Emotional Intelligence

[Von]

Émotional intelligence = game

She meant boys néed to get out There and get some practice until they good enough to have a game that score Them women (on her app).

Everyone Gets better with practice, improvement on reading SOI and cues.
Most kids now talk only through a screen and Hide themselves from mirors

 

[CoolWave1331]

The mighty Pook I read some grea stuff by him in the archive. His comment abou the emotional iq sounds odd to me, not sure I agree with this.

As the post above me says emotional intelligence = game, spot on. The young-in's are brought up playing videos games & not taking advantage of opportunities to socialize. They end up being are vey very immature and unable to connect with peers. This not only impacts dating prospects but career etc. The damage is only seen much later in life.

I'm watching a bit of the attached video it's quite long. Anyone got time stamps for the important stuff?

 

[eli77]

Love him but can you actually relate to this situation?

 

[eli77]

Eq is the future many people here don't have it!!

 

[CoolWave1331]

Love him but can you actually relate to this situation?

Personally no, I can't relate. I honestly can't really complain & I do okay with girls, but I am 30 years old and this is real phenomena. Lots of people my age heavy on swipe apps and do majority of interaction tech means. In person it all falls apart. I personally know two guys I went to school with they have pretty much "given up". They dont' take accountability for any of it & just smoke weed and play video games with their time. Neither have ever had a gf as far as I know and the times i've seen them interact with girls they acted extremely childish.

Eq is the future many people here don't have it!!

EQ is very important for sure, even down in sunny Miami lol. Been there 2x the girls look great and yuo definitely need to be on your A game. How do you like it there?

 

[Chow Mein]

Empathy is the toughest one to balance in professional success. The level of one’s empathy, can mean the difference between pulling the trigger or not in many situations, which may result in a negative outcome or less opportunity of one’s personal success at the expense of concern for someone else’s emotional needs or personal wellbeing. I’m not speaking on morality, strictly on the objective basis. Notwithstanding empathy, EI is a ninja level set of tools for life.

Empathy is a good strength of character.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Empathy is a good strength of character.

I agree with you. However, character is not typically what causes the masses to fear and respect you. Feigning character is incredibly important, ie ‘virtue signaling’, which for those of whom the ‘dark personality’ is not a natural inclination or fit, is how most of your leadership attempts to do so, with some highly visible act of goodwill in the community, that’s typically broadcasted in mass communication. This is how those leaders build themselves cover to scheme, manipulate, destroy competitors and steal behind the scenes. While the majority in the community do see through that charade, they importantly lack the courage and the wit and understanding of the soft tools needed to stand up to it, and so they go along.

People of high character simply cannot do that, and while they can achieve massive success, most don’t have the interest in playing that game because of it, (not that they lack the intellectual capacity to do so, they simply don’t want to, even though some do which for all members of the community is a home run, if they do have such a leader.)

 

[eli77]

Personally no, I can't relate. I honestly can't really complain & I do okay with girls, but I am 30 years old and this is real phenomena. Lots of people my age heavy on swipe apps and do majority of interaction tech means. In person it all falls apart. I personally know two guys I went to school with they have pretty much "given up". They dont' take accountability for any of it & just smoke weed and play video games with their time. Neither have ever had a gf as far as I know and the times i've seen them interact with girls they acted extremely childish.



EQ is very important for sure, even down in sunny Miami lol. Been there 2x the girls look great and yuo definitely need to be on your A game. How do you like it there?

beautiful always looking to expand my network you do whatsapp?

 

[CoolWave1331]

beautiful always looking to expand my network you do whatsapp?

In August i'm going to be visiting Louisiana with a friend of mine, she's got family around New Orleans forget the name of the place, has a french sounding name. She's not my girlfrien or anything, after about 4-5 days i'm going to dip and spend the rest of the time in Florida (Miami). One of the my best friends lives in South Pointe and he will be upset if I don't see him. I know we got several members here from the area and i'll make a post few days before maybe we can organize meet up. I have no hangups talking to girls i'm a good hype man and will gas you guys up in front of the girls no problem.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Feigning character is incredibly important, ie ‘virtue signaling’, which for those of whom the ‘dark personality’ is not a natural inclination or fit, is how most of your leadership attempts to do so, with some highly visible act of goodwill in the community, that’s typically broadcasted in mass communication. This is how those leaders build themselves cover to scheme, manipulate, destroy competitors and steal behind the scenes.

You mean like Jordan Belfort? I only recently watched The Wolf of Wall Street which is why I mention him..

Seriously, I just watched this for the first time on Monday. Wow wow wow is all I have to say.

Oh and Dicaprio was amazing!

Great example though imo. I suppose Bernie Madoff would be another?

I used to trust until someone gave me a reason not to, sadly now it's the other way around.

It's not even "trust but verify."

Now it's "verify" first then trust specifically when it comes to money, investing etc.

It's just plain foolishness not to!

 

[CornbreadFed]

You mean like Jordan Belfort? I only recently watched The Wolf of Wall Street which is why I mention him..

Seriously, I just watched this for the first time on Monday. Wow wow wow is all I have to say.

Oh and Dicaprio was amazing!

Great example though imo. I suppose Bernie Madoff would be another?

I used to trust until someone gave me a reason not to, sadly now it's the other way around.

It's not even "trust but verify."

