"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She PM me at 02:00 AM on Facebook.

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Why has she texted me at 02:00 AM? Any experience on chicks texting late and why? Is this a good or bad sign?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What’s her age? If she’s in her 20’s or early 30’s she was probably getting home from a night out... or just about to head home. I would say she was probably looking for a late night hookup... as females get older those messages get earlier.
Your answer definitely alings with what I am thinking. She is in her early 30s. She is 33. Now, it is unknown whether she is returning home from a night out. Nevertheless, I believe she was. She has a daughter who is 15 years old, so no need to be changing dampers a 2:00 AM.
Here is a little background about how everything started.
I PM her on Facebook and gave her my opinion about something that happened to her. " For example I wrote her amout some people and mentioned that this X people do nothing for us. She replied "nothing is right" when I read her reply I thought she was changing gears to move on to another topic. I have to say that the conversation is getting bore. We do not have a lot in common. Anyway, my reply was "????in reference to????. I PM her around noon, then I logged out, but I came back online something later. I noticed that she had been online about half an hour ago, but did not leave a reply. So I didn't double text. Closed Facebook and went on my life and business. I was going to check if she had been online late, around midnight to leave me a text, but I just simply carried on and went to bed. I get emails when someone PMs me and I checked my mailbox to see if there was any from her. I found none. Then, around 02:36. I heard my phone email notification. I grabbed it, checked it, and it was her. I did not bother to log on Facebook and not even reply. So, in the morning, I wake up at 08:00 and logged in to Facebook. She had just been online a hour ago. I read her message, but I did not reply. She does know I have read her message. Now, I want to continue chatting, but I dont want to be talking about the same. I am about to read the antidump machine.
Now, I believe that she ignored me because the conversation was getting bored and probably wanted me to double text. Probably, she went out(this happened last night, Saturday) and after being unable to find some1 she decided to PM me later than never. So like to have something in her back burner. Online I googled the question and the answer I found is that she values me to some extend.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women don’t care. This happens ALL the time. I don’t know if it’s good of bad. I’ve had everything from girls I just met at a cafe to LTRs do it.
 

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Women don’t care. This happens ALL the time. I don’t know if it’s good of bad. I’ve had everything from girls I just met at a cafe to LTRs do it.
I PM her back at 04:30 PM today. I am in America. Within a minute of my PM, she was online and went straight to Messenger. Previously, she had been online around noon. I read her messanger status displaying "last online within 3 hours". She did not reply instantly and has not replied yet. I logged off.
 

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I PM her back at 04:30 PM today. I am in America. Within a minute of my PM, she was online and went straight to Messenger. Previously, she had been online around noon. I read her messanger status displaying "last online within 3 hours". She did not reply instantly and has not replied yet. I logged off.
Things work out. Don't stress it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Forget about it. You're thinking way too much about her.
You are not helping here at all. Just criticizing. The girl listed 2 Facebook relationships last year after August 30. Both of the relationship ended and each lasted a month and were long distance relationship with dudes living 5 hours away from her.
I do not know what happened, but she has a daughter. Anyway, she was answering my questions, but I last sent her a video I made and posted on YouTube. I wanted to see if she would ask me questions about it, but she has not. It was kind of an indirect approach to see if conversation would flow between us. I want to ask her for her number, but I do not like that I am always initiating PMs and she does not ask any thing. Well, she did asked me. She asked me where I was and I told her. When I first PM her, she was in no obligation to PM me back. So if she wouldn't want anything, she would have just blocked me.
 

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It's not a criticism, just trying to help your inner game buddy.
Yeah, but we cant be giving up so quick. I would just give up if she doesn't give number or doesn't want to go out and even cancels date last minute. My concern is she does not initiate texts. Correction PMs, we are on Facebook.
 

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Yeah, but we cant be giving up so quick. I would just give up if she doesn't give number or doesn't want to go out and even cancels date last minute. My concern is she does not initiate texts. Correction PMs, we are on Facebook.
Sometimes you have to be willing to lose something before you can gain it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You care and over think to much just by reading the length of your posts. Why is the question here?
 

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You care and over think to much just by reading the length of your posts. Why is the question here?
If you don't know the question, then you never read the post. As a result, no need to provide your opinion based on perception or experience, and no need to participate at all. Read the post. It is considerably short if compare to other posts.
 
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She sent me a PM this morning after I asked her for her number the day before at noon. I do not know if she provided me with her number in her last message. I have not opened it. She tipically texts late at night, but she didn't do it this time. I believe she is into trying to figure out if I come up online the minute she PMs me. I get emails and I know when she PMs me, but I cannot read anything unless I log in to Facebook. I am folliwing antidump. If there is a number, then I should wait 5 days and call her to set up a date. 5 days is next Monday. I hope she did send her number. Bitsh $@!#&÷€!!!!
 

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1) Quit overthinking.
2) log in and get the number
3) text her that you got her number and will be in touch later that day....


Waiting 5 days is stupid. She has already responded.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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