"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tip request: When she starts turning up the heat on commitment.

BeExcellent

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Advice from the old lady:

Plates break. If OP doesn’t want to meet her needs then he risks losing her as he already knows. No woman worth having will put up with plate status for any length of time.

So if you don’t want a GF you are on borrowed time already. I do not like to share a man. It is not possible to build something truly deep & meaningful while a relationship is not a closed system. I will not tolerate plate status for long nor will others who are worthwhile as a good partner.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Here's the deal...you can keep deflecting things with a woman but at some point either you will end up making her your GF or she will find someone who will.

The problem is that guys who want to keep her around as a plate don't seem to understand there is a shelf life for that status and that if she wants more you will either give it to her or she will find someone else who will.

Not saying to make a decision based on that at all, just keep in mind if you only want her as a plate, this will only work for so long. How long is dependant on several things, but usually will only last 3-6 months max.
 

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It’s not about being elite or getting anything you desire. It’s about if a woman can make a man’s head spin at 40, real life would chew him up and spit him out.
Badboy, look into RolloTomasi and his concept of plate spinning. This is what I was referring to in the OP. Have a good day!
 

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Here's the deal...you can keep deflecting things with a woman but at some point either you will end up making her your GF or she will find someone who will.

The problem is that guys who want to keep her around as a plate don't seem to understand there is a shelf life for that status and that if she wants more you will either give it to her or she will find someone else who will.

Not saying to make a decision based on that at all, just keep in mind if you only want her as a plate, this will only work for so long. How long is dependant on several things, but usually will only last 3-6 months max.
Appreciate it
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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