"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I saw the ad and I reckon I'm a good candidate. Just ignore all of the stuff I've always done.

I am kind of curious about the vetting process, though. And what incentives are there? Why do you assh0les makes this place respectable?

Hats off to y'all, by the way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I saw the ad and I reckon I'm a good candidate. Just ignore all of the stuff I've always done.

I am kind of curious about the vetting process, though. And what incentives are there? Why do you assh0les makes this place respectable?

Hats off to y'all, by the way.
They do an admirable job. Seriously.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I saw the ad and I reckon I'm a good candidate. Just ignore all of the stuff I've always done.

I am kind of curious about the vetting process, though. And what incentives are there? Why do you assh0les makes this place respectable?

Hats off to y'all, by the way.
they mention the word 'volunteer' in the ad
Not sure if that negates 'incentives' you're curious about.
Last sentence in ad reads "Thanks in advance to all who volunteer"
If I had a year membership in and there was regular deposits to my paypal account I would consider it;)
 
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they mention the word 'volunteer' in the ad
Not sure if that negates 'incentives' you're curious about.
Last sentence in ad reads "Thanks in advance to all who volunteer"
If I had a year membership in and there was regular deposits to my paypal account I would consider it;)
You would be the first diversity hire!
 
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aha ha, oh yeah. That's crazy.

Pandemic human nature.

There's decisions being made that would never occur in pre-pandemic times.
Don't get your hopes up, miss. I would vote against you lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't get your hopes up, miss. I would vote against you lol
so would I.....I'm probably not even at 10%improvement at becoming more feminine and eliminating my red flags and improving my personality...never mind the fact that I decided NOT to date/pursue puzzy after all....Lmao.
I'm just so grateful there's some masculine men left in the world who get it.

I experience a little relief each time I read here on sosuave.
 

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I hope those who are interested apply. It’s a fun gig and you can manage your own time you spend on it with your other happenings in life. Overall we have a good community of regulars on here so it’s not as difficult as you may think. Worst part is having to permanently ban someone who has been here for a long time after giving them chance after chance after chance. But when we do that it’s a team decision we make together. We take banning people very seriously believe it or not.
 
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I hope those who are interested apply. It’s a fun gig and you can manage your own time you spend on it with your other happenings in life. Overall we have a good community of regulars on here so it’s not as difficult as you may think. Worst part is having to permanently ban someone who has been here for a long time after giving them chance after chance after chance. But when we do that it’s a team decision we make together. We take banning people very seriously believe it or not.
I don't envy you. We've lost some good ones over the years
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so would I.....I'm probably not even at 10%improvement at becoming more feminine and eliminating my red flags and improving my personality...never mind the fact that I decided NOT to date/pursue puzzy after all....Lmao.
I'm just so grateful there's some masculine men left in the world who get it.

I experience a little relief each time I read here on sosuave.
Atta girl
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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