"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Does what you drive matter?

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Exactly, Rodgers was most likely placing too much emphasis on the car he drove and thinking it was his gate pass to poon. He didn’t realize the vehicle is only a part of the whole package and some of his personal aspects were actually a negative…
A BMW 3 Series is a good car, but it's not going to make up for personality defects. I don't even think a Ferrari could have worked the magic for him.

For a 3 Series to work on 20s/30s collegiate and post collegiate big city women, it would need to be combined with a good physique and some adequate social skills. Having a 3 Series and a nice body will reduce the about of charisma needed to get poon, but it doesn't entirely eliminate it.

I know a guy who bought a 3 Series when it just came off a 3 year lease. He had been with his girlfriend who was in her mid-20s at the time for about 2.5 years. At her peak, she was about a 6.5-7 on most people's rating scales. The relationship was getting stale at the time and it could have gone either way. The two of them stayed together, and the 3 Series played a part in retaining that woman, as he was upgrading from an undistinguished car to it.

Side discussion: does driving a car with a manual transmission make you more attractive/manlier?
I'm not sure that manuals are as appreciated any more. Starting in the Millennial generation (early 1980s-mid-1990s births), many new drivers didn't ever learn to drive a manual. Gen Z (late 1990s-early 2010s) will be even less likely to learn how to drive a manual. Since 2010, less than 5% of newer cars sold have had manual transmissions. Manual transmissions are fading out. I think a woman might find it cool if a man drives a manual transmission. A lot of the sports cars now are automatic transmission. We were talking about the 3 Series above. In the E30 generation of 3 Series models (early 1980s-early 1990s), which most considered the peak of the 3 Series, a good portion of 3 Series' had manuals. Now, very few 3 Series models have it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One time I was exploring the coast and happened across this long causeway leading to an island. Cars were parked all along one side meaning only one car could pass.

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I start down the causeway and almost instantly a Fiat Punto appears ahead with a woman in it. I stop the Z4 and stare her down. After a minute or so she starts reversing to let me through. She must have reversed half a mile. I followed her in the Bimmer.

When we reached the island she turned aside to let me pass. I smirked and blew her a slow kiss. She did not look amused.

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I don't want my answer to be influenced by them.

What you drive matters to some girls, not to others.
Sorry to bring up this old topic.
But there's nothing old here, if I may say so.
A truly timely topic. And it will always remain so, as long as we are allowed to own cars and drive them ourselves.

That said.
I've driven different cars.
And the things I noticed were that when I drove cars that you could perceive as having more status or luxury, like BMWs, Audis, Mercedes, then women were much more interested in me.

So I put myself in the woman's mind.
Imagine: a woman sees a well-dressed, well-groomed, muscular guy arrive in a Fiat Panda. She says, "Okay, a nice guy."
The same woman sees the same guy arrive on a BMX bike. She says, "Okay, he's a nice guy, he seems very well-groomed, definitely very competent, he even has a certain importance."

It's a very different process.
We really can't deny the fact that the car we're driving/owning will attribute qualities to the person they don't possess.

Why would an Audi attribute competence, status, and power to me, when in reality I work at the local grocery store?
Why would a Fiat Panda attribute carelessness, incompetence, and powerlessness to me, when in reality I'm the mayor of the city, I'm competent, and I care about myself and others?

Can we do something about it?
We men, yes. We can work on it, and eventually drive our Fiat Panda with confidence and carelessness.
But we still live in a social world, and not everyone has done the work.

Even the most talented woman, who has done the work on herself, will end up making the same arguments!
It's simply something we can't do without.
Even the best woman is a little gold digger inside.

I'd love to hear your opinions.
 

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An expensive car is social proof of status, polish, excitement, or adventurousness. You don't need that particular signal, but if you remove it, you need to communicate attractive qualities elsewhere. The struggling guy isn't struggling because he drives a Corolla. He's struggling because the Corolla may be one piece of an otherwise unremarkable, excessively risk-averse, boring & unattractive lifestyle.
 

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If reliably getting around town is chief among your priorities.... Yeah
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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but most of the attraction happens before the girl knows what you are driving, where do you live, etc
How can women be "attracted" to a boy if attraction is simply a response to a feeling?

I mean, she's attracted to John not because he's the most handsome boy in the class.
But because he's the most handsome of all the men, and he's the best she can get. That's the feeling.

She's attracted to Claude not because he's handsome, but because he has the most status in her circle.
Do you know what I mean?

Women are attracted to men based on feelings, which almost always come from status, money, beauty, etc.
The struggling guy isn't struggling because he drives a Corolla. He's struggling because the Corolla may be one piece of an otherwise unremarkable, excessively risk-averse, boring & unattractive lifestyle.
And this confirm what i wrote above, it's just a sensation
 
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