"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Here's some context.

After reading books from Rollo, Pook, Roger Currie, Sosuave guide, Watching keys to the VIP and, Im still stuck. Aside from getting a date online -i still want to prioritize approaching women. Rejection is better than regret, but when i think of approaching 8-10HB i got stiff. i think this is normal but comment down some rookie mistakes for me to avoid and internalize
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Start by approaching anyone and talking to them. Old people, guys, women you aren't attracted to etc...

You don't start doing something by doing the hardest thing first, you build up to it.

If you just started climbing mountains, would you immediately try to climb Mt Everest? Of course not. You'd start with a small one and then gain experience with that and move your way up. Eventually with enough experience you could then look to climb the bigger mountains.

This is the same thing. You froze because you tried to climb Mt Everest before you even climbed a 1,000 foot mountain a few miles away from your house.
 

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Start by approaching anyone and talking to them. Old people, guys, women you aren't attracted to etc...

You don't start doing something by doing the hardest thing first, you build up to it.

If you just started climbing mountains, would you immediately try to climb Mt Everest? Of course not. You'd start with a small one and then gain experience with that and move your way up. Eventually with enough experience you could then look to climb the bigger mountains.

This is the same thing. You froze because you tried to climb Mt Everest before you even climbed a 1,000 foot mountain a few miles away from your house.
okay sir. thank you!
 

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My suggestion is to start with a canned pick-up line so you at least know what you're going to say and don't freeze at the very start.

@BackInTheGame78 's advice is good, but I would also suggest approaching attractive women that you're interested in. I believe exposing yourself to the actual situation you want to be in is the best preparation for that situation - it's like shooting a gun; you can play as much Call of Duty and do as much dry fire as you want - it still won't prepare you for when you fire a live round.

Get good at that part, and it will become easier over time. When you no longer worry about getting rejected or looking foolish, it becomes a lot easier to have conversations with attractive women.
 

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My suggestion is to start with a canned pick-up line so you at least know what you're going to say and don't freeze at the very start.

@BackInTheGame78 's advice is good, but I would also suggest approaching attractive women that you're interested in. I believe exposing yourself to the actual situation you want to be in is the best preparation for that situation - it's like shooting a gun; you can play as much Call of Duty and do as much dry fire as you want - it still won't prepare you for when you fire a live round.

Get good at that part, and it will become easier over time. When you no longer worry about getting rejected or looking foolish, it becomes a lot easier to have conversations with attractive women.
Sure, but exposing yourself before you are ready to be exposed would be like firing a gun and having it backfire and hit you with the bullet.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I used to practice talking to attractive women at the $trip club. It was the only place I could talk to lots of attractive girls in the course of a night. Once they were at my table, my goal was to keep them there as long as possible with out spending any money. I did that thru conversation and being interesting and fun to talk to. You eventually figure out the basic recipe and what works and what doesn't. I had some very interesting conversations about all sorts of things. $trippers are pretty easy to talk to and most are pretty open.

I took what I learned there, and applied it to girls in regular bars.

Always talk to everyone. Guys, the staff, etc. It helps with social proof, and of course increases your skills.
 

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Sure, but exposing yourself before you are ready to be exposed would be like firing a gun and having it backfire and hit you with the bullet.
At least then you know what problem you'd need to solve lol.

EDIT: Better analogy...it would be like playing putt-putt versus regular golf. They both develop the right skill set, but one doesn't adequately prepare you for the other.
 
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Here's some context.

After reading books from Rollo, Pook, Roger Currie, Sosuave guide, Watching keys to the VIP and, Im still stuck. Aside from getting a date online -i still want to prioritize approaching women. Rejection is better than regret, but when i think of approaching 8-10HB i got stiff. i think this is normal but comment down some rookie mistakes for me to avoid and internalize
Make it difficult on purpose. Approach the hottest girl you see and be direct. @BPH 's direct line is pretty good, "Hey I thought you looked gorgeous and wanted to say hi"

Approach anxiety shows that you've become too domesticated. The world becomes yours if you can recondition your mind.
 
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