She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Get tested....are you vaccinated?
Are you sure it's not allergies, sinusitis or post nasal drip? COVID-19 symptoms are usually:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They have slowed vaccinating to a crawl so unfortunately not.
I don't know, I'm still experiencing every symptom, I have to go sit in the drive thru, I haven't had anything besides water so I'm gonna make some tea here and see if I can taste it, I totally forgot about the taste thing
Are you in the US?
I understand the difference, the thing is we have a scheduling backlog so I've been scheduled to get it but I don't have it until August
Seriously? That's pretty crazy. You can pretty much go to any pharmacy here and get a rapid test done as a walk in and get the results back in 15 minutes or less.
No the vaccine, the test we have a drive thru
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's even more crazy...every vax center in this area has 500+ appointments for as far out as you can schedule. But the vax rate in NY is pretty high...
I have to read up on if I can get it if I test positive. I'm not sure how you would see that as even more crazy, I feel like your gas lighting.
Most professionals advise that you can get vaxed post Covid, after your quarantine time is done and you are no longer communicable.
That there are no vax appointments? I'm not sure where you are located but there are far far more vaccine doses here than people to get vax'd right now. I am assuming you aren't in the US or if you are must be in a very low vaccinated area where people are suddenly rushing to get it. That hasn't been the case for months here.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I believe he resides in Canada…
That explains it...Canada is lagging badly with that...to the chagrin of all the US border dwellers who haven't been able to visit family, run their businesses or check on their properties for almost a year and a half now...CA border reopening on the 9th of August to US residents and people are stoked.
Taste/smell thing is pretty unique to COVID. The rest could be due to a common cold, allergies, sinusitis (https://acpinternist.org/archives/2011/01/sinusitis.htm), or the summer flu (https://www.healthline.com/health/summer-flu).
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
