Also, how do the older dudes here handle the future?

[Divorced w 3]

Stay healthy, stack money, stay close to those that are close to you, enjoy your life in a way that makes you happy. If finding someone makes you happy, then be honest with yourself about who you are and what makes you intrigued about others and then slide into that lane more. (If that is your intention).You roll through this planet one time, no regrets.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I’ll be 58 this year.

Survived divorce with about $1.5m in funds for my retirement. Get on well with my kids. I own my own apartment, live alone and have no debt. Still working full time in a six figure job. Hitting the gym regularly, decent natural physique compared to most guys my age (I don’t take TRT or steroids) and look about 10 years younger (as commented by both men and women). Have slept with a variety of women since my divorce in the 6-8 rating bracket who were/are 5-10 years younger than me.

Currently getting my balls drained weekly by a 50 year old woman who is ‘intimidated’ (her words, probably helped by Viagra which I highly recommend) by sleeping with me, who thoroughly enjoys bedroom action with few boundaries and who treats me well.

She was asked to be a contestant on the Bachelor TV show where I live so objectively she is attractive to others as well as me. Keeps very fit, natural golfer (has hit a hole in one, plays off about 18), swims, runs, fake breasts (bonus!) very intelligent to boot (into AI now and previously worked in C-suite jobs).

Variety in women is still a weakness for me but while I still actively look for other options they are becoming scarce. I use OLD (can’t be bothered going out to bars etc at my age) and most women in their late 40s plus are either extremely unattractive or have unrealistic expectations and only want 10/10 chads (I reckon I’m a solid 7).

Escorts (Pattaya anyone?) may be in my future at some stage (never used one). I think most guys will eventually age out with being able to attract younger/hotter women unless you are someone like Leonardo Di Caprio (which I’m not). But hopefully I won’t need to consider this option for quite a while.

Life can get better as you get older. You just need to make the most of it.

You need more money than that. Get someone in your financial corner that will show you how how to hit the gas on your money the right way (if you haven’t already.)

 

[Glassguy]

I have 10yrs on you and don't worry about it at all. Make the most out of every day. Treat every day like its your birthday and do as you wish. Work hard, play hard and you won't have time to worry about stuff that doesn't matter.

I agree. I feel no different at 48 than I did 35. Maybe even 30.
And there are plenty of strong character women out there if you know where to look and have enough value to attract them.
You probably won't find them in clubs, bars, etc.
Based on OPs post, he's looking for someone for the long haul. So there's the start of his road map......

 

[_sideways_]

Ok. Thanks for the therapy.
I apprecate the comments and different view points.
Im just really looking deep within myself and asking what i want.
I obviously want to keep my health, and money.
.my sanity...
But it would be nice to have family

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Make better choices in your life and most of these things are not worrisome.

You attract what you are. If you are a bullsh!tter, you attract bullsh!t women. If you are a quality man, you attract quality women. If you try to lie to yourself, that's where the disconnect seems to come in. Too many guys are bullsh!tters but think they are going to attract quality women. Life has a funny way of dealing cold hard doses of reality.

The biggest issue most people in general have is making poor life choices and then instead of accepting it and making changes, they double down and try and defend them to save their ego.