Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sure.. The girl who is a little cautious about swallowing your jiz, then possibly ending up with a disease that could effect her for years down the line.. She is definitely worthless right.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Pretty sure any STD is significantly more problematic than Covid.
As long as it is not required to be on a plane, I'm good. If they make it to where you will be outcasted from society (concerts, farmers market, grocery stores, etc), then we have a problem.
They'll say that to guys that they're not interested in along with their usual excuses.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That's not a bad idea, just be aware there is a minority of females who feel the opposite about it.
You have a good point there. Women are good at making excuses, even flimsy ones.
An excuse is an excuse. A good one just means she's smart or a more cunning manipulator.
One flimsy excuse that I got in the late 2010s was the following....
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You have some good memories with other women though right since 2010? Any great memories or encounters that stand out? For example, because I had such an amazing time in 2012 with an ex-gf, that made up for everything that happened prior to meeting her. I've yet to met someone to pick-up the slack for the modern times of dry-spell blahs.
Toronto is the problem here.
Toronto is one of the worst cities in North America for heterosexual, masculine men.
If you look at the whole 20+ years of my experiences, I have accomplished good things as well as endured massive emotional traumas. I like where things with a current woman in my life.
I also noticed the same on the line for my 1st shot on Wednesday, since there was a very large number of people in their 20s, including girls.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
