"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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IDGAF mindset starting to take hold...and already seeing results

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Woman cancels first date due to car being in the shop and a part not being there so I tell her to go pick up the car and then drop it off tomorrow.

She says its too far and its really loud and embarrassing to drive and begs to reschedule. Normally i would have said yeah that's cool but instead I tell her I will consider her offer and will get back to her.

She has been blowing up my phone texting...sent 7 messages in a row saying she is free every day next week and she really wants to meet. Then sending a text that if she doesn't hear back she wishes me good luck. Then a text asking to please give her a chance...

Another girl I just saw Saturday for the first time and got a serious handjob/******* from texts me that she is canning salsa at her job and I respond "sounds gay" and she gets mad and then I tell her to cut the drama or lose my number it was a joke and she has been apologizing profusely and asking when she can see me again....

Honestly holding the power is kind of fun...I think I need to just focus on this more and bring out this side of me more. How the hell does this work so well?? It's like I am giving them crack or something and they want more.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Woman cancels first date due to car being in the shop and a part not being there so I tell her to go pick up the car and then drop it off tomorrow.

She says its too far and its really loud and embarrassing to drive and begs to reschedule. Normally i would have said yeah that's cool but instead I tell her I will consider her offer and will get back to her.

She has been blowing up my phone texting...sent 7 messages in a row saying she is free every day next week and she really wants to meet. Then sending a text that if she doesn't hear back she wishes me good luck. Then a text asking to please give her a chance...

Another girl I just saw Saturday for the first time and got a serious handjob/******* from texts me that she is canning salsa at her job and I respond "sounds gay" and she gets mad and then I tell her to cut the drama or lose my number it was a joke and she has been apologizing profusely and asking when she can see me again....

Honestly holding the power is kind of fun...I think I need to just focus on this more and bring out this side of me more. How the hell does this work so well?? It's like I am giving them crack or something and they want more.
This is great and I love reading stuff like this. You know why it works well, never leave this frame.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good to hear man.
Nothing wrong here but next after Sounds Gay let her throw fit. The rest of what you said wasn't needed. Lol threatening to next is not a next.

After she throws her fit. As her "you done now bratt"?
Will incorporate this better...this is an area I still struggle with sometimes...too aggressive and not playful enough
 

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The “sounds gay” re her making salsa wasn’t what I would have said but it obviously worked in your favor because of how you played it overall. Nice work!
 

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The “sounds gay” re her making salsa wasn’t what I would have said but it obviously worked in your favor because of how you played it overall. Nice work!
Yeah the gay salsa comment is not exactly my style either.. when I read that, I cringed a little bit.. but it seems to have worked.

My only advice here is to remember to keep the ****y-ness balanced with your kito and sexual escalation. If you're just dissing her without making a move, then you just look like an *******. So make sure she still knows you find her sexy by kissing her, touching her, and fvcking her. Not saying you are making this mistake, just a friendly reminder, plus a tip for any newbies reading the thread.

Good luck.
 

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Yeah the gay salsa comment is not exactly my style either.. when I read that, I cringed a little bit.. but it seems to have worked.

My only advice here is to remember to keep the ****y-ness balanced with your kito and sexual escalation. If you're just dissing her without making a move, then you just look like an *******. So make sure she still knows you find her sexy by kissing her, touching her, and fvcking her. Not saying you are making this mistake, just a friendly reminder, plus a tip for any newbies reading the thread.

Good luck.
Yes, very important. This all makes perfect sense
 

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This is the definition of masculine frame. It doesn't always keep a girl keen though if she's got other options (all girls always have other options).

I used to have car and movie posters on my bedroom ceiling. The theme was black, white & red. Some of those posters were fresh out the tube from several decades before and worth triple digits.

Anyway, I was on the bed eating out a girl I knew from work and between Hmming & Ahhing she said, looking up "your posters are kinda scary". I smirked at her, said "shut the fûck up" and shoved my dîck in her mouth quite roughly.

No complaints from her in the moment, but that was the last time we met. She got with another guy a few days later without telling me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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