"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I DUMPED HER...

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So I made a thread a bit ago about a girl I was seeing who brought up a old fling or whatever. Anyways been dating for like 5 months things seemed to be going good. Now I get a funny feeling something ain't right. I can't explain it just a gut feeling that something is wrong. Cause up until that point I had no worries or doubts. Anyways she was bitching about something asked her what was wrong and she freaked out on me over nothing. Tried asking what was up and it blew up into something stupid so I just said you know what!? This isn't working out for me anymore and walked out. Now prior to my anger she blew me off the last 3 times I asked for a simple hangout and tries to turn everything around on me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mrgoodstuff

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So I made a thread a bit ago about a girl I was seeing who brought up a old fling or whatever. Anyways been dating for like 5 months things seemed to be going good. Now I get a funny feeling something ain't right. I can't explain it just a gut feeling that something is wrong. Cause up until that point I had no worries or doubts. Anyways she was bitching about something asked her what was wrong and she freaked out on me over nothing. Tried asking what was up and it blew up into something stupid so I just said you know what!? This isn't working out for me anymore and walked out. Now prior to my anger she blew me off the last 3 times I asked for a simple hangout and tries to turn everything around on me.
Was it tonite? How recent? How does your energy feel?
 

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It was earlier this afternoon. Honestly I feel a little better. But kinda bummed cause of this situation. Maybe I over reacted but what the fvck ever. I dont have those bad feelings now
 
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So I made a thread a bit ago about a girl I was seeing who brought up a old fling or whatever. Anyways been dating for like 5 months things seemed to be going good. Now I get a funny feeling something ain't right. I can't explain it just a gut feeling that something is wrong. Cause up until that point I had no worries or doubts. Anyways she was bitching about something asked her what was wrong and she freaked out on me over nothing. Tried asking what was up and it blew up into something stupid so I just said you know what!? This isn't working out for me anymore and walked out. Now prior to my anger she blew me off the last 3 times I asked for a simple hangout and tries to turn everything around on me.
Atta boy
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sounds like she was sh1t testing you because she's weighing her options.

You could pass the sh1t test, but will that make you a winner?
 

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It was earlier this afternoon. Honestly I feel a little better. But kinda bummed cause of this situation. Maybe I over reacted but what the fvck ever. I dont have those bad feelings now
I had a gf for three months that was using me. Always asking for help. And being resistant to doing stuff for me. So she ended up hittimg me. I said "thatll be the last time you hit me. I know you can't believe it but its done" Drove her home dropped her off and never looked back. Felt like a million bucks ten minutes later. Because before i got with her i was feeling great. She did her slow succubus thing on me. And the energy came right back when i removed her.
 
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Also, just so you know, by walking away you played your strongest hand. Gotta stand by it or get fvcked by it. If you reach out to her now, you lose.
 

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you did the right thing, good man.

There are quality women out there who will reveal themselves in the course of time. Keep respecting yourself and good things will happen. Talking about ex flings and creating drama for the sake of drama, ya, let the next chump deal with that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So I made a thread a bit ago about a girl I was seeing who brought up a old fling or whatever. Anyways been dating for like 5 months things seemed to be going good. Now I get a funny feeling something ain't right. I can't explain it just a gut feeling that something is wrong. Cause up until that point I had no worries or doubts. Anyways she was bitching about something asked her what was wrong and she freaked out on me over nothing. Tried asking what was up and it blew up into something stupid so I just said you know what!? This isn't working out for me anymore and walked out. Now prior to my anger she blew me off the last 3 times I asked for a simple hangout and tries to turn everything around on me.
Always go with gut instinct my friend
 

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It was earlier this afternoon. Honestly I feel a little better. But kinda bummed cause of this situation. Maybe I over reacted but what the fvck ever. I dont have those bad feelings now
You did not over react. She blew you off 3 times the flips out for no reason. There is no excuse for that behaviour. None.

Even if she isnt cheating or thinking of going back to the ex or whatever, you did the right thing. You didnt reward bad behaviour. Dumping her was the best way to handle this.

Head high brother. Next
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You stuck your guns and maintained your frame as a human being. Next.
 

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Update, I feel like an idiot but lessened learned.. she basically begged me back and because at one point the sex was good and generally had fun I thought I'd give it a shot. Then she stars acting more indifferent from when I broke things off and after making a comet she says she confused thinks were better off friends lol. I said that's fine no hard feelings i appreciate your honesty I will back off
NO CONTACT for her. See what happens when your a nice guy
 

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Update, I feel like an idiot but lessened learned.. she basically begged me back and because at one point the sex was good and generally had fun I thought I'd give it a shot. Then she stars acting more indifferent from when I broke things off and after making a comet she says she confused thinks were better off friends lol. I said that's fine no hard feelings i appreciate your honesty I will back off
NO CONTACT for her. See what happens when your a nice guy
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