"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When a girl gives you her number easily

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When you approach a girl and she gives you her number easily, is that a good sign or a bad one? Does it show high interest or ....?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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When you approach a girl and she gives you her number easily, is that a good sign or a bad one? Does it show high interest or ....?
Yes and No.

If she gave you her phone number, the ONLY way you're going to know if she's interested or not is contacting her and see if she's open to meeting up with you.

Phone numbers mean nothing. The only way to determine real interest is by reaching out.
 

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Phone numbers mean less and less now. I don't even bother to collect one unless there's an agreement for a future one-on-one get together.

Even with an agreement and a phone number, that's not that meaningful as a woman could easily flake on that.
 

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OK, I think I should have been more clear with my question. I'm specifically talking about what Anti Dump says in the quote bellow.

I'm trying to figure out why AD argues here that giving away the number is a bad sign. Is it because it shows the woman is desperate, or ...?
He only made ONE mistake. He took her number.

keep trying to tell you guys when a women INITIATES a date or relationship she is not very serious. Women have a million reasons for asking you out.

Very few are for romantic purposes. This guy blamed himself. That's a shame. THE GIRL HAD LOW INTEREST FROM THE START. Him getting the number the 'easy way' should have alerted him not to take it seriously. You guys have to keep your EGOS in place. You think you must be fantastic for her to give you her number. It proves you don't know women. WHEN A GUY IS FANTASTIC WOMEN (most) ARE A LITTLE AFRAID to make a move.

They make their moves on guys that are NOT overpowering emotionally. If a woman thinks you are out of her league (above her) she will NOT ask you out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She could just want free attention and validation. Ask her out on a date with specific time/place; she either says yes or counteroffers, everything else is a no.
 

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When you approach a girl and she gives you her number easily, is that a good sign or a bad one? Does it show high interest or ....?
No way to tell...some women give out their numbers to get rid of guys and because it's safer to reject them via text from the safety of their own home than face to face.
 

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No way to tell...some women give out their numbers to get rid of guys and because it's safer to reject them via text from the safety of their own home than face to face.
That's why getting a number without an extended conversation and a date agreement is worthless. Even getting the number after getting a date agreement isn't that meaningful because a decent amount of those will flake too.
 

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OK, I think I should have been more clear with my question. I'm specifically talking about what Anti Dump says in the quote bellow.

I'm trying to figure out why AD argues here that giving away the number is a bad sign. Is it because it shows the woman is desperate, or ...?
That's a good quote from AD and quite self-explanatory...what don't you understand? :rolleyes: She's either desperate or has some interest in you which isn't romantic. Also highly likely she's a masculine woman.
 

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When you approach a girl and she gives you her number easily, is that a good sign or a bad one? Does it show high interest or ....?
Pretty much what this guy said below...and everyone else said the same thing.


Yes and No.

If she gave you her phone number, the ONLY way you're going to know if she's interested or not is contacting her and see if she's open to meeting up with you.

Phone numbers mean nothing. The only way to determine real interest is by reaching out.
That is why you should get in the habit of giving her YOUR number.

If you give a woman your number, and she hits you up; that shows that she is genuinely interested in you....because she has no obligation whatsoever to reach out to you.

So if she does, it says a LOT about her interest in you.

Because guess what, women don't reach out to guys (especially strangers) that they are not interested in.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That's a good quote from AD and quite self-explanatory...what don't you understand? :rolleyes: She's either desperate or has some interest in you which isn't romantic. Also highly likely she's a masculine woman.
That was my interpretation as well. But I was looking for a more experienced DJ's opinion as well.

Pretty much what this guy said below...and everyone else said the same thing.




That is why you should get in the habit of giving her YOUR number.

If you give a woman your number, and she hits you up; that shows that she is genuinely interested in you....because she has no obligation whatsoever to reach out to you.

So if she does, it says a LOT about her interest in you.

Because guess what, women don't reach out to guys (especially strangers) that they are not interested in.
I think I'm gonna try giving my number and getting their numbers with different chicks and see which works best

At least it’s not her instagram. That’s basically purgatory.
LoL, I never do the insta shyt.
 
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