"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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At what point does it make SENSE to get married?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DreamAgain

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It makes sense to get married in your mid 20s with a similarly aged or slightly younger wife.

You will have children earlier in the prime of your life, which means you will be younger when they get older, and be able to spend more quality time with them.

You will save precious time circling the wagons at bars, clubs, and other places where the odds of finding a potential future wife are very slim. You will be sacrificing your health, wallet, and time going to these places often.

You will also waste time on online dating which has a very poor return on investment.

You will be able to establish roots earlier, build equity earlier, and most importantly, enjoy your precious youth with a person you love.
 

FlexpertHamilton

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When you're 45-50
 

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It makes sense to get married in your mid 20s with a similarly aged or slightly younger wife.

You will have children earlier in the prime of your life, which means you will be younger when they get older, and be able to spend more quality time with them.

You will save precious time circling the wagons at bars, clubs, and other places where the odds of finding a potential future wife are very slim. You will be sacrificing your health, wallet, and time going to these places often.

You will also waste time on online dating which has a very poor return on investment.

You will be able to establish roots earlier, build equity earlier, and most importantly, enjoy your precious youth with a person you love.
Why are you assuming that if you get married you will have children right away?

Wrong assumption. People are waiting longer and longer to have kids these days, not having them immediately after getting married.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pandora

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Marriage is a trick, a device designed by society to make trouble between two people who would otherwise get on very well
I sort of suspected this. Some couples can date for decades but as soon as they get married they dont last 5 yrs. There is something suffocating about marriage.
 

Pandora

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Its makes no sense unless you want to have kids. Its all downsides exempt tax advantages. Once you have had a couple married women in your bed you will never want to get married.
 
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