Really need a man’s advice. He broke up w/ his ex. Got with me. Got back w/her. They broke up and now he’s back w/ me. Has he developed feelings?

[Dilemma99]

He just wants to bang. It's quite obvious from his behaviour that this is all that it is.

if a man is spending ample time with a woman, taking her out, meeting the friends - all signs he likes you in most cases, but not here I guess, then how does a woman know a man wants to date her and not just “bang”?

 

[Glassguy]

so basically he doesn’t respect me and sees me as low value?

Did I say he doesnt respect you and sees you as low value?

I dont think anyone here can help you but you are more than welcome to observe with the other betas.

 

[Dilemma99]

Did I say he doesnt respect you and sees you as low value?

I dont think anyone here can help you but you are more than welcome to observe with the other betas.

no, you didn’t. However, you did mention he knows that he can have me and his ex is more of a challenge. When you know you can get a woman at anytime and she isn’t a challenge do you view her as high value?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Shouldn't let him go back and forth. There should be no question.

 

[Glassguy]

no, you didn’t. However, you did mention he knows that he can have me and his ex is more of a challenge. When you know you can get a woman at anytime and she isn’t a challenge do you view her as high value?

Typical woman and over analyzing literally everything lol.

Do you think men view women they can easy have as higher value than one that he has to work for?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Typical woman and over analyzing literally everything lol.

Do you think men view women they can easy have as higher value than one that he has to work for?

Has "working for" a female ever put any of us in a good position? Usually if she wants us in a good position they value us and will "work for us" .

 

[Visionist]

This guy is lovesick for his ex. Normally that alone would be enough to put other women off but you've already hooked yourself on him and see him as a catch despite him being a pathetic simp (no man with a shred of self respect admits crying over an ex to another girl, or to anyone). My guess is, he's a betabux (guy with money who can't get laid otherwise) whose never had abundance.

Anyway he wants to play BF-GF, he's thirsty for relationship energy, and since he can't get that from his ex, he's happy enough to get it from you for the time being. Are you having sex every day, or more times a day? You're both still in the honeymoon period, look up NRE (New Relationship Energy).

He might even convince himself he likes you as more than just a fvckbuddy, but make no mistake, if his ex gives him another chance, he'll dance to her tune like the simp he is, and give you another "we're friends" and "delete me" pep talk.

He's already done it once.

 

[manfrombelow]

Speaking of mall pickup. Random story from high school.

Met this girl at a mall when I was in 10th grade. She gives me her #, then when I call a few days later, she acts like she doesn't know who I am. When I tell her how we met, she goes 'oh yeah. I didn't give you my #. Don't know how you got it.'

Dang. She was cold.

Reality Denial Mode aka Women 101

Fvcking classic.

 

[Dilemma99]

This guy is lovesick for his ex. Normally that alone would be enough to put other women off but you've already hooked yourself on him and see him as a catch despite him being a pathetic simp (no man with a shred of self respect admits crying over an ex to another girl, or to anyone). My guess is, he's a betabux (guy with money who can't get laid otherwise) whose never had abundance.

Anyway he wants to play BF-GF, he's thirsty for relationship energy, and since he can't get that from his ex, he's happy enough to get it from you for the time being. Are you having sex every day, or more times a day? You're both still in the honeymoon period, look up NRE (New Relationship Energy).

He might even convince himself he likes you as more than just a fvckbuddy, but make no mistake, if his ex gives him another chance, he'll dance to her tune like the simp he is, and give you another "we're friends" and "delete me" pep talk.

He's already done it once.

Well we have sex everyday that I’m out here. I don’t live here - I flew out to see him.

 

[Dilemma99]

Typical woman and over analyzing literally everything lol.

Do you think men view women they can easy have as higher value than one that he has to work for?

no

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Wger4

Well we have sex everyday that I’m out here. I don’t live here - I flew out to see him.

Where does he stay?

 

[Dilemma99]

Wger4


Where does he stay?

what do you mean? Like where does he live?

I live in TN he’s in DC

 

[mrgoodstuff]

what do you mean? Like where does he live?

Yea trying to figure out what area and the stereotypes that exist there.

 

[Dilemma99]

Yea trying to figure out what area and the stereotypes that exist there.

im in TN he’s in DC. His ex is in DC too.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

im in TN he’s in DC. His ex is in DC too.

You shouldn't sweat nobody or make all of the effort.

 

[Dilemma99]

You shouldn't sweat nobody or make all of the effort.

Effort meaning flying to see him?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Effort meaning flying to see him?

If ya'll were balanced interest levels then you wouldn't be fussing. If your fussing and you know you aren't using someone or making them do all the work then you probably have a good reason.

 

[Dilemma99]

If ya'll were balanced interest levels then you wouldn't be fussing. If your fussing and you know you aren't using someone or making them do all the work then you probably have a good reason.

true true. I just figured since he has a house and I live with my family that’s why I’m the only flying out to see him and not the other way around?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

true true. I just figured since he has a house and I live with my family that’s why I’m the only flying out to see him and not the other way around?

It's still enabling that dynamic. If he comes your way you could stay in a hotel with him. When we get people "spoiled" you can't "unspoil" them, and the fvcked up thing is they might not be "spoiled" for the next person.

 

[bat soup]

Really need a man’s advice. He broke up w/ his ex. Got with me. Got back w/her. They broke up and now he’s back w/ me. Has he developed feelings?

He's developed a sore kock.