"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rate this guys face plz

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Something to think about

As noted here

Physical beauty on a man is simultaneously a blessing and a curse. Attractive men are held to a higher standard, up to and including having to regularly prove that

-They're not simply getting by on their looks alone

-They're more than just another f-c-boy

Don't get envious of what you perceive to be the advantages others possess. Frequently enough, perceptions come nowhere close to capturing the full truth
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Something to think about

As noted here

Physical beauty on a man is simultaneously a blessing and a curse.
Attractive men are held to a higher standard, up to and including having to regularly prove that

-They're not simply getting by on their looks alone

-They're more than just another f-c-boy

Don't get envious of what you perceive to be the advantages others possess. Frequently enough, perceptions come nowhere close to capturing the full truth
dude I’m well aware of how Chad guys do it,
And it’s hardly a ‘curse’ (big lol at that.)
I agree with Harmurabimbis first comment.

They are not held to a higher standard etc lol
All the value is projected and presupposed onto them via their looks. They can get away with all sorts of bad behaviour in reality.
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also just musing on this Chad thing for the past hour actually.

If a Chad has any ‘secret’ or ‘trick’ besides his great looks… it’s that Chad guys know women well. And know all about the reality of attraction and this 3 second response thing with women. As they’ve seen it 100s or maybe 1,000 times.

So Chads screen for this hard and very quickly - in the first few minutes (or less) To see how ‘green light’ the chick is and what she’s up for.

If she’s not very green light, plays or puts up obstacles he cuts the chick quick and moves on to the next. So as not to waste time.

For example - a Chads texting game is super basic . He asks a few key questions to check for strength of the green light and then gets down to business.

it’s a good model imo…
For any guy. Most guys mistake is they pvssyfoot around and beat around the bush. When they ought to be more assertive. Gotta be willing to lose the ones that are not playing ball for whatever it is you want.
 
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also just musing on this Chad thing for the past hour actually
Spend an hour outside, and you'll notice what's kinda sorta discussed here https://www.facebook.com/share/v/19hKBeCXE1/ play out regularly

Being handsome is of limited value, if a man isn't also drenched in personal magnetism. Thus, even though all those fellas in the linked example are attractive, Sebastian Stan* is really the lone consistent panty peeler of them all



*Again, comely looks have been both an advantage and disadvantage to Ol' Seb. He's had to work diligently to demonstrate he can really act, going so far as to take roles which ugly him up

Similar is true of non-celebrity men who are pleasing to the eye. They've got to work hard to prove they're not more shallow than a kitchen sink
 
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seriously, you guys need to stop sprooking this Rediculous idea ..that there are Handsome men out there IRL that DONT have personal magnetism.

they are a tiny % of the population of handsome men. The autistic types. I wouldn’t worry about em.

Like this is a ‘strawman’ argument or something.
I don’t know the name for it. Strawman feels correct.

and stop looking to Actors as examples ffs!
They are playing Characters! They have scripts !
That’s not real life!!

FML.
 

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@BaronOfHair - in addition to the above

this is the guy that runs that channel ‘charisma on command’ - Charlie Houpert.

Question - do you notice anything about him looks wise?

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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