Emotional Intelligence

[CornbreadFed]

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to understand, manage, and use emotions effectively. It involves recognizing your own emotions and those of others, regulating your behavior, and building strong relationships. Key components of EI include self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.

You guys don't think the term defined above is good to have? I guess if you can't recognize it, you wouldn't know perhaps? Having all of this helps you be more effictive and have better relationships.

The male loneliness crisis is a real thing for a reason. We can blame society all day, but it is hard to ignore obvious stuff like this.

 

[Sega Genesis]

For centuries, we just called all that "living consciously", "being a keen observer", etc etc. Creating a pseudo-academic concept like EQ just injects confusion into an already chaotic world

I don't want to start a war (teasing. ) but what's confusing or difficult to understand?

Those who are and believe it means what @Rainman4707 believes it means are focusing on the word "emotional" disregarding the word "intelligence."

Intelligent people (emotionally and intellectually) generally speaking are not overly and irrationally emotional or over-reactive (men or women) and with respect to men who possess EI they certainly won't be behaving like women or taking on the wife role as the OP believes.

The term's purpose is to differentiate it from "intellectual intelligence/quotient (IQ).

Both IQ and EQ are needed in varying degrees to be successful in life IMO.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I don't want to start a war (teasing. ) but what's confusing or difficult to understand?

Those who are and believe it means what @Rainman4707 believes it means are focusing on the word "emotional" disregarding the word "intelligence."

Intelligent people (emotionally and intellectually) generally speaking are not overly and irrationally emotional or over-reactive (men or women) and with respect to men who possess EI they certainly won't be behaving like women or taking on the wife role as the OP believes.

The term's purpose is to differentiate it from "intellectual intelligence/quotient (IQ).

Both IQ and EQ are needed in varying degrees to be successful in life IMO.

We've had the "book smart/street smarts" dichotomy for eons. This new IQ/EQ paradigm is indeed another small piece of chaos to distract us as the world burns.

Not that you care, Sega. As long as you get your attention, amirite?

Lolz

 

[BadBoy89]

I think men only lack emotional intelligence when a girl is under 30 and hot, has 0 divorces and 0 kids.

In any other situation, men are in complete control of their emotions.

Men don’t lose control with their male friends
Men don’t lose control when single mothers don’t call them
Men don’t lose control when overweight women don’t call them
Men don’t lose control when ugly women don’t call them
Men don’t lose control when women over 35 don’t call them

If the woman is between 30-35, good looking, has 0 divorces and 0 kids, and doesn’t call them, they lose 40% control.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I don't want to start a war (teasing. ) but what's confusing or difficult to understand?

It's not "difficult to understand", so much as it is vague and specious. Scroll down to the section which reads Validity https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_intelligence , and follow the links listed

 

[jhonny9546]

Like pook says. Men climb mountains, they dont priortise emotional intellience

dont let the mass media fool you. let men be men.

Just look at this image and notice how the subjects are defined: He is always the persecutor, She is always the persecuted.

We know very well that it can be true, but many times it goes both ways.
Manipulation is a form of violence, and if you're eyes are trained enough, You can see the woman manipulation in this chart

 

[Rainman4707]

^^You're correct Pook does not, he doesn't need to. The EI he possesses is reflected by the advice he gives.

EI is not something you announce or even mention to people, it simply exists like one's IQ.

People don't announce or mention their IQ so why should they announce or discuss their EQ? Again it simply exists and part of one's overall intelligence.

The definition I gave earlier was not MY definition, it's the standard definition given by psychologists and written in psychology journals etc.

The definition I gave came from AI.

But no worries, you want to disagree and believe it's means being overly emotional, men behaving like women taking the wifey role etc that is certainly your prerogative.

I did'nt say that at all.

I get it that men obviosly need some emotional intelligence, my issue is it is its been made out to be the bee and end all. Makes me sick. I find it insulting when i see lots of women on hinge saying they value emotional intelligence above all else. A lot of women talk bullcrap.

I just think it's laughable, women these days are well on their high horse dictating little nuances of what they require.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I did'nt say that at all.

so to keep the polarity attraction they are asking men to turn into women. I will never sit at home and play the wife role. "Hi honey, how was your day? Emotions are for women.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I just think it's laughable, women these days are well on their high horse dictating little nuances of what they require.

