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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fashion for the 40s DJ

Cheeky_James

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I’ve realised recently that my wardrobe and image needs an overhaul.

what are some good looks for a dude in his mid 40s in 2026?

A quick google gives me … suits. Or dad wear.

Looking around I see dudes dressed like garden gnomes w orange beanies. big ass jeans , ironic 90s windcheater sweaters. and big bomber jackets .
Is that the vibe now...super-oversize and 90s(?)

who are the current trendsetters/brands/websites of the aging DJ fashion icons plz.


 
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I play football and work out a lot so constantly in a pair of shorts. Im a good looking man so walked into the bar about 6 weeks ago wearing my shorts and tracksuit top and a group of girls surrounded me as a soon as i got to the bar asking for my number.
 

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I’ve realised recently that my wardrobe and image needs an overhaul.

what are some good looks for a dude in his mid 40s in 2026?

A quick google gives me … suits. Or dad wear.

Looking around I see dudes dressed like garden gnomes w orange beanies. big ass jeans , ironic 90s windcheater sweaters. and big bomber jackets .
Is that the vibe now...super-oversize and 90s(?)

who are the current trendsetters/brands/websites of the aging DJ fashion icons plz.


There are certain classics that never go out of style. Think a pair of blue jeans with a white t-shirt. That combo looked good on James Dean in the 1950's and it still looks good today. Or a linen blazer with an Oxford shirt and chinos if you want to look more dressed up. Those are just two examples but you get the idea. The key is to get clothing that fits well and is made from quality materials.

Trying to keep up with the latest trends is pointless unless you are a celebrity or work in the fashion industry and it's important for you to be "on trend".
 
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Sorry this is off topic, but I saw some video where they talked about guys over 50 or 60 dressing classy. They said some fairly obvious things like no graphic tees, sneakers, or large brand names displayed. But what I found interesting was they said no shorts and no short sleeves. If it's hot, you roll up your sleeves to the elbow.

I'll admit it's an elegant look, but that would never work for me, I get too hot.
 

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Get in shape and wear well fitted shirts. You'll stand out from the 80% baggy Dad-Bod dudes quickly without saying a word.
 

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Pictures would be better guys..! Yknow , with colours, fits, examples etc
but thanks for the input.

so it basically this ;
Shirts, chinos, blazer.
Or
White tee blue jeans

That’s kinda how I dress tbh. Less the blazer.
but .. it all seems so boring and conservative idk.
Is that all the choices now..?

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That’s kinda how I dress tbh. Less the blazer.
but .. it all seems so boring and conservative idk.
That pic in the dark brwn blazer does seem kind of dull.
Men will never have the style options that women do.
The most important thing is to be in shape, and your clothes will look better on you, especially fitted.

I hear polos are good too.

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It depends on country as well.

A lot of images of fashion for men in US just wouldn't pass in the UK.

We're much more casually dressed, and you have to work within that. Being fit always helps massively.
 

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for a man in his 40s, the closest i’ve seen out of all the images shared in this thread is the one with brad pitt in the white tee. you’ll want to wear a slim fit (be lean is first step) cropped shirt that hits right above the belt line (image below), paired with bootcut jeans and boots (color matching your belt). of course also throw in some accessories, and piercings.
 
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