How to move from first date to girlfriend

[Dam44]

I went on a date with this girl today and I think it went well.

She got there earlier than planned and it made me seem late. She started by complimenting my looks

It lasted about 2 hours. We talked and laughed. There was this and we seemed compatible. A bit of body contact and touches.

And I think I like her enough.

So what's the best way to turn her into a girlfriend? Go on another date?

 

[Billtx49]

So what's the best way to turn her into a girlfriend? Go on another date?

Thats usually the way it works. Go on enough dates together until she decides she really likes you, then she instantly becomes your girlfriend.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I went on a date with this girl today and I think it went well.

She got there earlier than planned and it made me seem late. She started by complimenting my looks

It lasted about 2 hours. We talked and laughed. There was this and we seemed compatible. A bit of body contact and touches.

And I think I like her enough.

So what's the best way to turn her into a girlfriend? Go on another date?

You shouldn't be worrying about how to do this. That is HER job to worry about relationships. It's your job to create opportunities for spending time together, having fun and sex to happen.

Honestly the best thing you could do at this point is to set up a date with another woman before seeing her again. You seem like you have oneitis already.

 

[derby1]

remember OP you must indirectly qualify women, and not just them qualify you. Your commitment should be a challenge, if you give it her within 4 meets it is worth nothing

 

[Dam44]

You shouldn't be worrying about how to do this. That is HER job to worry about relationships. It's your job to create opportunities for spending time together, having fun and sex to happen.

Honestly the best thing you could do at this point is to set up a date with another woman before seeing her again. You seem like you have oneitis already.

Lol, I don't have oneitis at all. Thanks I'll go another date

 

[Dam44]

remember OP you must indirectly qualify women, and not just them qualify you. Your commitment should be a challenge, if you give it her within 4 meets it is worth nothing

I don't think I understand the bolded.

But I get it now, go on more dates

 

[Billtx49]

Lol, I don't have oneitis at all. Thanks I'll go another date

Yea, just don’t rush asking her out too soon. Give her some time to think about you first.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Same advice as with your other post

"
Glad to read that things turned out well.

One word of advice: take things slow.

This being your first and all, there might be a tendency to daydream and overthink future expected outcomes. Actually, this is normal. The drawback is that things will usually not measure up to our expectations (sometimes it will exceed, but in the end, it usually leads to disappointment).

As to the advice of taking things slow... if you get caught up in a moment, you risk the problem of prematurely advancing things. It's a lot easier to gradually and eventually take a small step forward... than it is to impulsively take two steps forward ... and then attempt to take one step back. "

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Lol, I don't have oneitis at all. Thanks I'll go another date

If you are already worrying about how to make a girl your girlfriend after 1 date this is the definition of oneitis.

 

[derby1]

I don't think I understand the bolded.

most men approach the dating scene like beggars, they dont even realise their doing it.

they are eternally grateful that some mediocre 5/10 gifted them with her time.

instead you must ask questions , passions, hobbies interests....did she get on with her dad etc etc...

you do this over a couple of months, her true colours wont show till then

 

[Dam44]

Yea, just don’t rush asking her out too soon. Give her some time to think about you first.

Alright, thanks

 

[Dam44]

most men approach the dating scene like beggars, they dont even realise their doing it.

they are eternally grateful that some mediocre 5/10 gifted them with her time.

instead you must ask questions , passions, hobbies interests....did she get on with her dad etc etc...

you do this over a couple of months, her true colours wont show till then

This makes so much sense, thanks

 

[Dam44]

Noted!

Same advice as with your other post

"
Glad to read that things turned out well.

One word of advice: take things slow.

This being your first and all, there might be a tendency to daydream and overthink future expected outcomes. Actually, this is normal. The drawback is that things will usually not measure up to our expectations (sometimes it will exceed, but in the end, it usually leads to disappointment).

As to the advice of taking things slow... if you get caught up in a moment, you risk the problem of prematurely advancing things. It's a lot easier to gradually and eventually take a small step forward... than it is to impulsively take two steps forward ... and then attempt to take one step back. "

 

[Dam44]

If you are already worrying about how to make a girl your girlfriend after 1 date this is the definition of oneitis.

If I didn't like her, I wouldn't have asked her at all. I'm quite sure it's not oneitis

 

[Glassguy]

So what's the best way to turn her into a girlfriend?

Why would you want to do that?

What are you missing in your life?

*Someone asking where you are every hour
*Someone asking "who is she?"
*Someone griping at you when they have a bad day
*Not being able to go out with someone else that catches your eye?
*Lonely because you have no purpose that you are on in terms of career goals you are pressing to achieve?
*Lack of friends?
*A non existent abundance mindset because you arent approaching enough women and going on more dates?


Relax dude. It was one date. Keep it slow and simple in terms of "labels" and escalate sexually. After a few months let her come up with the relationship idea. If you are the one to orchestrate the "relationship", it will never end well.

 

[Glassguy]

See her once or twice a week and go get busy the rest of the time doing something YOU like doing.

 

[Rainman4707]

OP is excited because he got on well with with a woman, first date went well.

Advice is correct you have received.
Even though you think things went well, you have to be prepared in case she isnt interested. It can easily happen.

Its only a first date. Bad idea to be thinking like that after only ONE date.

She will try harder if she thinks she has competition.

 

[Billtx49]

Make sure her puzzy dont stink first man.

Yep, unfortunately at that age some girls can be referred to as little Suzie rotten crotch…

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Most of the time, I’ve found, women are pretty aggressive about being the GF. My previous GF, literally grabbed my phone & posted our relationship on social media. You’ll know when she wants to make it ‘official ‘.

 

[Dam44]

Why would you want to do that?

What are you missing in your life?

*Someone asking where you are every hour
*Someone asking "who is she?"
*Someone griping at you when they have a bad day
*Not being able to go out with someone else that catches your eye?
*Lonely because you have no purpose that you are on in terms of career goals you are pressing to achieve?
*Lack of friends?
*A non existent abundance mindset because you arent approaching enough women and going on more dates?


Relax dude. It was one date. Keep it slow and simple in terms of "labels" and escalate sexually. After a few months let her come up with the relationship idea. If you are the one to orchestrate the "relationship", it will never end well.

See her once or twice a week and go get busy the rest of the time doing something YOU like doing.

This is good advice. Thanks