"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Do you think this former Stacy has hit The Wall?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Men hold their value for MUCH longer than women.
She's 50, maybe 50+, There's no way that a guy of her age, who has his sh*t together will want to date her, he'll be dating women significantly younger. She'll either have to lower her standards quite a bit, or date somebody 60+, and that's if she can find a high value 60yr-old who isn't dating women in their 40s.
She's basically delusional
Hell, I'm 59 and routinely date down by 15 yrs, often more, (currently seeing a 45yo) - And I'm not exactly Brad Pitt, I just keep myself in decent condition and have my finances sorted.
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Joker is only partially correct. A smaller, segment of older men hold their value. The typical older man doesn't make enough money to see much in the way of a value increase. The typical 35+ year old will likely end up pursuing some women with baggage who is close to his own age because that's all that is available to him. Some of these men also end up simping for younger women on OnlyFans and Instagram.
Plenty of thirst men who are 55-65 will be interested in her. 50+ women are reported getting their inboxes flooded with messages on Match and OurTime. It's not uncommon today to be a 55 year old woman on Match who gets hundreds of messages and generates more interest than she did as a 20 year old in the late 1980s (the pre-internet era). The swipe apps are also starting to get more traction in the 45+ communities.
She's making that video because her standards are too high. She could have a boyfriend tomorrow if she had reasonable standards.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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50 is the ultimate pump and dump age. Assuming she only wants men who can get women...looks milfy enough to bang , but ofcourse no man who can pull will commit to her.
The only thing that makes it sad for such a woman is she's been gorgeous all her life..and suddenly boom, she's just "some kinda hot". Different worlds
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Want proof? Larsa Pippen is 49.
Michael Jordan Doesn't Approve of Son Dating Larsa Pippen
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It's also very difficult for a woman who is 45-50 to get pregnant. The U.S. Census Bureau measures female fertility among women 15-44. Lack of pregnancy potential helps in casual sex.
Paulina Porizkova had a different time adjusting to that as she aged and got divorced.
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Mandatory:Want proof? Larsa Pippen is 49.
Michael Jordan Doesn't Approve of Son Dating Larsa Pippen
https://www.tmz.com/2023/07/03/michael-jordan-son-marcus-jordan-larsa-pippen-not-approve/ Outside of the top 5-10% of men, most men don't have great options. Hey @SW15, I think you'd agree Marcus Jordan is a top 5-10% man. So what the heck is this guy doing going public with a divorcee with 3...
It's also very difficult for a woman who is 45-50 to get pregnant. The U.S. Census Bureau measures female fertility among women 15-44. Lack of pregnancy potential helps in casual sex.
Paulina Porizkova had a different time adjusting to that as she aged and got divorced.
This was a really hot woman. Exactly as I said, she gradually went from a 9 to a 6/7. She is still good looking by the way, and I geuss she'll also be high maintenance .
Larsen Pippen is yet another example. Interestingly enough you might as well conclude that these women know how to keep themselves goodlooking. Not a bad future for us DJ,S any way..