Did I freak my secretary out?

[TheGambino]

She said she was ill to avoid being alone with you.

Hmm if that’s true, that will result in her quitting this job, period. If that’s the case, she’s going to tell me she found something new in the upcoming weeks. Well see...

 

[EyeBRollin]

Hmm if that’s true, that will result in her quitting this job, period. If that’s the case, she’s going to tell me she found something new in the upcoming weeks. Well see...

Stop immediately. This girl does not want you. You should care more about what’s left of your professional reputation.

 

[TheGambino]

Stop immediately. This girl does not want you. You should care more about what’s left of your professional reputation.

why do you think that? after everything you read. I really appreciate it if you give the arguments..

 

[evansblue]

It's hard for me to comment on what you should do going forward, because I don't really know the situation. But from my experience, if you're unsure if a girl is interested, she probably isn't. It doesn't help that you seem very indecisive about how to handle it. That's a recipe for two people who probably aren't going to be dating anytime soon.

I've never once seen these type of threads go from this to "Turns out we started dating, banging every other night, etc."

Again, I don't fully know the situation, but it's your responsibility to understand the situation and act accordingly.

 

[TheGambino]

It's hard for me to comment on what you should do going forward, because I don't really know the situation. But from my experience, if you're unsure if a girl is interested, she probably isn't. It doesn't help that you seem very indecisive about how to handle it. That's a recipe for two people who probably aren't going to be dating anytime soon.

I've never once seen these type of threads go from this to "Turns out we started dating, banging every other night, etc."

Again, I don't fully know the situation, but it's your responsibility to understand the situation and act accordingly.

could you read my previous threads? I made a couple regarding her.

 

[Asseater]

It sounds like you don't actually want help or the truth, you just want us to tell you what you want to hear. No point in helping someone who won't help themselves.

 

[TheGambino]

It sounds like you don't actually want help or the truth, you just want us to tell you what you want to hear. No point in helping someone who won't help themselves.

I will listen to the advice in this thread.This forum is important to me since it helped me so much in developing myself. Cant fool myself, i see you guys as the truth.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I will listen to the advice in this thread.This forum is important to me since it helped me so much in developing myself. Cant fool myself, i see you guys as the truth.

The truth saves us alot of times and allow us to invest properly in worthy endeavors. The game is real simple these days with the removal of "slut shaming". They WILL fvck the guy they really like. She will make it known.

 

[evansblue]

I read the previous threads. Holy cow. I don't even know where to start.

A "date" was eating sushi at work while she talked about her ex being the guy for her, and how strong her feeling were for him, while this guy apologized to her dad for cheating. Then she was glad the clubs were closed so he couldn't talk to more girls. And this was before she went out to a Halloween party?

I'm not even sure how you managed to get yourself in that situation. Then during this interaction you were wondering if she was DTF?? I'm not trying to be mean man, but I don't even know what to say.

The only explanation I have is deep down you know she isn't interested, and are playing it safe to avoid rejection.

 

[TheGambino]

I read the previous threads. Holy cow. I don't even know where to start.

A "date" was eating sushi at work while she talked about her ex being the guy for her, and how strong her feeling were for him, while this guy apologized to her dad for cheating. Then she was glad the clubs were closed so he couldn't talk to more girls. And this was before she went out to a Halloween party?

I'm not even sure how you managed to get yourself in that situation. Then during this interaction you were wondering if she was DTF?? I'm not trying to be mean man, but I don't even know what to say.

The only explanation I have is deep down you know she isn't interested, and are playing it safe to avoid rejection.

I know but why does she ask me what I’m doing every evening and when I’m off ? Why does she ask me if there are girls around ? Why does she hold eye contact for 30/40 seconds flirting fvcking with eyes for weeks.. Why does she ask me about my dating life and if I’m religious and all that when we were together, more personal questions. She broke up with that guy her ex, she told my colleague two weeks ago but didn’t tell me about it.

