You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
People always have the choice to make good decisions for themselves but often times don't. That's not life being unfair that is not being able to make good decisions.If she had had this epiphany when she was in the "better half" of her twenties she wouldn't be crying online about how unfair life is.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
People don't change, until what they've been doing doesn't work for them anymore, or they're in enough pain to redirect themselves.If she had had this epiphany when she was in the "better half" of her twenties she wouldn't be crying online about how unfair life is.
Mate, cut the pic. Misc detectives.Girl I know posted this today. She’s lucky she looks a lot younger than she is but still catching up to her.
Rsd Tyler is a G. He made a free tour analogy on pickup and this phenomenon. He described it as a frog in boiling water. Like, a guy getting ktfo or just wrecked, hits bottom, he is going to integrate feedback. Women get NONE. Society champions abortions, murdering babies, divorce, girl boss, and egg freezing. Tyler describes the hero's journey of a series of L's before the W. Men are on the burner. We get red pills. The frog on slow simmer just GETS TORCHED ON THE BURNER. The wall is undefeated. It compounded at a exponential rate. Gone baby gone is SMv.This is what I see....
-A 35-39 year old woman
-Likely childless
-Likely career oriented
-Likely a pet owner
-20+ years of failed interactions and relationships
-Likely an excessive presence on swipe apps during the last 5-7 years
Fairly typical of this era. A lot of older Millennials (1982-1987 births) are falling into this classification.
I still believe the wall is softer than we think. She will generate a lot of interest and be ok with getting shorter to medium term relationships.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Back mate, you hit it nail on.Women at that age realize there were a few guys they left because they thought they had a bigger better deal but then realized they didn't and wished they had stayed with them and that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
These guys move on to find better women usually and the women who leave end up wishing they could have a do over like this woman probably does.
So since monkey branching works for women it's very unlikely that they change before they hit the wall.People don't change, until what they've been doing doesn't work for them anymore, or they're in enough pain to redirect themselves.
This is exactly what happened.What are the odds that she has turned down a lot of nice, decent looking men, all in hopes of locking down someone who is out of her league?
...... before I turn into an angry woman who has a chip on her shoulder toward men and drives them all away.The carousel has grown boring, I am deep deep in debt, and my looks are fading. My options are fading.
This is one last pitiful plea for a white knight to come save me.,
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
that's it exactly-a guy could game this if he didn't mind being dishonest to her face to get a lay or two.The carousel has grown boring, I am deep deep in debt, and my looks are fading. My options are fading.
This is one last pitiful plea for a white knight to come save me.,
Women have it easy until they're 30 and then they become invisible.Girl I know posted this today. She’s lucky she looks a lot younger than she is but still catching up to her.
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In the sport of golf, we talk short game being the time we putt on the green and the long game as the time we make good, drives across the fairway.Back mate, you hit it nail on.
Its a long game. Women play the short game poorly. Fellas play long game bad. For starter's women crater SMV and seek to play house afterwards. Man rarely learns game and goes through the fire. Checks out there somewhere under any level of game after a girl off the carousel comes.
In retrospect, a breakup, seeing your oneittus single mommy, seeing where the women end up, its the best things yo inspire man to step up.
Jack Napier and Aaron Clarey had a great podcast that just wrecked the egg freezing left over women to be coming. I am enjoying the decline. Catch and release.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.