"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Lately I haven't logged on any dating apps too much but I got a match a few days ago and I've been practicing getting into the right mindset. Overall I've been busting my @ss. With the expression, using this method:


This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here. I feel and think that I should be doing better than this. I'm going to keep working at it until I nail it.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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And for any of you lurkers out there. If I can work six days a week for the past couple months and still show measurable improvement, with things like texting and cold approaches, you 9 to 5'ers have no excuses.
 

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This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here.
Dude...what are we doing here?

How are you gonna lead the conversation in this direction, then disqualify her for submitting and going in that direction with you? Do you even know what you want? This woman is 12 years younger than you, attractive, highly interested, and submitted to your frame.

I don't understand the logic in asking for something and being disappointed when it's given to you.
 

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Lately I haven't logged on any dating apps too much but I got a match a few days ago and I've been practicing getting into the right mindset. Overall I've been busting my @ss. With the expression, using this method:


This is an average looking 30yo woman. I don't think I'll actually go on a date with her. For me she's somewhat attractive but through this conversation I feel like I'm being treated like an object. I also don't like my performance here. I feel and think that I should be doing better than this. I'm going to keep working at it until I nail it.
This looks unfinished.

How did the story end?
 

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This looks unfinished.

How did the story end?
She just replied a minute ago saying that she wants to hang out with me and she'll let me know when she gets off work tomorrow.

She's coming on pretty strong. I'll have to see how this goes.
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So anyway she said that she doesn't want to go dancing because she gets too tired after work and wants to grab drinks instead. Not my kind of girl and not happening.
 

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So anyway she said that she doesn't want to go dancing because she gets too tired after work and wants to grab drinks instead. Not my kind of girl and not happening.
Why are you so committed to dancing?

This is such a slam dunk to the point where SHE offered YOU a more intimate alternative. Do you think you self-sabotage? Because I'm starting to think you're your own worst enemy.
 

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I'll like it better if she comes back to me otherwise I don't think I'm losing anything. She's not 100% my type anyway and I talk to women prettier than her from time to time despite my six day, ~50 hour, bust my @ss work schedule.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Have you considered that dancing might be an awkward first date for a chick? If it’s a must-have that she’s a line dancer .. just try for numbers at the club/ event. It’s a spanner in the works otherwise.
He's a salsa snob if memory serves. But here's the thing. Every girl loves to dance. So meet her for drinks & see what happens. After you get laid she will be much more open to going dancing.

Just don't be a rigid teacher type on the dance floor. You are there to move & have fun. I am an accomplished dancer, but God has a sense of humor & paired me with a man who doesn't really care about dancing...so I'm probably rusty now because I won't go without him, lol.
 

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If by knowing they self you mean displaying extreme rigidity instead of fluidity that's more like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
I know what I want and a girl who gets tired that easily is not going to work. The way she came on leads me to believe that she's a bit too mature. I don't want to stoop down to that level where I go on dates with women who I lack attraction for.

I'm getting better and better. I just need to target younger women.

Have you considered that dancing might be an awkward first date for a chick? If it’s a must-have that she’s a line dancer .. just try for numbers at the club/ event. It’s a spanner in the works otherwise.
It could be but I like dates that are more active. It gets the blood flowing.
 

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I know what I want and a girl who gets tired that easily is not going to work. The way she came on leads me to believe that she's a bit too mature. I don't want to stoop down to that level where I go on dates with women who I lack attraction for.

I'm getting better and better. I just need to target younger women.



It could be but I like dates that are more active. It gets the blood flowing.
You know what else gets the blood flowing? Sex.
 

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I know what I want and a girl who gets tired that easily is not going to work. The way she came on leads me to believe that she's a bit too mature. I don't want to stoop down to that level where I go on dates with women who I lack attraction for.

I'm getting better and better. I just need to target younger women.



It could be but I like dates that are more active. It gets the blood flowing.
These hurt to read...
 

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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