"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Something to think about

As noted here

Physical beauty on a man is simultaneously a blessing and a curse. Attractive men are held to a higher standard, up to and including having to regularly prove that

-They're not simply getting by on their looks alone

-They're more than just another f-c-boy

Don't get envious of what you perceive to be the advantages others possess. Frequently enough, perceptions come nowhere close to capturing the full truth
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Something to think about

As noted here

Physical beauty on a man is simultaneously a blessing and a curse.
Attractive men are held to a higher standard, up to and including having to regularly prove that

-They're not simply getting by on their looks alone

-They're more than just another f-c-boy

Don't get envious of what you perceive to be the advantages others possess. Frequently enough, perceptions come nowhere close to capturing the full truth
dude I’m well aware of how Chad guys do it,
And it’s hardly a ‘curse’ (big lol at that.)
I agree with Harmurabimbis first comment.

They are not held to a higher standard etc lol
All the value is projected and presupposed onto them via their looks. They can get away with all sorts of bad behaviour in reality.
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also just musing on this Chad thing for the past hour actually.

If a Chad has any ‘secret’ or ‘trick’ besides his great looks… it’s that Chad guys know women well. And know all about the reality of attraction and this 3 second response thing with women. As they’ve seen it 100s or maybe 1,000 times.

So Chads screen for this hard and very quickly - in the first few minutes (or less) To see how ‘green light’ the chick is and what she’s up for.

If she’s not very green light, plays or puts up obstacles he cuts the chick quick and moves on to the next. So as not to waste time.

For example - a Chads texting game is super basic . He asks a few key questions to check for strength of the green light and then gets down to business.

it’s a good model imo…
For any guy. Most guys mistake is they pvssyfoot around and beat around the bush. When they ought to be more assertive. Gotta be willing to lose the ones that are not playing ball for whatever it is you want.
 
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also just musing on this Chad thing for the past hour actually
Spend an hour outside, and you'll notice what's kinda sorta discussed here https://www.facebook.com/share/v/19hKBeCXE1/ play out regularly

Being handsome is of limited value, if a man isn't also drenched in personal magnetism. Thus, even though all those fellas in the linked example are attractive, Sebastian Stan* is really the lone consistent panty dropper of them all



*Again, comely looks have been both an advantage and disadvantage to Ol' Seb. He's had to work diligently to demonstrate he can really act, going so far as to take roles which ugly him up

Similar is true of non-celebrity men who are pleasing to the eye. They've got to work hard to prove they're not more shallow than a kitchen sink
 
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seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism.

they are a tiny % of the population of handsome men. The autistic types. I wouldn’t worry about em.

Like this is a ‘strawman’ argument or something.
I don’t know the name for it. Strawman feels correct.

and stop looking to Actors as examples ffs!
They are playing Characters! They have scripts !
That’s not real life!!

FML.
 

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@BaronOfHair - in addition to the above

this is the guy that runs that channel ‘charisma on command’ - Charlie Houpert.

Question - do you notice anything about him looks wise?

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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@Cheeky_James "seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism"

I take it you've never read or heard the phrase "blandly handsome". Frequently used to refer to fellas like Josh "Remember Him?" Lucas

Anyway, go outside for more than 5 minutes, each and every day for the next week, for the express purpose of observing the way human beings operate out in the wild. You'll learn far more doing so than asking folks online to rate another man's looks
 

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@Cheeky_James "seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism"

I take it you've never read or heard the phrase "blandly handsome". Frequently used to refer to fellas like Josh "Remember Him?" Lucas

Anyway, go outside for more than 5 minutes, each and every day for the next week, for the express purpose of observing the way human beings operate out in the wild. You'll learn far more doing so than asking folks online to rate another man's looks
I also asked you did you notice anything about Charlie Houpert (the charisma on command channel guy).. about his looks. Post #185 with hsi p


well?
Don’t just dodge the question mate….

Re Josh Lucas
.. oh yeah , so ‘blandly handsome’ that guy . Riiight :rolleyes: I’m sure his mrs would agree w you..

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Dream on , dream believer.
 
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