You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The discussion is about why there is so many views on this song, not on the merits of the song itself.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
There is no way to know that to certain, but I will say this. There are a number of female commentators on the video itself. Some of which have put comments about how sexy or pretty she is. They sound a bit queer to me, but I'm sure there are some straight ones too.
Like blue-pill Disney.
it is for dudes who never get out and mingle...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well, it is Pride month. Not too long ago, I think it was called Gay Pride month, but now they have to include all the other gender blending types and orientations. I also remember when I was younger, "queer" was considered a slur. Interesting how things change.
I don't agree with Pride month, but it is what it is. I already get shoved this agenda in my TV-shows and movies enough, (you might have a great TV-show like "The 100" for example, then some gay "moments" on there for that agenda, etc.... Take the recent HBO show Flight Attendant and how that is ruining an already interesting show, or even Jane the Virgin, etc...) and it's not nice to have things forced on you that you don't agree with.