Now it's "verify" first then trust specifically when it comes to money, investing etc.

It's just plain foolishness not to!

Jordan Belfort was definitely not behind the scenes type of guy.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I just watched Jordan Belfort being interviewed by Vlad Lyubovny (DJVlad/Vlad TV) and it's clear (imo) Jordan possesses tons of emotional intelligence, it's obvious by how closely he listens to every question asked, excellent eye contact, he's intuitive and skilled at reading people/the room etc.

Guy doesn't miss a trick!!

I can understand why he's so great at sales and why people got sucked in and fell for his manipulations and elaborate schemes!

He's also smart! He was discussing penny stocks and "pump and dump" techniques etc and I tried to follow but jeez! Extremely complicated stuff imo and I'm a fairly smart person!

Re: his character, people say you can't change one's character, you can fake having good character but it's a facade.

After watching/listening to this interview, I am not sure now because it seems Jordan during his Wall Street years, while insanely successful business wise, had piss poor character and would use any means he could whether ethical or not to manipulate, control, scheme in order to get richer!

Now 30 years later, after serving time and writing the book (which is an amazing story in and of itself as admittedly he couldn't write even a page to save his life!), he's done some major introspection and self-reflection, acknowledges mistakes, owns his shyt and the chaos he created, paid all the money back to investors and displays humility!

He appears to have done a complete transformation and is now a legitimate motivational speaker helping others!

OR is this just more pretending, more manipulation?

Another different facade?

 

[Divorced w 3]

You mean like Jordan Belfort? I only recently watched The Wolf of Wall Street which is why I mention him..

Seriously, I just watched this for the first time on Monday. Wow wow wow is all I have to say.

Oh and Dicaprio was amazing!

Great example though imo. I suppose Bernie Madoff would be another?

I used to trust until someone gave me a reason not to, sadly now it's the other way around.

It's not even "trust but verify."

Now it's "verify" first then trust specifically when it comes to money, investing etc.

It's just plain foolishness not to!

I was referring more to the vermin that comprise the management structure of most organizations, but Bernie didn’t care who you were, family and friends included. He was pure evil.

 

[jhonny9546]

Speaking of emotional intelligence, I can't help but notice men complaining about their lives, their problems, their jobs, everything that's wrong with them, and women drooling over them, as if that were what attracted them in the first place, beucase this man have so many problems.

This also closely mirrors the experience of others here that talk about how women don't get along with "confident" and "independent" men. (They don't get along, they're not in tune with them).

"Emotional intelligence" is just a phrase that encompasses a set of communication circumstances.

 

[jhonny9546]

There is also another thing.. It's not only game..

Have you ever wondered why certain advice about relationships, therapy, or psychology doesn't seem to work for everyone? What if the problem is... cultural?

When we ask for opinions online, we often get responses from people all over the world, with very different values and perspectives. American advice might seem drastic, French advice too permissive. But perhaps, for them, that's the norm.

Let's take an example: if I'm cheated on and ask, "Should I forgive?", an American might say, "Absolutely not!", a Frenchman, "It depends, you can get over it." Who's right?

The point is that advice isn't universal: it's filtered by national culture, our social circle, the "microsphere" we live in. So we must ask ourselves: is it better to follow models that work in our environment, or aim for more universal behaviors that are perhaps less effective in our context?

So in this scenario would you consider emotional intelligence over good behaviour?
It's not just game, there is also a cultural aspect to it.

 

[Plinco]

For the past several decades, entirely too many men(my former self included)have fallen for the myth that mimicking the lone wolf action heroes we've encountered in fiction = The way to go in real life. End result has been a serious diminishing of our SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_intelligence

Why would that diminish your social intelligence? If you are interacting with people, hopefully you're seeing the patterns.

Social intelligence has nothing to do with conformity.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why would that diminish your social intelligence?

Why would emulating the lone wolf action heroes we've encountered in fiction for over a century now undermine us? One doesn't build social intelligence by trying to be a lone hero, that's why

Much as we all enjoy The Bond flicks, Die Hard, John Wick, Wolverine/Logan, etc etc, these are ultimately adolescenct fantasies which aren't representative of the ways in which men have succeeded throughout the history of our species

 

[Plinco]

Why would emulating the lone wolf action heroes we've encountered in fiction for over a century now undermine us? One doesn't build social intelligence by trying to be a lone hero, that's why

Circular reasoning.

I'm independent minded, but here I am building an acquaintance circle, doing the occasional cold approach, and being successfully self-employed. Being independent minded has not prevented me from communicating with people on a daily basis.

Pattern recognition is a feature of intelligence. Interacting with people + pattern recognition = social intelligence.

 

[itouchyou]

Lack of emotional intelligence means a man is highly reactive. That's a flat out beta trait to have.

That's generally how women behave, so if women are saying that men don't have emotional intelligence, what they're really saying is that men are sensitive and overly reactive to things that shouldn't bother them.

In other words, men aren't behaving like the rocks they're supposed to be.

This is something that these stupid zoomers and looksmaxxers etc can't understand and why women despise a lot of men today.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'm independent minded, but here I am building an acquaintance circle, doing the occasional cold approach, and being successfully self-employed. Being independent minded has not prevented me from communicating with people on a daily basis

Yeah, it's much wiser to be Jack Reacher in S2 of Reacher than it is Frank Castle. That's all I'm saying