They can "dictate" all they want. We don't have to capitulate

 

[Dash Riprock]

In many ways, emotional intellegence is also known as maturity.

This. Enough said. No need to over-debate what EI is.

I only date women 15-20 years younger and some younger than that. What's the number one reason? Success yes, but the fact I don't sit at home smoking weed, getting fat, playing videos games all day. I know how to plan dates, show them a good time, and always keep my cool. They have overtly told me most of the guys they date are very immature and goal-less.

 

[BaronOfHair]

They have overtly told me most of the guys they date are very immature and goal-less.

And this even as modern a phenomena as we're often told https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stripes_(film)

Note the dates on each

 

[Mike32ct]

I did'nt say that at all.

I get it that men obviosly need some emotional intelligence, my issue is it is its been made out to be the bee and end all. Makes me sick. I find it insulting when i see lots of women on hinge saying they value emotional intelligence above all else. A lot of women talk bullcrap.

I just think it's laughable, women these days are well on their high horse dictating little nuances of what they require.

I think EQ is important, but it’s sometimes implied or suggested that low EQ is the primary reason a sub-6 guy is struggling. That is disingenuous imo.

Having sufficient EQ is like dressing well. It’s a good idea and highly encouraged. But, alone, it’s only enough to get you friendzoned. It’s not enough to actually move the needle on attraction.

On the other hand, if women are complaining about certain guys they already find attractive that might not have the EQ they prefer, ok fair enough.

 

[SW15]

I think EQ is important, but it’s sometimes implied or suggested that low EQ is the primary reason a sub-6 guy is struggling. That is disingenuous imo.

Having sufficient EQ is like dressing well. It’s a good idea and highly encouraged. But, alone, it’s only enough to get you friendzoned. It’s not enough to actually move the needle on attraction.

I agree with your assessment on EQ.

I have said that initial attraction and retention are a mixture of looks, money, status, and personality.

Looks and money are most important.

Personality factors like EQ become relevant. If a man has a subpar personality, it becomes more noticeable if the man's looks are not elite.

Good EQ without good looks is often a recipe for the friend zone.

I have managed to avoid friend zones with women I find attractive over the years. Even my one friendship with a mid woman wasn't good and I don't want to do that again.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I think EQ is important, but it’s sometimes implied or suggested that low EQ is the primary reason a sub-6 guy is struggling. That is disingenuous imo.

Having sufficient EQ is like dressing well. It’s a good idea and highly encouraged. But, alone, it’s only enough to get you friendzoned. It’s not enough to actually move the needle on attraction.

On the other hand, if women are complaining about certain guys they already find attractive that might not have the EQ they prefer, ok fair enough.

Yeah, but making that sub-6 guy into a 7.5-8 won't do much in the long run because he is competing against upper tier guys for 7s, 8s, and 9s. He will either have to be content with dating women well below his league or face the mental abuse of dating women along his league. With EQ, he is able to bridge this gap and compete against upper tier guys. There's a reason a lot of black pillers like wheat waffles fall in to this range.

 

[SW15]

face the mental abuse of dating women along his league.

I have faced a lot of mental abuse over time due to dating women around my SMV level.

I took the worst abuse from the women I met via dating website or dating app.

Meeting strangers in real life is a little bit better.

The way to meet women and get a girlfriend with the least amount of grief and frustration is through a social circle (mutual friends/acquaintances).

 

[CornbreadFed]

I have faced a lot of mental abuse over time due to dating women around my SMV level.

I took the worst abuse from the women I met via dating website or dating app.

Meeting strangers in real life is a little bit better.

The way to meet women and get a girlfriend with the least amount of grief and frustration is through a social circle (mutual friends/acquaintances).

This guy highlights the abuse the average man goes through in dating.

 

[GoodMan32]

There's IQ and then there's EQ.

EQ is another term for emotional intelligence.

A lot of times, those with high IQs have low EQs (myself included)

The same is true in reverse. The career felon gangster who barely graduated high school? Chances are he has an extremely high EQ (which is why many a woman's panties get soaked by the mere thought of being with him)