You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I know nothing about your trip but it sounds like your flying somewhere to meet a chick ? I personally would never pay for a flight to go hang out with a female. That being said, It wouldn’t be a **** move to bolt early if it sucks. My buddy once flew to Tennessee to hang out with some girl he met on one of our guys trips. He spent a week there and they pretty much stayed in, watched movies, and ate delivery food... he got nothing and said it was horrible. He should have been gone the first night.
Have you lost your mind? The definition of desperate dudes do desperate things right here.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Huh? Wtf? 2 years?????????
That was the plan.....You better give her one of these when you first see her.
Seriously set the stage for a romp in the hay. And follow through. You have had enough time to prepare her. I'd have a hotel room set where you know you won't be disturbed. No meeting the parents or the friends. Once you leave the airport it is straight to the hotel room.
Yeah I have to hand it to the OP for sticking it out for 2 years. I don't know any gal that wouldn't have already friendzoned a guy even after a couple months of just talking and no meeting.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yup. That's what normally happens in these situations when you are talking long distance with someone for a long time. They are in love with the idea of you not actually you. If you met in person it would ruin it for them so they'd rather keep the memory of you in their mind than the real you.
Dude. Get some options. FF sake.
Lesson learned.
