"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dealing with ppl who devaluate yourself

jhonny9546

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We know we'll encounter all kinds of people in our lives.

Some speak badly of everyone, including you.

If you can't avoid contact with them (for work or other reasons), have you ever wondered if, since hearing bad things about you upsets you, you should go no contact with them, both in real life (just say hello), and especially if they could still learn information about you (through friends of friends and social media)?

For example, posting content on your social media, with them following you and ready to gossip and make fun of you, makes you feel nervous or ashamed, or even a little insecure, because they love hanging out with other people and ruining others reputation.

Is it right to block these people in that case? Even if they can see your life through another friend's phone or in other ways...

What measures do you take?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jhonny9546

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is this like a junior high bully ??
Isn't this common among "successfull" people in your country?
Italy, it's just full of those people.
And you can see them usually at leadership roles.

Also.. main thing.. whywould women desire a man like that
 

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Isn't this common among "successfull" people in your country?
Italy, it's just full of those people.
And you can see them usually at leadership roles.

Also.. main thing.. whywould women desire a man like that
no, not at all. open bully ends up with issues they can not manage. for me "successfull" usually want to get to know me and at least try to demonstrate goodness and goodwill even at personal cost. in a few cases its real, but if not real a good fake is required.

related to this. i see some that treat workers well and others that treat like slaves. but that's different than your topic.
 

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@jhonny9546 "What measures do you take?"

Remain steadfast in my commitment to revive the long lost art of simply ignoring sh-t ONLINE that one finds disagreeable. This isn't remotely comparable to someone walking up to us in the street or in a bar, then hurling a relentless stream of invective our way
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Travel memoir21

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What acquaintances and people think of you is non of your business. Bad gossip is better than no publicity. Have fun and enjoy the limelight baby lol
 
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