 

[Asseater]

I know but why does she ask me what I’m doing every evening and when I’m off ? Why does she ask me if there are girls around ? Why does she hold eye contact for 30/40 seconds flirting fvcking with eyes for weeks.. Why does she ask me about my dating life and if I’m religious and all that when we were together, more personal questions. She broke up with that guy her ex, she told my colleague two weeks ago but didn’t tell me about it.

I love playing games like this with my plates. Keeping their head spinning, making them have no clue what I'm up to or what I'm gonna do next. She is doing that with you, and you are a willing participant.

 

[TheProspect]

I know but why does she ask me what I’m doing every evening and when I’m off ? Why does she ask me if there are girls around ? Why does she hold eye contact for 30/40 seconds flirting fvcking with eyes for weeks.. Why does she ask me about my dating life and if I’m religious and all that when we were together, more personal questions. She broke up with that guy her ex, she told my colleague two weeks ago but didn’t tell me about it.

Sounds like this one chick is really getting your hamster spinning isn’t she.

 

[evansblue]

I know but why does she ask me what I’m doing every evening and when I’m off ? Why does she ask me if there are girls around ? Why does she hold eye contact for 30/40 seconds flirting fvcking with eyes for weeks.. Why does she ask me about my dating life and if I’m religious and all that when we were together, more personal questions. She broke up with that guy her ex, she told my colleague two weeks ago but didn’t tell me about it.

Okay. If it's so obvious she's interested, why aren't you guys dating?

 

[TheGambino]

I dont know because she's my fvcking employe, thats why I didn't make a harsh move yet like '' lets go for drinsk at my place'' and be done with it. Bro I think your right, deep down she is not interested enough, maybe a little only. I dont know man.

 

[TheGambino]

Okay. If it's so obvious she's interested, why aren't you guys dating?

Obviousley, you also think she's not interested. Yes or no? I really going to follow everyones opinion.

 

[metalwater]

I dont know because she's my fvcking employe, thats why I didn't make a harsh move yet like '' lets go for drinsk at my place'' and be done with it. Bro I think your right, deep down she is not interested enough, maybe a little only. I dont know man.

maybe she is also worried about being an employee. will the boss fire me after he is done with me...

usually, the girl that likes boy will make it easy and clear. if the boy doesn't get it at first, she will make it more simple until he rejects her. if it feels confusing, she is not making it clear enough. just don't reject her and let her make it more clear.

 

[evansblue]

I dont know because she's my fvcking employe, thats why I didn't make a harsh move yet like '' lets go for drinsk at my place'' and be done with it. Bro I think your right, deep down she is not interested enough, maybe a little only. I dont know man.

Why would you invite her over to your place?? You guys aren't even dating, lol. What are you thinking? You aren't dealing with a drunk chick from the club. Your social awareness seems to be lacking, man.

 

[TheGambino]

Why would you invite her over to your place?? You guys aren't even dating, lol. What are you thinking? You aren't dealing with a drunk chick from the club. Your social awareness seems to be lacking, man.

because Its either escalate to cex with her or next her. Even though she’s my secretary I feel atttracted to her and I’m willing to take risks, that’s it. If she tells me she’s not interested I’ll next it and if she can’t work for me anymore that’s fine also. If she is dtf great. But I can’t leave it like this right now. I’m not sure if she’s freaked out by me hitting on her or if its all legit what she said. I have to find out, that’s it man

 

[evansblue]

So she's only interested if she gives you sex immediately? Again, I think you're trying to protect yourself from rejection by being overly aggressive and pushing her further away than she is now.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I know but why does she ask me what I’m doing every evening and when I’m off ? Why does she ask me if there are girls around ? Why does she hold eye contact for 30/40 seconds flirting fvcking with eyes for weeks.. Why does she ask me about my dating life and if I’m religious and all that when we were together, more personal questions. She broke up with that guy her ex, she told my colleague two weeks ago but didn’t tell me about it.

Ever see a cat play with a mouse? They do it because it's fun and entertaining for them.

And because you allow them to.

And because they know you are going to do exactly what you are doing now...