Blocked by this girl after I tell her calmly I think we on different journeys and good luck

[SargeMaximus]

When you see it next time, you know your most likely a rebound and don't bother asking if you are or not because they won't be honest with you and if they are honest then you are low value to them.

By not labeling you a rebound immediately, she's leaving the door open for potentially something more, but the more honest she becomes, the more appealing a new guy who doesn't know anything becomes.

Her truth is simply her narrative and it changes between men

Yeah I get all that, I don’t care about that tbh. All I am concerned about is how to steer things away from those serious topics when she keeps bringing it up especially when I tried to do so as you see there.

Rebound or not who gives a f*ck? I’m not a Disney believer.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Yeah I get all that, I don’t care about that tbh. All I am concerned about is how to steer things away from those serious topics when she keeps bringing it up especially when I tried to do so as you see there.

Rebound or not who gives a f*ck? I’m not a Disney believer.

As men, the strongest tool we have is silence; women are attracted to men who show unclear feelings, here is the study: https://www.psychologicalscience.or...racted-to-men-whose-feelings-are-unclear.html

Silence is what drives the imagination, silence is space and without it, again, the plate can't spin, we don't lie to her, we let her lie to herself

 

[SargeMaximus]

As men, the strongest tool we have is silence; women are attracted to men who show unclear feelings, here is the study: https://www.psychologicalscience.or...racted-to-men-whose-feelings-are-unclear.html

Silence is what drives the imagination, silence is space and without it, again, the plate can't spin, we don't lie to her, we let her lie to herself

So basically only engage her when it’s a topic or convo you want to have but also lead the convo. However, if she keeps bringing things back to a topic you don’t like, then silence. Am I right?

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

So basically only engage her when it’s a topic or convo you want to have but also lead the convo. However, if she keeps bringing things back to a topic you don’t like, then silence. Am I right?

Unless it's a deal breaker then you should address it like the previous messages I posted about the chick who couldn't afford swimming, like I have no intent to date a bum so now I'm gonna have fun and insult her but if that wasn't a deal breaker i would just be silent, I'd pay, but I'd keep my feelings on paying unclear to her.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Unless it's a deal breaker then you should address it like the previous messages I posted about the chick who couldn't afford swimming, like I have no intent to date a bum so now I'm gonna have fun and insult her but if that wasn't a deal breaker i would just be silent, I'd pay, but I'd keep my feelings on paying unclear to her.

I’m confused, the girl I talked to wasn’t talking about paying

 

[derby1]

Yeah I know but I keep listening to advice on this forum about how I need to be conversational.

you can only text your way out the gates never into it

i slap myself in the face if I ever go over 4 DM's with a chic. I dont mind doing another 4 in the evening. but I never have text sessions. thats for their beta orbiters

 

[SargeMaximus]

Fvck her

That simple

Lol ok bro

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Really weird Convo bro if I have to be honest

 

[SargeMaximus]

Really weird Convo bro if I have to be honest

Right? That’s what I thought too. Glad someone agrees with me

 

[Atom Smasher]

It’s up to the man to steer the conversation. Women will flutter around all over the place like a butterfly. It’s up to us to steer the conversation the way we want it to go.

Hint: You don’t have to answer every question or acknowledge every statement.

 

[SargeMaximus]

It’s up to the man to steer the conversation. Women will flutter around all over the place like a butterfly. It’s up to us to steer the conversation the way we want it to go.

Hint: You don’t have to answer every question or acknowledge every statement.

Fair enough. But I did try to divert the convo several times (if you actually read it)

 

[spikeanut]

OP, you converse way too much for someone you've never met. To be blatantly honest, you steered the conversation into a ball of flames. Next time, keep the conversation with women light hearted, not serious, and brief. The date was set well before the conversation was derailed; stop there. You don't get to know someone over text; you do so in person. There were many cringe-worthy points within this conversation...most did not come from the girl. Use this experience to learn and move forward.

 

[SargeMaximus]

OP, you converse way too much for someone you've never met. To be blatantly honest, you steered the conversation into a ball of flames. Next time, keep the conversation with women light hearted, not serious, and brief. The date was set well before the conversation was derailed; stop there. You don't get to know someone over text; you do so in person. There were many cringe-worthy points within this conversation...most did not come from the girl. Use this experience to learn and move forward.

It’s funny how now that I am trying conversation as everyone on this forum was telling me to do, it’s suddenly the wrong thing to do.

Next time I’ll stick with my way

 

[derby1]

It’s funny how now that I am trying conversation as everyone on this forum was telling me to do, it’s suddenly the wrong thing to do.

Next time I’ll stick with my way

no ones told you to have text sessions with women, its well documented on the forum, in favour of keeping texts ltd.

modern women are lunatics bro, they will think your spelling mistake is a subliminal message to say their fat

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It’s funny how now that I am trying conversation as everyone on this forum was telling me to do, it’s suddenly the wrong thing to do.

Next time I’ll stick with my way

It's not the conversation that was bad it's the content of the conversation that was bad. There was nothing remotely interesting or exciting about that Convo that would make you stick out in a positive way.

 

[Barrister]

Yeah that’s what I’ve been saying all along too.

@Barrister but what am I supposed to do? Just ignore her? She was talking, I was replying

@jaymbrs yeah but I can’t tell how to do it tactfully. If she’s being serious it could become inflammatory hence why I asked her if she was serious because I thought of joking with her about it too

Well - first you should have just stopped once you had the date set unless SHE kept the conversation going. Second, to answer your more general question, you ask her questions. Lots of questions. About her. Most women love talking about themselves. You don’t volunteer information about yourself at all unless she specifically asks and then keep it brief like I said before. But it’s more about her talking pre-1st date and on the 1st date (and early on in general).

 

[SargeMaximus]

It's not the conversation that was bad it's the content of the conversation that was bad. There was nothing remotely interesting or exciting about that Convo that would make you stick out in a positive way.

Yeah I know that’s why I hate conversation because I need to talk in some weird other tongue that I don’t understand or enjoy

 

[SargeMaximus]

no ones told you to have text sessions with women, its well documented on the forum, in favour of keeping texts ltd.

modern women are lunatics bro, they will think your spelling mistake is a subliminal message to say their fat

Actually several people told me that I was being too abrupt and direct and should adopt a more conversational style. It’s also well documented on this forum

 

[SargeMaximus]

I meant "fvcl her" as in the "hell with here"

Ah, yes I agree. Thank you for clarifying

 

[Glassguy]

but what am I supposed to do? Just ignore her? She was talking, I was replying

"hey I gotta run as I am super busy. See you tomorrow at 3pm. Looking forward to meeting you"

Thats it. Way too much chit chat about stuff you shouldnt be caring about with someone you dont even know.

And I would have not said she was petty for thinking how she did, but that could have all been avoided by just not chit chatting so much.