She confessed..

[zekko]

She friendzoned him for YEARS. I dont even wanna get in to if he would hit it or not. He would.

He has DEEP feelings for this woman. She knows, he knows. Now she comes circling back to give him some more of that bitter sweet friendzone pie. And he is ready to munch it up!!

So you're saying the OP is lying. He said to him, she was a female friend, nothing more.
I'm not saying you're wrong, but if what you say is true, then he is lying.

 

[Bokanovsky]

If a women wants to make it known, she can make it known (see that scene in varsity blues with the wipped cream).

imho, she liked the OP but not enough to take it to the next level. She is just bored or wants drama or something. Her current marriage isnt going well...

red flag. Don't mess with this situation.

You can't generalize. Some women are good at making it known, others aren't. Just like some men are good at picking up women and others are not.

But I agree that it's not worth giving her attention now. There is a reason why she reached out to he OP at this moment in time. Things are not going well in her marriage.

 

[Gamisch]

So you're saying the OP is lying. He said to him, she was a female friend, nothing more.
I'm not saying you're wrong, but if what you say is true, then he is lying.

Thats blunt but perhaps ..true. Let me say it like this;
This is the kinda lie we as men way too often tell ourselves!

We all been in situations( predicaments)where we played it safe, and went along with the storyline that " me and her, are just friends ". While all along we knew damn well that IF the opportunity to sleep with her would present itself we would pull the trigger immediately!

If an ex contacts you after many years it already ...questionable whether you should entertain the idea of building a new form of contact/ communication. If its a female friend you had feelings for while you lingered in the friendzone? Imo that's even worse!

If she was a fat ,ugly hb 0,5 why would OP make a thread that reads like a romcom? Imo this is the kinda thing that keeps a man from becoming the best version of himself.

So without saying that OP isn't trustworthy or anything, it still is a subtle form of lying , a typical white lie a man tells to himself.

 

[zekko]

So without saying that OP isn't trustworthy or anything, it still is a subtle form of lying , a typical white lie a man tells to himself.

If true, it would be more like a self delusion. Still a lie, I guess.
Perhaps he never thought he had a chance with her, therefore he never allowed himself to think of anything more with her, so just pursued the friendship.