"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Suddenly lots of matches on OLD , what gives?

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To be clear, I've only used Hinge on and off for the past 4+ years. I would get about 10 matches per week at best (and that was with me actively liking the profiles (which limits sending 8 likes per day)

Fast forward to now, and I get anywhere from 15-30 per week (sometimes more) and I almost never send any likes out myself. I hit "50+" likes in the first 2 weeks and while I cannot see how many I have (hidden after 50), I suspect it's approaching 500 but may even be closer to 1000. And this is living in a fairly average sized city.

I do have some better pics/prompts but that can't surely be all. Could it be that there is less competition among nowadays since more men are completely hopeless? Or are more women using dating apps now for attention/farming? I have also noticed more women are less likely to actually agree to a date even if they show high interest early on. I suspect women are running out of sources for validation from social media so they're just using OLD as another platform for attention tokens, or could be a part of an even larger trend using apps to distract themselves from their lifestyle/mental problems.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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V-Day. Watch out for the Hopeless Romantics.
 

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Timing.

After the holidays and the start of a new year. Best time to find someone new to monkey branch away from the dude they arent really into but dated for 3-4 months since late October/early November since it was better than having nobody during the winter months and holiday season.

Now they will start going out with other people and likely get rid of that guy by V-day and start something new with someone else.
 

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V-Day. Watch out for the Hopeless Romantics.

Timing.

After the holidays and the start of a new year. Best time to find someone new to monkey branch away from the dude they arent really into but dated for 3-4 months since late October/early November since it was better than having nobody during the winter months and holiday season.

Now they will start going out with other people and likely get rid of that guy by V-day and start something new with someone else.
This trend started when I reopened my profile back in August and has been fairly consistent since then.
 

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do you resemble any en-vogue celebrity?
I'm often told I look like x or y, since I seem to have composite features of many dark haired white guys. Used to get Aaron Rodgers a lot, but also Ryan Reynalds and many others I don't even know.
 
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Hinge seems to have the highest return of girls actually wanting relationships...That said the rules and dichotomy of tinder still apply. Most guys I knew who used it were average looking always matching and talking with girls, but never not once did any of them get them on a date. They were penpals. If you're game aware and know how to transition from texting to a meetup and these girls aren't taking the bait then they are attention seeking pen pals. Timing is one thing as well. If you live somewhere cold people are more inclined to chat you up online and with the holidays over you get those whack girls who need a v-day date.

Hinge is more or less a rebadged tinder which is becoming more trendy. Tinder was once an app for hookups, then it became both dating and hookups, and now it is essentially an attention farm for women's ego and very few meetup aside from the still occasional hookup. Covid has murdered peoples social skills and young people especially have a hard time with social interaction period. Hinge seems to be an app which encourages Para-social online relationships which probably never amount to anything. I also don't think one can properly deduce high interest over text without first meeting the person. People will feign interest in you to keep you on the hook and provide attention. Guys do it too.
 

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Could be; some of them seemed suspiciously hot though I've barely used it so I haven't talked to enough to get a sense.
 
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