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Fashion for the 40s DJ

Cheeky_James

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I’ve realised recently that my wardrobe and image needs an overhaul.

what are some good looks for a dude in his mid 40s in 2026?

A quick google gives me … suits. Or dad wear.

Looking around I see dudes dressed like garden gnomes w orange beanies. big ass jeans , ironic 90s windcheater sweaters. and big bomber jackets .
Is that the vibe now...super-oversize and 90s(?)

who are the current trendsetters/brands/websites of the aging DJ fashion icons plz.


 
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I play football and work out a lot so constantly in a pair of shorts. Im a good looking man so walked into the bar about 6 weeks ago wearing my shorts and tracksuit top and a group of girls surrounded me as a soon as i got to the bar asking for my number.
 

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I’ve realised recently that my wardrobe and image needs an overhaul.

what are some good looks for a dude in his mid 40s in 2026?

A quick google gives me … suits. Or dad wear.

Looking around I see dudes dressed like garden gnomes w orange beanies. big ass jeans , ironic 90s windcheater sweaters. and big bomber jackets .
Is that the vibe now...super-oversize and 90s(?)

who are the current trendsetters/brands/websites of the aging DJ fashion icons plz.


There are certain classics that never go out of style. Think a pair of blue jeans with a white t-shirt. That combo looked good on James Dean in the 1950's and it still looks good today. Or a linen blazer with an Oxford shirt and chinos if you want to look more dressed up. Those are just two examples but you get the idea. The key is to get clothing that fits well and is made from quality materials.

Trying to keep up with the latest trends is pointless unless you are a celebrity or work in the fashion industry and it's important for you to be "on trend".
 
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Sorry this is off topic, but I saw some video where they talked about guys over 50 or 60 dressing classy. They said some fairly obvious things like no graphic tees, sneakers, or large brand names displayed. But what I found interesting was they said no shorts and no short sleeves. If it's hot, you roll up your sleeves to the elbow.

I'll admit it's an elegant look, but that would never work for me, I get too hot.
 

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Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Pictures would be better guys..! Yknow , with colours, fits, examples etc
but thanks for the input.

so it basically this ;
Shirts, chinos, blazer.
Or
White tee blue jeans

That’s kinda how I dress tbh. Less the blazer.
but .. it all seems so boring and conservative idk.
Is that all the choices now..?

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That’s kinda how I dress tbh. Less the blazer.
but .. it all seems so boring and conservative idk.
That pic in the dark brwn blazer does seem kind of dull.
Men will never have the style options that women do.
The most important thing is to be in shape, and your clothes will look better on you, especially fitted.

I hear polos are good too.

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It depends on country as well.

A lot of images of fashion for men in US just wouldn't pass in the UK.

We're much more casually dressed, and you have to work within that. Being fit always helps massively.
 

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for a man in his 40s, the closest i’ve seen out of all the images shared in this thread is the one with brad pitt in the white tee. you’ll want to wear a slim fit (be lean is first step) cropped shirt that hits right above the belt line (image below), paired with bootcut jeans and boots (color matching your belt). of course also throw in some accessories, and piercings.
 

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for a man in his 40s, the closest i’ve seen out of all the images shared in this thread is the one with brad pitt in the white tee. you’ll want to wear a slim fit (be lean is first step) cropped shirt that hits right above the belt line (image below), paired with bootcut jeans and boots (color matching your belt). of course also throw in some accessories, and piercings.
that’s a good one :up:
I’m studying ann old PUA book atm.
‘Brad P’s fashion bible’ - it’s a bit out of date with the pics and styles in it .. but has pretty solid advice and theory re good signals communicated by fashion :up::cool:
 

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contrast. what is missing in the environment; be that. in a room full of brad pitt, another one is not noticed but jay cutler is noticed. in a gym the guy that arrives in armani before changing gets noticed more than the fit dudes. if all in the venue have money, but they can not sing and dance....

what is missing; be that.
 

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Men will never have the style options that women do.
The most important thing is to be in shape, and your clothes will look better on you, especially fitted.
I disagree. Men have just as many options if not more, especially if we are talking about high quality clothing and not mainstream mall crap. Check out forums like Ask Andy About Clothes and Style Forum. There are literally hundreds of brands producing quality menswear.

For women, it’s a lot more binary. You either have
exorbitantly priced Italian and French high fashion or mass market drek like Zara and Alo, with not much in-between.

I also find that most women nowadays have really basic and terrible style. They wear stupid yoga outfits everywhere.
 

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I’ve realised recently that my wardrobe and image needs an overhaul.

what are some good looks for a dude in his mid 40s in 2026?

A quick google gives me … suits. Or dad wear.

Looking around I see dudes dressed like garden gnomes w orange beanies. big ass jeans , ironic 90s windcheater sweaters. and big bomber jackets .
Is that the vibe now...super-oversize and 90s(?)

who are the current trendsetters/brands/websites of the aging DJ fashion icons plz.


exactly right! oversize everything and 90s, the well-fitted only applies if you're going for the refined suit-type of vibe, otherwise it's better to be on the looser side.
 

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exactly right! oversize everything and 90s, the well-fitted only applies if you're going for the refined suit-type of vibe, otherwise it's better to be on the looser side.
there’s a guy over on Chases forum ..’ Don Gately ‘
He wears high end suits and picks up the younger ladies.

mayhe it’s time for me to go the suit-route :D
 

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there’s a guy over on Chases forum ..’ Don Gately ‘
He wears high end suits and picks up the younger ladies.

mayhe it’s time for me to go the suit-route :D
YES! We need more guys that are willing to embrace the suit vibe! I would too if I could!!! I love that vibe.
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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