Also, how do the older dudes here handle the future?

[BillyPilgrim]

Researching how to avoid reincarnating on Earth. It's a beautiful planet but the non-physical environment here is designed to make you jaded. Why are children on the whole so much happier than adults?

 

[Gamisch]

Come on, that is not it at all. There is an excellent 1 hour interview that ABC did. If you would have watched it, you would never say what you just did. That women loves him dearly despite the path they are on now. She isn't going anywhere. Never did she say or make one think she wants out. If a man ever wanted a supporting wife through thick and thin she is a great example.

She is out there doing interviews, public speaking, promoting a book about dementia so others can learn. She even said she is a total introvert and she has really had to push herself to do it. Lord knows its not about the money, they have plenty. Its not about ego either.

Due to the staff of care takers that Bruce requires now, he does live in his own house down the street and the staff lives with him and they have meals together and spend time together daily. They did this because of the effect it was having on Bruce's family. The kids couldn't even make any noise because it stressed him out. I don't know if you have ever been a care taker to a loved one that can barely speak and move but its exhausting.

Okay I didn't know all that.

In that case I should swallow my words and take this L.

 

[The Duke]

Okay I didn't know all that.

In that case I should swallow my words and take this L.

Thats cool, no worries. I was thoroughly impressed by this woman. I thought of all the guys on SS when I watched it. She's a good example of a solid woman. If anyone gets the chance to watch the interview its worth it. I wish they made more women like Bruce Willis' wife.

 

[zekko]

Researching how to avoid reincarnating on Earth. It's a beautiful planet but the non-physical environment here is designed to make you jaded. Why are children on the whole so much happier than adults?

Are they really? I used to get depressed when I was a child - not clinically, but I would feel down and negative a lot. It wasn't until I matured that I learned how to be happy. I am much, much happier as an adult. For one thing, you have a lot more agency as an adult. If you want something as an adult, it's on you to go get it.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

So ...nearing 40.
Got my money and health. Im working on putting more away in savings, because at 80 with no wife and kids ...
What are the options?
Not to be dark, but how would you guys deal with being super old and not having anybody?
Hire a maid to cook and clean until i pass away?
I own the house. She could live here and she will inherit it when im gone.
Thats one way.
But is there another way?

Your not even 40.
Get a wife.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Make better decisions in relationships and you may not have to be alone.

Most people end up alone due to ignoring red flags early on and investing way too much time and energy into the wrong people, which leads to the opportunity cost of investing that time finding the right people.

 

[MatureDJ]

So ...nearing 40.
Got my money and health. Im working on putting more away in savings, because at 80 with no wife and kids ...
What are the options?
Not to be dark, but how would you guys deal with being super old and not having anybody?
Hire a maid to cook and clean until i pass away?
I own the house. She could live here and she will inherit it when im gone.
Thats one way.
But is there another way?

Once you get enough to very-early-retire on, you become a PassportBro.

 

[MatureDJ]

The older you get, the more you get to see friends and relatives go through the dying process. What you want to avoid is the nursing home. They are death camps. They call them "rehab," yet pretty much no one gets out alive. A broken hip for a person over 70 has a 60% mortality rate, because they put you in a home to "rehab," which exposes you to the leading cause of death in the US, facility-acquired pneumonia. The industry is very profitable for those who own it, with plenty of money to buy the media and the politicians.

The most important physical skill you need as an elderly person is the ability to get yourself to the bathroom. And the most important part of that is not being obese. Sounds simple, but it isn't when most people are obese. They end up bedridden, eating basically prison food and then sitting in a diaper full of sh1t that the underpaid cna was supposed to change but didn't. The life expectancy from that point for most people is 6-12 months.

This is more depressing than the scene from "Whatever".

 

[MatureDJ]

Bruce willes got dementia. Our hero ofcourse got a wife. You know what she said?

That the relationship " isn't through same anymore ,not as romantic anymore", and thus she wants out.

So much for the " let's get old together " Disney dream...you can be Die hard Bruce and yet some woman will leave you when times get hard..

One wonders if Willis had kept his hair ...

 

[_sideways_]

that sort of question lends itself to getting some philosophical answers.

one day you wake up and think... what's the point. i am going to just do the same stuff i did yesterday.
--

health and money are really valuable. if you lose one of those you will then have different problems...
--

tactically... take a small part of your money and time and focus on helping some others that are less then you. usually the default action is to try to make friends with those that could help us. Instead try to find one or a few that you can help and or mentor. you might have to even spend a little of your money (but not so much).

Mr Scrooge was very happy after he did that. The real alpha finds and takes care of the pack.

yes you might get cheated or fall victim to a scammer. such is life....

--

Start a side hustle. can never have too much money and it can lead you into new adventures.

I like this response.

But, even with money...
My health will fail....and thats whst scares me

 

[_sideways_]

I have 10yrs on you and don't worry about it at all. Make the most out of every day. Treat every day like its your birthday and do as you wish. Work hard, play hard and you won't have time to worry about stuff that doesn't matter.

