How to not cheat?

[Joakim]

Other women keep existing.

How do you deal with it?

Do you know of any course on this subject?

 

[BaronOfHair]

My suceess in THAT department has been comparable to The Hell's Angels and Mongols MC's many attempts to co-exist, WITHOUT disemboweling each other with Bowie knives... Which is to say, less than noteworthy

I do my damndest to keep my word, while also recognizing I'm ultimately just human, thus highly susceptible to behaving less than admirably at times

 

[BPH]

We're either getting lots of trolls...or lots of dumbasses in here lately...

 

[Manure Spherian]

We're either getting lots of trolls...or lots of dumbasses in here lately...

I also think there is a rise in spectrum disordered posters, which I don’t say in jest. Also the socially stunted.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Other women keep existing.

How do you deal with it?

Do you know of any course on this subject?

You have integrity and high character. It's not that hard.

Break up with the current woman before fvcking a new one.

This shouldn't be rocket science.

If you are asking "how do I have integrity and high character" that's a little more difficult to answer because I am not sure how to develop that if you don't already have it.

Probably through a lot of uncomfortable conversations with yourself that most people aren't willing to have

 

[Velasco]

get with a really hot girl. that u have great chemistry with. her sex drive is the same as yours. and make it so it’s extremely difficult to cheat. i live in a small town and im with one of the most popular girls. not only does she have my photo (so her friends can see what i look like and let her know if they see me talking to another girl) but also my location. i’ve cheated on every single girl i’ve been with no matter how hot she was, but yeah this is going to make cheating really difficult lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

get with a really hot girl. that u have great chemistry with. her sex drive is the same as yours. and make it so it’s extremely difficult to cheat. i live in a small town and im with one of the most popular girls. not only does she have my photo (so her friends can see what i look like and let her know if they see me talking to another girl) but also my location. i’ve cheated on every single girl i’ve been with no matter how hot she was, but yeah this is going to make cheating really difficult lol

Sex drive changes over time, which is what leads many to cheat.

Often a barometer of her respect level for a man.

 

[Velasco]

Often a barometer of her respect level for a man

not always. some birth controls can dramatically change a girls sex drive in a bad way no matter how much she finds you attractive/respect for you. and tied to sex drive (amount of times you meet to have sex per week) on two separate occasions i had girls that worked multiple jobs while attending school. which made it difficult to meet at least 3 times a week. with those girls i obviously got with other girls to fulfill my sexual needs. same time i had a girl that had a sex drive better than mine and only went to school. making her available for basically every night. i still cheated on her. which is why i included my point about making it extremely difficult to cheat.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

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The key to not cheating is simple; don't get involved in a monogamous relationship.

How bout that?

A single man cheating, is as illogical as an unmarried man getting a divorce.

It ain't trigonometry.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

not always. some birth controls can dramatically change a girls sex drive in a bad way no matter how much she finds you attractive/respect for you. and tied to sex drive (amount of times you meet to have sex per week) on two separate occasions i had girls that worked multiple jobs while attending school. which made it difficult to meet at least 3 times a week. with those girls i obviously got with other girls to fulfill my sexual needs. same time i had a girl that had a sex drive better than mine and only went to school. making her available for basically every night. i still cheated on her. which is why i included my point about making it extremely difficult to cheat.

That doesn't make it hard not to cheat. It only makes it hard not to cheat when you have no integrity or high character.

 

[Velasco]

It only makes it hard not to cheat when you have no integrity or high character.

ya that’s my point mate. i don’t have integrity nor do i imagine OP does either

 

[Sega Genesis]

ya that’s my point mate. i don’t have integrity nor do i imagine OP does either

I think the OP might have integrity, hence why he is struggling with this and created this thresd.

He experiences temptation all around him and is asking if there is a way to responsibly deal with that versus simply acting on such temptation and cheating.

As a woman, I don't experience these same sexual urges when in a sexually-gratifying relationship with my partner. Some women might, I don't. I am only sexually focused on my partner.

However putting myself in a man's shoes, I think even when having integrity and good character it can still be a struggle sometimes to remain faithful.

In a way I applaud OP for coming here seeking advice. It reflects he gives an actual shyt which is admirable.

JMO

 

[Clockwerk50]

Part of being a man is having self-control over your emotions, urges, and desires. Just like you wouldn't eat a pound of cake when you know you shouldn't, or make a compulsive purchase you can't afford, you have to be able to recognize an impulse without automatically acting on it.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Other women keep existing.

How do you deal with it?

Do you know of any course on this subject?

Willpower, self regulation.

 

[The Duke]

I've never been a cheater, have very high self control, I think before I react, not easily tempted. I would rather tell her to hit the road and get me a replacement the next day than cheat.

However, The hunter in me gets bored with the same girl, So it does create that desire to cheat but I don't act on it. So to stay on the straight and narrow I only commit to girls that are hb8's and have an inner p0rnstar that comes out in the bedroom.

When I was married I did spend time in $trip clubs but my wife knew and approved of it.

 

[BadBoy89]

Spin plates and don't commit.

Once a man "commits" to a women, she has no reason to care about him because she knows she has him. The whole point of a woman wanting commitment from a man is to have power over him and punish him financially and emotionally is he wants out.

Women are much more practical than men. They don't want commitment for love. Women want commitment because of the power it brings. That power over a man is intoxicating for a woman. It's a like a drug.

Spin plates and don't commit.

 

[plumber]

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The key to not cheating is simple; don't get involved in a monogamous relationship.

How bout that?

A single man cheating, is as illogical as an unmarried man getting a divorce.

It ain't trigonometry.

this is the only for sure answer.

 

[zekko]

Other women keep existing.
How do you deal with it?

I often see gorgeous women and wonder what I can do about it. My answer is that I give glory to God for creating such beauty.
Anyway, at this point I value my relationship more than I value any temporary pleasure - and the possible drama, pain, and disruption that might come with it. It's all a matter of perspective.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've never been a cheater, have very high self control, I think before I react, not easily tempted. I would rather tell her to hit the road and get me a replacement the next day than cheat.

However, The hunter in me gets bored with the same girl, So it does create that desire to cheat but I don't act on it. So to stay on the straight and narrow I only commit to girls that are hb8's and have an inner p0rnstar that comes out in the bedroom.

When I was married I did spend time in $trip clubs but my wife knew and approved of it.

Did she really approve of it or did she just tell you that but secretly started building resentment and anger towards you over time?

What women actually say and what actually happens are not always the same thing. Also, what they are OK with for any given period of time isn't always what they are OK with over an indefinite period of time

 

[The Duke]

Did she really approve of it or did she just tell you that but secretly started building resentment and anger towards you over time?

What women actually say and what actually happens are not always the same thing. Also, what they are OK with for any given period of time isn't always what they are OK with over an indefinite period of time

I agree with what you are saying and I wouldn't believe most women that say they are ok with it. But she was the exception and was very confident and secure. After we split up and were dating others she would hang out with my friends and I at strip clubs. She was cool with it and friendly with dancers.