"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Living Alone

2Rocky

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Really focus on self improvement via projects. When I divorced I was in the middle of a home remodel. The deadlines and demolition really gave me focus and an outlet for frustration. Soon I was craving the need to BUILD and CREATE something.

If you have been considering it now is a good time to get a dog. It's something to nurture and not be self centered or wallow in pity.

Make exercise a daily thing. Sweat for at least 30 minutes and raise your heartrate 6 days a week. Strength and cardio both.

Cancel your TV service. Resist the temptation to binge watch series on streaming channels.

Read books
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Guitar_Whizz

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You need to embrace being alone instead of being afraid of it. A man can accomplish a lot of 5hit when he doesn't have a woman tying him down. When you don't have a live-in GF, you can focus more on projects, hobbies, and bringing multiple girls to your place to fvck.
Yes, exactly what I think! I've lived alone for years and love it. I've made tons of progress on my goals, and as you say, can bring girls over to hook up with when I want. I could never imagine living with a girlfriend or wife, it would be a huge backwards step. I think living alone is the best bet for men who want to achieve a lot in life and pursue multiple women.
 

RickTheToad

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Hi guys.

I'm 26, coming out of 7 yr LTR and about to buy myself an apartment.

Having not lived alone, but planning to live alone for at least 9 years when I hit 35, could you guys share your experiences of living alone. I guess my main conceRn is loneliness (though I am am hardcore introvert who likes his own company).
I always liked living alone too. When I was married, my wife was annoying and I never had much space. The GF is itching to move in, but I kinda dread it as I'd lose my alone time. Once you live alone for over a decade, it may be hard for you to live with someone else. So, prob. only do it for a few years and then reevaluate.
 

BackInTheGame78

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Hi guys.

I'm 26, coming out of 7 yr LTR and about to buy myself an apartment.

Having not lived alone, but planning to live alone for at least 9 years when I hit 35, could you guys share your experiences of living alone. I guess my main conceRn is loneliness (though I am am hardcore introvert who likes his own company).
Just because you are alone doesn't mean you need to be lonely. A lot of it is just a state of mind.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Max Baker

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I lived alone for 6 years and i loved it. Then my ex moved in. Although it was good having some company and sex of course, i found that i lost my sanctuary, freedom and at times sanity. I am more of an independent person.

Fast forward to today, i sold that house, built another one and live in that now alone. I've told my current girlfriend that we won't be moving in together for the foreseeable future. She just built a house as well and agrees. It's a good deal, as it allows me to bring over other chicks too.

So OP enjoy it, you will gain valuable experience from it.
 

redskinsfan92

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Hi guys.

I'm 26, coming out of 7 yr LTR and about to buy myself an apartment.

Having not lived alone, but planning to live alone for at least 9 years when I hit 35, could you guys share your experiences of living alone. I guess my main conceRn is loneliness (though I am am hardcore introvert who likes his own company).
You have no one to blame when something goes missing. Other than that it can be nice. I lived alone for a bit. Lonely? Nah. You just go hangout with friends or family when lonely.
 

manfrombelow

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Just because you are alone doesn't mean you need to be lonely. A lot of it is just a state of mind.
I lived alone for 6 years and i loved it. Then my ex moved in. Although it was good having some company and sex of course, i found that i lost my sanctuary, freedom and at times sanity.
Believe me bro, I know damn well what you mean by "sanity". I have been there as well.
 
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