"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Losing 15lbs in 30 days

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Planning to bike 2 miles RT to the gym, 4 times a week
Max 10 reps x 3
Bench Press - 155lb​
Swat - 80lb (shameful)​
Overhead Press - 80lb​
​
Focusing on Keto, <50g carbs a day
4-6 drinks a night :zip: going to bring it down
Fasting after dinner to lunch

Sucks I'll have a work trip next week and weekends with friends/family. Let's hold me accountable

Basic male hormone test to be done tomorrow
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Planning to bike 2 miles RT to the gym, 4 times a week
Max 10 reps x 3
Bench Press - 155lb​
Swat - 80lb (shameful)​
Overhead Press - 80lb​
​
Focusing on Keto, <50g carbs a day
4-6 drinks a night :zip: going to bring it down
Fasting after dinner to lunch

Sucks I'll have a work trip next week and weekends with friends/family. Let's hold me accountable
The cardio and low carbs will strip the fat out. Do 1hrs of cardio 5-6 days a week while you are on low carb and you will strip out 2-3lbs per week by starving the fat.

Do the weight training to maintain the muscle, eat .8-1g of protein per lbs of goal bodyweight to feed the muscle, so for you it would be at least 150grams of protein in that diet.
 
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So I rode my bike to the gym this morning and man that was a workout of itself! I was exhausted, and did my thing. I caught a fit chick catching glances at me, granted I'm a far from fit.
After dropping off my car to get all the ignition coils and spark plugs replaces at 72k miles to fix my engine issue (1 failed coil) @Bokanovsky (biggest fear was the HPFS)
I was waiting for an uber like a broke ass, chick walked by turned around and smiled as I looked up. Granted she wasn't a stunner but still doable when needed.

Is this what being single feels like? More motivation for me :p
 
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^^^ Are you saying 1-mile, one way on the bike? Is the bike a supertanker with 1/2 flat tires, or are you very
Out of shape?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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^^^ Are you saying 1-mile, one way on the bike? Is the bike a supertanker with 1/2 flat tires, or are you very
Out of shape?
Ok I had to google map it. it's 2.3 miles one way. No **** why I was so tired. And yes very much out of shape

Edit:
Not tired, but my thighs were very sore from squatting 90 lbs 2 days ago...:lol:
 

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I like your Candor. I ride so my advice is to ride every day for at least 5-10 minutes for a while. No need to gear up just go to the stop sign. Good for your bike legs and saddle soreness.
 

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Sorry to burst your bubble but 15 lbs in 30 days is not a healthy, sustainable goal. 0.5-1 lb per week is more realistic.

Your workout split is doing too much at once. I am a huge fan of biking myself, it is incredibly fun as cardio. The best shape I ever was in came from bike commuting. I did 16 miles round trip, 3-4 times per week. I was reasonably fit beforehand but in just 6 months I looked like a fitness model and lost about 15 lbs. My average speed on the bike had climbed to about 20 miles per hour on flat surface.
 
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My plan is to focus on a core muscle group a day

Arms
Bicep curls​
Overhead Press​
Tricep pull down​
Lateral raises​
Legs/Core
Squats​
Toe raises​
Swivel ab machine​
Leg raises in that gundam robot structure​
Back
Lat pulldowns​
Row with weights​
Lower back extension​
Chest
Bench press, incline, decline​
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Thoughts?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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EyeBRollin

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My plan is to focus on a core muscle group a day

Arms
Bicep curls​
Overhead Press​
Tricep pull down​
Lateral raises​
Legs/Core
Squats​
Toe raises​
Swivel ab machine​
Leg raises in that gundam robot structure​
Back
Lat pulldowns​
Row with weights​
Lower back extension​
Chest
Bench press, incline, decline​
​
Thoughts?
Way too much. Start with a base strength program such as Stronglifts or Starting Strength. Do that for 3-4 months to build a foundational base of strength.

After that, asses if you want to further drop lbs or continue strength building. If you want maximum fat loss, pick up a cardio program of your interest and focus on that. Bicycling, running, swimming, and recreational sports (soccer, basketball, etc) are all good choices.
 

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Planning to bike 2 miles RT to the gym, 4 times a week
Max 10 reps x 3
Bench Press - 155lb​
Swat - 80lb (shameful)​
Overhead Press - 80lb​
​
Focusing on Keto, <50g carbs a day
4-6 drinks a night :zip: going to bring it down
Fasting after dinner to lunch

Sucks I'll have a work trip next week and weekends with friends/family. Let's hold me accountable

Basic male hormone test to be done tomorrow
Just fyi, alcohol is processed by your body into glucose. It does not contain carbs, but it might as well.
 

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A salmonella infection might get you a 15 pound drop in 30 days....Or a tapeworm....
 

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The cardio and low carbs will strip the fat out. Do 1hrs of cardio 5-6 days a week while you are on low carb and you will strip out 2-3lbs per week by starving the fat.

Do the weight training to maintain the muscle, eat .8-1g of protein per lbs of goal bodyweight to feed the muscle, so for you it would be at least 150grams of protein in that diet.
The weights should be 3-6 days per week 30 minutes to 1 hrs, you can split up the weight and cardio sessions if you must. At least medium intensity, one session per week of high intensity. Hitting the weights hard forces the body to spare the muscle while cutting. On my body for whatever reason it seems to make the fat be stripped out harder.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Planning to bike 2 miles RT to the gym, 4 times a week
Max 10 reps x 3
Bench Press - 155lb​
Swat - 80lb (shameful)​
Overhead Press - 80lb​
​
Focusing on Keto, <50g carbs a day
4-6 drinks a night :zip: going to bring it down
Fasting after dinner to lunch

Sucks I'll have a work trip next week and weekends with friends/family. Let's hold me accountable

Basic male hormone test to be done tomorrow
You can also switch to Whey protein shakes instead of meals to cut fast. However, check with a doctor as you may need to take some supplements to balance out the missing vitamins and minerals you will be temporarily missing. Just note, your body will adjust to the missing calories, so it may not be that pleasant.

Weight loss has more to do with what you put in your mouth than what or how you exercise. Unless you're swole, you may to lose around 40 lbs.
 

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You can also switch to Whey protein shakes instead of meals to cut fast. However, check with a doctor as you may need to take some supplements to balance out the missing vitamins and minerals you will be temporarily missing. Just note, your body will adjust to the missing calories, so it may not be that pleasant.

Weight loss has more to do with what you put in your mouth than what or how you exercise. Unless you're swole, you may to lose around 40 lbs.
Whey protein is reactive in a large percentage of people...in many people it will help you hold onto weight instead of lose it
 

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Inflammation too due to processing. It's hard to beat high quality solid foods.
The 50 grams of carbs tops and 1hrs of cardio per day 6 days a week was the magic sauce the last times i was cutting. It really makes a big difference and forces your body to focus on pulling from it's fat stores.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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