You are correct. There have been many post on this forum that talk about women older than 30. As I recall B excellent is probably 56 or 57.
 

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That doesn’t mean the man has his life together.

If a man doesn’t know how to handle a woman who has Great Grandson, he’s got bigger problems in life,
What in the heck are you talking about bad boy. The woman that I know that is a widow.
yes she’s in her mid-50s but she has
never had kids. your post Sounds like you’re not on the correct post. Anyway you’re opinion is not important.
 
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