Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Rejected Before She Even Got to Know Me

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Got rejected just because my sign is Taurus.

Apparently, being stubborn, liking my comfort, and taking my sweet time making decisions was enough to disqualify me.

Honestly, I can’t even be too mad about it. If someone is going to judge me based on my zodiac sign before actually getting to know me, maybe I saved myself some trouble anyway.

Anyone else ever been judged or rejected because of their sign?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If a woman places any value whatsoever in astrology you should head in the opposite direction. When dating I was amazed how many profiles excluded certain people based on their zodiac sign and, even after meeting, a surprising number of women would look me dead in the eyes and talk about their (or my) sign as if it were an actual scientific thing that has real predictive value, which it does not.

So avoid weird ass women who think they can predict the future based on someone's birthday because thats bat shart crazy and you're better off not entangling yourself with them.
 

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Yes I have been judged, never rejected. I used zodiac signs as a discussion topic for online dating. It was a good spring board for getting to know each other. A lot of women like talking about it.

There are a few girls that would probably reject you based on a bad past experience with a certain zodiac sign, however most will reject you based on their interest level not being there. It's the safer excuse to use.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Have dated a couple of chicks who placed some value on zodiac signs. Needless to say they were an extra level of crazy.

That said, it is probably a safer bet that the zodiac sign was a super convenient way of telling you just wasn't interested in you in general. When you cold approach you need a thick skin. Women come up with all sorts of excuses or tricks to avoid having to actually downright say "I am not interested in you." They tend to not be confrontational and attempt to make soft rejections. This is a perfect example.
 

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Piggybacking off of @The Duke . Op, I’m not a zodiac expert but I know enough to continue a conversation with a woman. This is like sports to them to the point I haven’t met a single woman that didn’t have an interest point in zodiac. For the future, it doesn’t hurt to actually learn it instead of dismissing it as filth because it’s one of the biggest ice breakers with women. Also, I’m an Aries so literally most women are disgusted by my sign but I’m still able to fvck them hehe
 

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You dodged a bullet. But let me pick apart your mindset based on your original post alone.

You can be exactly what she thinks she doesn't want, but if you push her buttons correctly, you can bring that ***** home. Rejected because of [insert anything] just means you weren't attractive enough to her and/or not in the right frame. Also, trying to get a girl to get to know you is usually a bad strategy. The moment you try to open up, you will make her ***** dry. You can't take a woman to bed by reasoning with her or by trying to make her see things logically.
 

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OP, you had an awesome opportunity to playfully strike back with some positive Taurus qualities and negative crap about whatever her sign is. At that point, who cares.

Knowing women love astrology, with some of the younger ones I've dated, I've used astrology as a way to game them a bit:

ME: So what's your sign?
HER: Virgo
ME: (big sigh and shake my head) Damn, and I thought this was kind of going well too.
HER: What do you mean?
ME: Well, Virgos are known to be (fill in with some funny s*it) and most criminals are Virgos too.
HER: I'm not like that!
ME: Let's hope not. Now you know why I have Dobermans at home. Look at the women I date...
HER: Well what's your sign then?
ME: I'm a Leo. It's the best sign, really, because we're ruled by the sun. So basically, everything revolves around us, as it should (sly grin). Alight Virgo girl, let's hit another spot before the cops get here. Someone probably tipped them off.

Don't be a boring stooge and play with them on it. I've actually had fun with this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Piggybacking off of @The Duke . Op, I’m not a zodiac expert but I know enough to continue a conversation with a woman. This is like sports to them to the point I haven’t met a single woman that didn’t have an interest point in zodiac. For the future, it doesn’t hurt to actually learn it instead of dismissing it as filth because it’s one of the biggest ice breakers with women. Also, I’m an Aries so literally most women are disgusted by my sign but I’m still able to fvck them hehe
Aries are reputed to have BDE. If nothing else, it's a good talking point lmao
 

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ME: So what's your sign?
HER: Virgo
ME: (big sigh and shake my head) Damn, and I thought this was kind of going well too.
HER: What do you mean?
ME: Well, Virgos are known to be (fill in with some funny s*it) and most criminals are Virgos too.
HER: I'm not like that!
ME: Let's hope not. Now you know why I have Dobermans at home. Look at the women I date...
HER: Well what's your sign then?
ME: I'm a Leo. It's the best sign, really, because we're ruled by the sun. So basically, everything revolves around us, as it should (sly grin). Alight Virgo girl, let's hit another spot before the cops get here. Someone probably tipped them off.

Don't be a boring stooge and play with them on it. I've actually had fun with this.
Lol this is hilarious! :rofl: You should post this on any of the numerous cold approach threads running.

Especially what's in bold about Leos. As a woman, you would have had me laughing but I have a kinda warped sense of humor but I like this sort of c0cky funny approach.
 

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Who cares why they rejected you? Also, why would you believe the reason they tell you is the actual reason? Those often times are very different.
 

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Who cares why they rejected you? Also, why would you believe the reason they tell you is the actual reason? Those often times are very different.
Yeah, that’s fair. I probably shouldn’t overthink the reason too much. Sometimes people give you the polite version of why they walked away, and the real reason is something completely different. Either way, if the zodiac sign was actually the deciding factor, I guess there wasn’t much I could do about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP, you had an awesome opportunity to playfully strike back with some positive Taurus qualities and negative crap about whatever her sign is. At that point, who cares.

Knowing women love astrology, with some of the younger ones I've dated, I've used astrology as a way to game them a bit:

ME: So what's your sign?
HER: Virgo
ME: (big sigh and shake my head) Damn, and I thought this was kind of going well too.
HER: What do you mean?
ME: Well, Virgos are known to be (fill in with some funny s*it) and most criminals are Virgos too.
HER: I'm not like that!
ME: Let's hope not. Now you know why I have Dobermans at home. Look at the women I date...
HER: Well what's your sign then?
ME: I'm a Leo. It's the best sign, really, because we're ruled by the sun. So basically, everything revolves around us, as it should (sly grin). Alight Virgo girl, let's hit another spot before the cops get here. Someone probably tipped them off.

Don't be a boring stooge and play with them on it. I've actually had fun with this.
Okay, you know what, I actually like this. I was sitting there trying to defend Taurus like it was a court case when I could’ve just made up some completely unhinged Virgo facts and kept the whole thing fun-definitely stealing this strategy for next time.
 

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Got rejected just because my sign is Taurus.
That sounds like Bull. :)

I actually have an extraordinary combination of dark horological signs, and evidently evil palms (LOL), so I have considered leading with that - but I have a hunch that would just attract whack-hoes. :rolleyes:
 
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Okay, you know what, I actually like this. I was sitting there trying to defend Taurus like it was a court case when I could’ve just made up some completely unhinged Virgo facts and kept the whole thing fun-definitely stealing this strategy for next time.
It never starts for VirgoCels.
 

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Just study the best love matches in Zodiac.
If she asks your sign say “you first!”
“I’m x”
Then reply “omg! No way I’m < insert best match!> “
Her - “eeeeeeeee!” :love:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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