I fell in love, how do I get out of this?

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

"Get her over to your crib and do the night thaannnggg...."

that makes it worse tbh. I had to resist sex today because I was scared.

 

[deadmasterx]

And what's the problem with falling in love? It's a great thing. You get stronger by being vulnerable, that's what is gonna determine your success (or your failure). As long as you don't get clingy and needy, things will go alright.

 

[andreihaha]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

You have a problem, but it's not that you love someone. It's probably the fact that you're insecure about your feelings. That's what's more likely to fk things up for you.

So...I'd say forget about that macho bullsh1t and enjoy your time with the girl.

 

[Grinderman]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

What's important right now is to objectively observe what HER feelings are towards you (which you have not mentioned in your post)...
Is her interest level higher than yours? It needs to be, so there's something to focus on already. Turn your attention towards your goals : Health fitness (gym), Work (work to learn), Finances (financial freedom), Personal development (what are you working on), do you meditate, what's your social life like?. do you have male friends or associates to hang out with? are you still cultivating prospectes? (ie back up women)

Think long term with regards to your goals and ambitions.

Think long term with regards to your own happiness (plant seeds today)

Think short term with regards to women/this woman, for women are fickle. See her once a week and enjoy the process of having a good time, bringing positive energy and receiving her positive fire.

 

[bat soup]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

Why not just enjoy it? I wouldn't consider falling in love a problem until she files a restraining order.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

What's important right now is to objectively observe what HER feelings are towards you (which you have not mentioned in your post)...
Is her interest level higher than yours? It needs to be, so there's something to focus on already. Turn your attention towards your goals : Health fitness (gym), Work (work to learn), Finances (financial freedom), Personal development (what are you working on), do you meditate, what's your social life like?. do you have male friends or associates to hang out with? are you still cultivating prospectes? (ie back up women)

Think long term with regards to your goals and ambitions.

Think long term with regards to your own happiness (plant seeds today)

Think short term with regards to women/this woman, for women are fickle. See her once a week and enjoy the process of having a good time, bringing positive energy and receiving her positive fire.

She definitely has interest in me but she's on her purpose right now giving her the advantage. Me on the other had I work a stupid 9-5(pays enough to where I don't get Biden/Trump stimmie checks) that I hate and I can't tell if I should go back to school for a career change or get a job in tech sales and triple my income. I had a nice convo with my mom and last wine and cheat meal yesterday, so I should be good for the gym now lol.

I would say I am insecure about my feelings because I have had women go ghost on me completely and I can go on Tik Tok and easily see toxic women behavior. I never really care about this with my exes and I knew it wouldn't be the end of the world if the relationship would've ended that day. This one on the other hand sucks lol.

 

[Rainman4707]

How are you in love? I don't know what it feels like. A woman i slept with last week asked me what i thought love was. Was'nt sure how to answer her.

Sounds like you are in deeper than her. Pull back a little. I would'nt go telling her you love her.

How long have you been seeing her?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

Please don't tell me this is the same girl you have been dating less than a month.

 

[Mongo720]

Find a purpose and focus on being the best man you can be, the rest will fall into place. I have a female in my life that has her sh*t together, treats me well and knows she is not the focus of my life.
If you've found a woman you like, enjoy the ride and be a purposeful man !
Always remember females HATE needy men.

 

[Dash Riprock]

OP, chill brother. If you're human and not a cyborg, you have emotions and love is one of them.

But, 90% of guys DO shoot themselves in the foot at this point. Most get really WUSSY which is the biggest turnoff, like #1, for women.

Just be a MAN, not a love-sick puppy, and also have your own life and interests. Never stop "dating" her if you're in a LTR, big mistake people make.

Keep us posted.

 

[Glassguy]

I would suggest that you stop trolling first. That's always a great start to a lot of things....

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

How are you in love? I don't know what it feels like. A woman i slept with last week asked me what i thought love was. Was'nt sure how to answer her.

Sounds like you are in deeper than her. Pull back a little. I would'nt go telling her you love her.

How long have you been seeing her?

yeah **** that lol. I know with oneitis you had this hope motivation and it would motivate me to go to the gym and do better. Love you feel like a drug addict and legit sick lol. You don't want to workout because your mind is constantly drained.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

yeah **** that lol. I know with oneitis you had this hope motivation and it would motivate me to go to the gym and do better. Love you feel like a drug addict and legit sick lol. You don't want to workout because your mind is constantly drained.

If you need to feel like that for motivation to improve yourself by going to the gym you are already in trouble. Wanting self improvement needs to come from within not from some external force.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

If you need to feel like that for motivation to improve yourself by going to the gym you are already in trouble. Wanting self improvement needs to come from within not from some external force.

I don't disagree but a lot of men start working out for women or they got dumped by some girl. When I had oneitis, it would actually raise my thirst to go workout and do better.

 

[Rainman4707]

yeah **** that lol. I know with oneitis you had this hope motivation and it would motivate me to go to the gym and do better. Love you feel like a drug addict and legit sick lol. You don't want to workout because your mind is constantly drained.

Ok. Well i would advìse you take dashriprocks advice. If you start acting all needy and wussified, she will run for the hills.

I understand you feel good. That is your body chemicals.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

As one of our mentors, Allan Watts, eloquently said:

"The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. The moment that you enter into any kind of human undertaking in a relationship, what an act of faith. See, you've given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done: surrender."

There is a reason why it's called "falling" in love and not rising in love. Because in falling lies surrender and that is powerful.

The reason why you are afraid comes down to pain because love hurts sometimes. But, even in pain, lies something very powerful.

We know a few folks would say next her, f*** her, etc. And that's fine if you are spinning plates and you are in the phase of your life. But we are not against "settling" down. If you feel that way, go for it, just keep yourself in check and don't change. Keep your focus. Stay on YOUR path. That is all.


Hope this helps,
Modern Man Advice

 

[Gstring]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

Indeed. You have surrendered your emotional frigidness to a woman. Now it's up to her to make your life happy. Great job!

 

[RickTheToad]

The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I know it's not oneitis because I've had oneitis before too. I feel extremely vulnerable and like a drug addict right now. Admitting I was in love helped relieve a lot of stress, but this is the first time in my life I've ever had to deal with this.

You care too much.. Stop it. You'll be fine.

This will help a lot. Watch the 6 min. video and again, follow and you'll be fine.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

As one of our mentors, Allan Watts, eloquently said:

"The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. The moment that you enter into any kind of human undertaking in a relationship, what an act of faith. See, you've given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done: surrender."

There is a reason why it's called "falling" in love and not rising in love. Because in falling lies surrender and that is powerful.

The reason why you are afraid comes down to pain because love hurts sometimes. But, even in pain, lies something very powerful.

We know a few folks would say next her, f*** her, etc. And that's fine if you are spinning plates and you are in the phase of your life. But we are not against "settling" down. If you feel that way, go for it, just keep yourself in check and don't change. Keep your focus. Stay on YOUR path. That is all.


Hope this helps,
Modern Man Advice

I'm going to continue to fight it and maintain frame. If she wants to bring up exclusivity then that's a different story lol. I've found another interesting girl to keep me busy lol.