"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rate this guys face plz

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Something to think about

As noted here

Physical beauty on a man is simultaneously a blessing and a curse. Attractive men are held to a higher standard, up to and including having to regularly prove that

-They're not simply getting by on their looks alone

-They're more than just another f-c-boy

Don't get envious of what you perceive to be the advantages others possess. Frequently enough, perceptions come nowhere close to capturing the full truth
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Something to think about

As noted here

Physical beauty on a man is simultaneously a blessing and a curse.
Attractive men are held to a higher standard, up to and including having to regularly prove that

-They're not simply getting by on their looks alone

-They're more than just another f-c-boy

Don't get envious of what you perceive to be the advantages others possess. Frequently enough, perceptions come nowhere close to capturing the full truth
dude I’m well aware of how Chad guys do it,
And it’s hardly a ‘curse’ (big lol at that.)
I agree with Harmurabimbis first comment.

They are not held to a higher standard etc lol
All the value is projected and presupposed onto them via their looks. They can get away with all sorts of bad behaviour in reality.
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also just musing on this Chad thing for the past hour actually.

If a Chad has any ‘secret’ or ‘trick’ besides his great looks… it’s that Chad guys know women well. And know all about the reality of attraction and this 3 second response thing with women. As they’ve seen it 100s or maybe 1,000 times.

So Chads screen for this hard and very quickly - in the first few minutes (or less) To see how ‘green light’ the chick is and what she’s up for.

If she’s not very green light, plays or puts up obstacles he cuts the chick quick and moves on to the next. So as not to waste time.

For example - a Chads texting game is super basic . He asks a few key questions to check for strength of the green light and then gets down to business.

it’s a good model imo…
For any guy. Most guys mistake is they pvssyfoot around and beat around the bush. When they ought to be more assertive. Gotta be willing to lose the ones that are not playing ball for whatever it is you want.
 
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also just musing on this Chad thing for the past hour actually
Spend an hour outside, and you'll notice what's kinda sorta discussed here https://www.facebook.com/share/v/19hKBeCXE1/ play out regularly

Being handsome is of limited value, if a man isn't also drenched in personal magnetism. Thus, even though all those fellas in the linked example are attractive, Sebastian Stan* is really the lone consistent panty dropper of them all



*Again, comely looks have been both an advantage and disadvantage to Ol' Seb. He's had to work diligently to demonstrate he can really act, going so far as to take roles which ugly him up

Similar is true of non-celebrity men who are pleasing to the eye. They've got to work hard to prove they're not more shallow than a kitchen sink
 
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seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism.

they are a tiny % of the population of handsome men. The autistic types. I wouldn’t worry about em.

Like this is a ‘strawman’ argument or something.
I don’t know the name for it. Strawman feels correct.

and stop looking to Actors as examples ffs!
They are playing Characters! They have scripts !
That’s not real life!!

FML.
 

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@BaronOfHair - in addition to the above

this is the guy that runs that channel ‘charisma on command’ - Charlie Houpert.

Question - do you notice anything about him looks wise?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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@Cheeky_James "seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism"

I take it you've never read or heard the phrase "blandly handsome". Frequently used to refer to fellas like Josh "Remember Him?" Lucas

Anyway, go outside for more than 5 minutes, each and every day for the next week, for the express purpose of observing the way human beings operate out in the wild. You'll learn far more doing so than asking folks online to rate another man's looks
 

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@Cheeky_James "seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism"

I take it you've never read or heard the phrase "blandly handsome". Frequently used to refer to fellas like Josh "Remember Him?" Lucas

Anyway, go outside for more than 5 minutes, each and every day for the next week, for the express purpose of observing the way human beings operate out in the wild. You'll learn far more doing so than asking folks online to rate another man's looks
I also asked you did you notice anything about Charlie Houpert (the charisma on command channel guy).. about his looks. Post #185 with hsi p


well?
Don’t just dodge the question mate….

Re Josh Lucas
.. oh yeah , so ‘blandly handsome’ that guy . Riiight :rolleyes: I’m sure his mrs would agree w you..

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Dream on , dream believer.
 
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Why is this thread so relevant?

Guys, what are you doing with your life to be so obsessed with rating other men's faces?
 

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Why is this thread so relevant?

Guys, what are you doing with your life to be so obsessed with rating other men's faces?
because this is the reality.

I thought we’d all moved on post PUA , past the old claims of “looks don’t matter bro!” into the real world.. obvs not.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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If Tom can do it, everyone can do it.

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Dude faked infield though. Can't be trusted. You have to wonder why someone with such a FOUNTAIN of knowledge of technical Pickup (which he certainly had) had to fake a kiss close with a paid actress. Makes you wonder how many of his number closes and other infields were also setup. I also suspect that any actual success he had (assuming there was some) was largely from an element of passport game back when Eastern Europe was way way easier for a Brit. All of them London Day gamers got all of their apparent success running that game in Czech republic and Poland etc. We sort of see similar stuff now with white 'puas' when they go to Thailand and stuff lol
 

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His story involved turning from a total beta AFC to an "alpha" badass guy.

And I have massive respect for him because he has distilled all the key knowledge of PUA in simple words. I owe a lot of my "success" in this endeavor to him.

It's the first time that I am hearing this story about him faking anything, but I doubt it, and even if that was the case, it would have been for infield and sales. The skills are there, and you can't fake that.

About the passport thing - maybe it has something to it. But it's not that much of a thing. It's more about the adventure, vibe, playfulness. Don't think that aiming for fast lays gives girls time to strategize their future in England... Especially the harsh Russian women...

Anyway, this is a whole another thread, I am only replying because you put dirt on this man's name, and he is a legend, who can transform your dating life, if you are open to learn how things actually work. Everything you need is there.
 

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, but I doubt it
He actually publicly apologised for it. He didn't deny it at all. He was exposed by the actress herself if memory serves me correct

I guess when he realised his cold reads and assumption stacks etc weren't creating the necessary attraction he decided to pay a girl to pretend she was attracted to him instead
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I also asked you did you notice anything about Charlie Houpert (the charisma on command channel guy).. about his looks
In my estimation he veers into metrosexuality. None of which is relevant to this chat


"Re Josh Lucas
.. oh yeah , so ‘blandly handsome’ that guy . Riiight :rolleyes: I’m sure his mrs would agree w you.."

That even bland men can snag cooter is cause for you in particular to rejoice, hombre

"Dream on , dream believer"

I'm not enough of an exorcist

To be much of a believer. For whatever consolation that might provide
 
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