"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The art of being 'Confident and funny'.

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Often, I find myself sprinkling just a tiny dab of confident humor and teasing from the start, then building plenty of connections and social panache to get the date or approach moving in the right direction. How much confident humor/teasing do you use throughout the date or approach?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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None if I'm trying to get laid. C0cky/funny, yes. You need to be willing to be provocative and roguish, overtly willing to push up against (but not cross) boundaries. Merely being confident won't accomplish this.

The difference between c0cky/funny and confident/funny is the difference between Richard Pryor and Bob Saget.

Nobody liked Bob Saget until he started telling dirty jokes.
 

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None if I'm trying to get laid. C0cky/funny, yes. You need to be willing to be provocative and roguish, overtly willing to push up against (but not cross) boundaries. Merely being confident won't accomplish this.

The difference between c0cky/funny and confident/funny is the difference between Richard Pryor and Bob Saget.

Nobody liked Bob Saget until he started telling dirty jokes.
Im considering that a red flag.
If a man has that attitude, its a red flag
(****y funny)

Also, do examples of a dialogue if you need to explain what do you think being ****y funny vs confident funny is, so we better enter your pov
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yet, he made his millions on Full House and HIMYM
And he was mainly known for that warm hearted wholesome stuff. Which made it all the more surprising when you saw his act.
 

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Start off being a bit grey...then slowly reveal a bit more of the humour as time goes on and she reveals her personality too.

Chatted to a gym girl today and the least-grey thing I said after was she asked me name. (Not posting my name on here, I said something like "my name's Simon, but you can call me Si"
 
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