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Lately I haven't logged on any dating apps too much but I got a match a few days ago and I've been practicing getting into the right mindset. Overall I've been busting my @ss. With the expression, using this method:


This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here. I feel and think that I should be doing better than this. I'm going to keep working at it until I nail it.
 

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And for any of you lurkers out there. If I can work six days a week for the past couple months and still show measurable improvement, with things like texting and cold approaches, you 9 to 5'ers have no excuses.
 

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Lately I haven't logged on any dating apps too much but I got a match a few days ago and I've been practicing getting into the right mindset. Overall I've been busting my @ss. With the expression, using this method:


This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here. I feel and think that I should be doing better than this. I'm going to keep working at it until I nail it.
she is dtf and you kinda beat it around the bush
 

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This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here.
Dude...what are we doing here?

How are you gonna lead the conversation in this direction, then disqualify her for submitting and going in that direction with you? Do you even know what you want? This woman is 12 years younger than you, attractive, highly interested, and submitted to your frame.

I don't understand the logic in asking for something and being disappointed when it's given to you.
 

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Lately I haven't logged on any dating apps too much but I got a match a few days ago and I've been practicing getting into the right mindset. Overall I've been busting my @ss. With the expression, using this method:


This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here. I feel and think that I should be doing better than this. I'm going to keep working at it until I nail it.
This looks unfinished.

How did the story end?
 

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This looks unfinished.

How did the story end?
She just replied a minute ago saying that she wants to hang out with me and she'll let me know when she gets off work tomorrow.

She's coming on pretty strong. I'll have to see how this goes.
 

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So anyway she said that she doesn't want to go dancing because she gets too tired after work and wants to grab drinks instead. Not my kind of girl and not happening.
 

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So anyway she said that she doesn't want to go dancing because she gets too tired after work and wants to grab drinks instead. Not my kind of girl and not happening.
Why are you so committed to dancing?

This is such a slam dunk to the point where SHE offered YOU a more intimate alternative. Do you think you self-sabotage? Because I'm starting to think you're your own worst enemy.
 

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I'll like it better if she comes back to me otherwise I don't think I'm losing anything. She's not 100% my type anyway and I talk to women prettier than her from time to time despite my six day, ~50 hour, bust my @ss work schedule.
 

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Why are you so committed to dancing?

This is such a slam dunk to the point where SHE offered YOU a more intimate alternative. Do you think you self-sabotage? Because I'm starting to think you're your own worst enemy.
Seems very strange indeed.
 
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OP this average 30 y/o chick clearly wants to bang. Ask her if she's a good kisser (say it's important to you), segue into massages and then sex talk. Meet at yours or a bar near yours and then bang.

Maybe you can get laid before post #1000.
 

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Know thy self.
Have you considered that dancing might be an awkward first date for a chick? If it’s a must-have that she’s a line dancer .. just try for numbers at the club/ event. It’s a spanner in the works otherwise.
 

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Have you considered that dancing might be an awkward first date for a chick? If it’s a must-have that she’s a line dancer .. just try for numbers at the club/ event. It’s a spanner in the works otherwise.
He's a salsa snob if memory serves. But here's the thing. Every girl loves to dance. So meet her for drinks & see what happens. After you get laid she will be much more open to going dancing.

Just don't be a rigid teacher type on the dance floor. You are there to move & have fun. I am an accomplished dancer, but God has a sense of humor & paired me with a man who doesn't really care about dancing...so I'm probably rusty now because I won't go without him, lol.
 

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If by knowing they self you mean displaying extreme rigidity instead of fluidity that's more like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
I know what I want and a girl who gets tired that easily is not going to work. The way she came on leads me to believe that she's a bit too mature. I don't want to stoop down to that level where I go on dates with women who I lack attraction for.

I'm getting better and better. I just need to target younger women.

Have you considered that dancing might be an awkward first date for a chick? If it’s a must-have that she’s a line dancer .. just try for numbers at the club/ event. It’s a spanner in the works otherwise.
It could be but I like dates that are more active. It gets the blood flowing.
 

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I know what I want and a girl who gets tired that easily is not going to work. The way she came on leads me to believe that she's a bit too mature. I don't want to stoop down to that level where I go on dates with women who I lack attraction for.

I'm getting better and better. I just need to target younger women.



It could be but I like dates that are more active. It gets the blood flowing.
You know what else gets the blood flowing? Sex.
 

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I know what I want and a girl who gets tired that easily is not going to work. The way she came on leads me to believe that she's a bit too mature. I don't want to stoop down to that level where I go on dates with women who I lack attraction for.

I'm getting better and better. I just need to target younger women.



It could be but I like dates that are more active. It gets the blood flowing.
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