But Sir,..
I do put money on the side....and i date and go out...
I havent made a family.


And i think....family...not necessarrily kids, but a circle .....i havent made that.

 

[_sideways_]

Bible Belt and BackinTheGame....kinda hear or write what im thinkking/feeling....

 

[_sideways_]

Lets be honest....it is hard for a dude...40s...in shape, looks young...whatever...
But, no real women, at any age wants a 40 year old dude.
Ive experienced it.
I look young....
Have cash...
Then the age question comes up.



Oh im sorry....before you were happy. Now you want im too old.

Before anyone says im lacking.

Bros, its a numbers game for some women too.
Even i think....
Dang
...ill be 50 when my kid is 10

 

[_sideways_]

We are born alone, we die alone.


Thats sad....
I wish i had family.

 

[_sideways_]

But Sir,..
I do put money on the side....and i date and go out...
I havent made a family.


And i think....family...not necessarrily kids, but a circle .....i havent made that.

I get it....im stressing about dying, while i should be working on living.
But still...maybe im just sensitive because my brothers dont celebrate my birthday.

All these years, i send cool cards with memories
All i get is a happy birthday text.


No memories of us bro? Nothing especial to say?
Kinda hurts

 

[Vanderdonck]

Lets be honest....it is hard for a dude...40s...in shape, looks young...whatever...
But, no real women, at any age wants a 40 year old dude.
Ive experienced it.
I look young....
Have cash...
Then the age question comes up.



Oh im sorry....before you were happy. Now you want im too old.

Before anyone says im lacking.

Bros, its a numbers game for some women too.
Even i think....
Dang
...ill be 50 when my kid is 10

Plenty of women do. I met my woman when I was in my early 40s and she was mid 20s.

If your goal is to find a long term partner and possibly have a kid or two, set out and you will achieve it. You are lost in your head with these thoughts. But don't try too hard or you'll frustrate yourself. I met my woman when I was out fooling around with no design on a LTR.

 

[plumber]

I like this response.

But, even with money...
My health will fail....and thats whst scares me

yes it will. regardless of what you do we will all end up in the same place one day. lets enjoy life until then. my health has failed a few times. so far able to fix it up again.

no fear, only choices.

 

[DJ Novice]

I’ll be 58 this year.

Survived divorce with about $1.5m in funds for my retirement. Get on well with my kids. I own my own apartment, live alone and have no debt. Still working full time in a six figure job. Hitting the gym regularly, decent natural physique compared to most guys my age (I don’t take TRT or steroids) and look about 10 years younger (as commented by both men and women). Have slept with a variety of women since my divorce in the 6-8 rating bracket who were/are 5-10 years younger than me.

Currently getting my balls drained weekly by a 50 year old woman who is ‘intimidated’ (her words, probably helped by Viagra which I highly recommend) by sleeping with me, who thoroughly enjoys bedroom action with few boundaries and who treats me well.

She was asked to be a contestant on the Bachelor TV show where I live so objectively she is attractive to others as well as me. Keeps very fit, natural golfer (has hit a hole in one, plays off about 18), swims, runs, fake breasts (bonus!) very intelligent to boot (into AI now and previously worked in C-suite jobs).

Variety in women is still a weakness for me but while I still actively look for other options they are becoming scarce. I use OLD (can’t be bothered going out to bars etc at my age) and most women in their late 40s plus are either extremely unattractive or have unrealistic expectations and only want 10/10 chads (I reckon I’m a solid 7).

Escorts (Pattaya anyone?) may be in my future at some stage (never used one). I think most guys will eventually age out with being able to attract younger/hotter women unless you are someone like Leonardo Di Caprio (which I’m not). But hopefully I won’t need to consider this option for quite a while.

Life can get better as you get older. You just need to make the most of it.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why are children on the whole so much happier than adults?

They have the luxury of spending 24/7 watching Disney +, retreating into fantasy worlds where everything is as simple as Good Vs Evil, and aren't even aware of concepts like "economic downturn"

They're not happy, so much as they are ignorant of The Facts Of Existence

 

[Gamisch]

Lets be honest....it is hard for a dude...40s...in shape, looks young...whatever...
But, no real women, at any age wants a 40 year old dude.
Ive experienced it.
I look young....
Have cash...
Then the age question comes up.



Oh im sorry....before you were happy. Now you want im too old.

Before anyone says im lacking.

Bros, its a numbers game for some women too.
Even i think....
Dang
...ill be 50 when my kid is 10

I'm sorry but your defeatist attitude is felt all.the way on the other side of the ocean...

I work for a client whose dad is 90(!!) and that man is still completely self sufficient. Imagine that..you might not even be passed half your entire life!

Women don't feckomg care about your age as long as usual got game.

Having said that; my vision on the future is grim. I think hard times are inevitable at this point, and those hard times will separate the boys from the men. Prepare by stacking up cash , skills, and connections.

Why won't you let go of that pipedream of getting kids? If you really want a kid you can adopt one. Will be less dramatic than having a baby momma who will make your life a living hell.