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Having Trouble Focusing at Work… Tips?

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What’s up guys! I work as a Software Engineer, been working for about a year.

The last three days in a row, I’ve basically gotten NOTHING done at work. I stare at the screen, and I just can’t focus. I can’t even work for 5 minutes before my mind begins to wander away from work.

This isn’t good, because I’m trying to be a high performer and advance my career so I can get a higher TC/salary.

What I used to do in the past, worked pretty well for my productivity. I was slamming 600-1000 mgs of caffeine a day. Then, I would put on my Spotify playlist, or listen to some longer form music like symphonies(my background is in classical music.)

This made the day fly by, and I was able to work at a pretty good pace.

But lately, it hasn’t been working at all. I just can’t focus. It’s my job and I need the money so I’ll do it, but the last few days have been so unproductive. Not good, because the amount of work and studying I have to do to succeed at a high level is exorbitant.

It’s possible that I’m developing a tolerance. I guess I have to start doing lines of coke now:lol: /s

I suppose you could say I’m a little bit burnt out of the whole software thing. It’s very strange. I thought taking breaks every single day would help, but it doesn’t seem to help that much? I’m trying to grind hard, but I just feel exhausted. That being said, I need to keep doing what I’m doing.

Maybe I just need willpower? I’m assuming this is happening because I need to use more willpower/have more of it.

Wanted to see if you all had struggled with anything like this, and get some tips before I do my next day of work.
 

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Some wise guys will say take some adderall hahaha

Do you get enough sleep? Getting enough is critically important. If I don't, my focus and concentration is off and definitely don't feel as sharp.
 

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Some wise guys will say take some adderall hahaha

Do you get enough sleep? Getting enough is critically important. If I don't, my focus and concentration is off and definitely don't feel as sharp.
I might have to, we’ll see :lol:

I think? Maybe? I need to start wearing my Apple Watch to bed and tracking my sleep. I truly have no clue how much sleep I’m getting these days.
 

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I dont get how you can not do any work as a software engineer. You can work on just one problem at a time which is gonna be some functionality or bug. It's really easy to focus as a software engineer you just gotta look at the part of code or problem your working on and i find coding or development usually a good way to stop thinking about my problems. I actually do it as a hobby and it does help me feel good.
 

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I dont get how you can not do any work as a software engineer. You can work on just one problem at a time which is gonna be some functionality or bug. It's really easy to focus as a software engineer you just gotta look at the part of code or problem your working on and i find coding or development usually a good way to stop thinking about my problems. I actually do it as a hobby and it does help me feel good.
At the moment I have to read through a lot of documentation, which probably isn’t helping a ton haha
 

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It’s time for vacation. Take two weeks off from work and all “hustle” shvt. No side jobs. Just relax.
That sounds amazing. I have 20 hours of PTO rn but I can keep saving it all to use at once.
 

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I just realized I never got treated for that sleep apnea. That could be part of the problem tbh
 

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That much caffeine is borderline on dangerous...also caffeine is a pretty crappy drug in that your body quickly becomes accustomed to it and you needed more and more to have the same effect.

It also is likely effecting the quality of your sleep at that dosage.
 

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It’s time for vacation. Take two weeks off from work and all “hustle” shvt. No side jobs. Just relax.
Stuck at home? Dude has no car.
 

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I just realized I never got treated for that sleep apnea. That could be part of the problem tbh
If your energy level is a problem, you might want to look into adrenal fatigue, substitute the caffeine with b12, ginseng, rhodiola, etc.
 

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That much caffeine is borderline on dangerous...also caffeine is a pretty crappy drug in that your body quickly becomes accustomed to it and you needed more and more to have the same effect.

It also is likely effecting the quality of your sleep at that dosage.
I really do think I have a tolerance. I’ve had mornings where I’ve slammed two energy drinks and feel nothing. (That’s 400 mgs)

So I just go cold Turkey? And then the tolerance goes away?
 

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I really do think I have a tolerance. I’ve had mornings where I’ve slammed two energy drinks and feel nothing. (That’s 400 mgs)

So I just go cold Turkey? And then the tolerance goes away?
Taper. Many people get migraines if they try to cold turkey caffeine.
 
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You need to find a job that stimulates your brain, creativity. If you think your task is mundane and you are pretty knowledgeable in what you do, hop into tech sales :)
 

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You need to find a job that stimulates your brain, creativity. If you think your task is mundane and you are pretty knowledgeable in what you do, hop into tech sales :)
You know, it could just be this current task that I’m on tbh. Kind of tedious lol
 

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Not enough sex? If I go too long without sex, I have issues concentrating.
 

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25 minute tomato timer. Starts with a p… pomadoro
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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